Teenage Chat - Help Required

[Lord Bracknell]

I tend to avoid the Facebook pages of my offspring - but I did discover the other day that the Teaboy has qualified for the European Triathlon Championships in Holland.

... unless that is another example of iffy yoof-speak that means something mysterious that we grey folk aren't supposed to understand.

 

[Stoo82]

I tend to avoid the Facebook pages of my offspring - but I did discover the other day that the Teaboy has qualified for the European Triathlon Championships in Holland.

... unless that is another example of iffy yoof-speak that means something mysterious that we grey folk aren't supposed to understand.

mmmmmm, sounds iffy to me!

 

[NF9]

BINFEST NUMBER 25908 OF THE SUMMER...Its gonna be a long one

 

[Easy 10]

I tend to avoid the Facebook pages of my offspring - but I did discover the other day that the Teaboy has qualified for the European Triathlon Championships in Holland.

... unless that is another example of iffy yoof-speak that means something mysterious that we grey folk aren't supposed to understand.

Thats code, Lord B.
It means there is a group felching party this Saturday in Little Preston Street. Bring your own yoghurt.

 

[seagullsovergrimsby]

mmmmmm, sounds iffy to me!

sounds like he has been perfecting his teabagging technique.

 

[NF9]

That is another thing I think is unfair. Why did he post it on here? Why not talk about it with the child's mother and the Google it if he was o concerned. Not post in on an internet forum.

I Totally agree with you, when your youngish you dont want your parents knowing your every move and to be honest If someone done this to me I would be f***ing furious, its like your wife checking your texts its just not on is it.....

 

[Old Greg]

I am saying this from someone who is the same age as his son (16), if I found out my dad was looking at my facebook page to see where I was and what I was doing I would lose a lot of trust and respect for him.

I'm 18 and it wouldn't bother me in the slightest, he made the decision to post that thing on a public medium, anyone can read it and I know that my parents would like at mine, doesn't bother me, why would you be so upset? what are you ashamed of?

 

[Box of Frogs]

That is another thing I think is unfair. Why did he post it on here? Why not talk about it with the child's mother and the Google it if he was o concerned. Not post in on an internet forum.

I guess he is seeking advice from a broad section (ok not that broad) of public opinion to find out (a) what the word meant and (b) whether he should be worried that his son was doing said word, before talking to his son about it.

 

[NF9]

I'm 18 and it wouldn't bother me in the slightest, he made the decision to post that thing on a public medium, anyone can read it and I know that my parents would like at mine, doesn't bother me, why would you be so upset? what are you ashamed of?

Nothing to be ashamed of, its just the fact that his parents to be checking his facebook or whatever means they obviously don't trust him which isn't nice
The better thing to do would be to ask what he has been up to and not go behind his back.

 

[Bozza]

I Totally agree with you, when your youngish you dont want your parents knowing your every move and to be honest If someone done this to me I would be f***ing furious

That's utter bollocks in this particular situation.

If Beach Hut had logged onto Facebook as his son, perhaps using a stored password then you'd be quite correct - bang out of order. However it sounds as though Beach Hut is his son's Facebook "friend" or the son's profile is completely open to anyone viewing it.

 

[Walkers Cajun Squirrel]

I'm 18 and it wouldn't bother me in the slightest, he made the decision to post that thing on a public medium, anyone can read it and I know that my parents would like at mine, doesn't bother me, why would you be so upset? what are you ashamed of?

It is not the fact they know if is the fact that they spied on me without talking to me. I don't care if it was about what I had for dinner, who I have had sex with or how many illegal things I have done recently. They shouldn't be spying on me.

 

[NF9]

That's utter bollocks in this particular situation.

If Beach Hut had logged onto Facebook as his son, perhaps using a stored password then you'd be quite correct - bang out of order. However it sounds as though Beach Hut is his son's Facebook "friend" or the son's profile is completely open to anyone viewing it.

What's the big difference between Logging into the account / Pretending to be someone else and viewing his profile?
Or does his son know that its him, if so I have no problem as if he didnt want him to know anything then he shouldn't of accepted his request.

 

[clapham_gull]

It is not the fact they know if is the fact that they spied on me without talking to me. I don't care if it was about what I had for dinner, who I have had sex with or how many illegal things I have done recently. They shouldn't be spying on me.

It's not ok for parents to be (as you put it) "spying" on their children, if they are doing something illegal ?

How's that work then.

 

[Stoo82]

What's the big difference between Logging into the account / Pretending to be someone else and viewing his profile?
Or does his son know that its him, if so I have no problem as if he didnt want him to know anything then he shouldn't of accepted his request.

The difference being that if i knew Beach Huts sons name and was freinds with him, i could see what was writen on his profile. I imagine that Beach Hut is on facebook and is freinds with him. I know im freinds with other members of my family, including my parents.

Also, i may not even know him, and if his profile was 'open' then anyone in the world could view it.

 

[Walkers Cajun Squirrel]

This 'anyone can view it' thing is bollocks. If Beach Hut went onto facebook with the sole intention of seeing what his son was doing then it is wrong.

 

[clapham_gull]

This 'anyone can view it' thing is bollocks. If Beach Hut went onto facebook with the sole intention of seeing what his son was doing then it is wrong.

On a social networking site....

To kids these days know where the virtual world ends and the real world starts?

 

[NF9]

This 'anyone can view it' thing is bollocks. If Beach Hut went onto facebook with the sole intention of seeing what his son was doing then it is wrong.

I Agree, Going about it that way is wrong whether your friends on there or not, why not just be upfront and ask him straight because you will lose his trust by going behind his back
In my mind being honest is the best policy.

 

[Old Greg]

It is not the fact they know if is the fact that they spied on me without talking to me. I don't care if it was about what I had for dinner, who I have had sex with or how many illegal things I have done recently. They shouldn't be spying on me.

But it's not spying, surely? Anyone can read it, just because they are close to him doesn't give them less rights to read it, if you want to keep it private don't talk about it on a public medium where he knows his dad can see, if i had a son i would want to know what he is doing, as he is my responsibillity, and he doesn't always know whats best for him in the long run, and as a dad your supposed to be there.

 

[Ernest]

When Beach Hut was a teenager he was butching me

 

[Hiney]

i don't have facebook so no idea how it works, but don't you have to be his friend to see what he writes on his page? so surely he knows you are on facebook and if he didn't want you to see the word butchin he would delete it off there? ask him and see what he says.

i agree with those who have said my house, my rules sort of posts above. it is a shame that so many children have grown up in this 'entitled' generation where they think they are incharge and responsible from the second they can talk. walkers cajun squirrel we were all sixteen once, but until my kids are earning their own money and supporting themselves they are answerable to me and if i want to know where they are, who they are with, what they are doing and when they are coming home i will. if that loses me their respect then boo hoo. maybe when they have kids they'll change their mind. if more parents acted like beachy we wouldn't have the chantelle stedmans of the world.

i have no idea what butchin is, mind.

Absolutely agree

I agree. But talking to him is better than spying on his facebook page.

If my dad asks me where I am, going to be I will tell him the truth. If he calls me when I am out with mates and where I am I will tell him.

It's not 'spying' though is it? It's looking out for your loved ones and trying to pre-empt any grief.

Maybe I'm being a naive old bastard but isn't Facebook like some kind of public noticeboard that pretty much ayone can look at?