What to do

[Uncle Spielberg]

If your girlfriend say she thinks your " Sweet " its over FACT.

 

[Uncle Spielberg]

Probably shagged a dozen blokes while away

I wouldn't go that far but if I had been seeing someone for 4 weeks and went away for 3 weeks and they had driven 250 miles to the Airport to meet me on my return I would be mortified and would probably call it off there and then. It smacks of " Stalker Alert ".

 

[Elder for England]

Call me a cynic but I think 90% of Women would disagree with you.

Cynic.

 

[Elder for England]

I wouldn't go that far but if I had been seeing someone for 4 weeks and went away for 3 weeks and they had driven 250 miles to the Airport to meet me on my return I would be mortified and would probably call it off there and then. It smacks of " Stalker Alert ".

I do take your point, but as I said in my earlier post (I think you missed it) was, perhaps it's because I'm looking at it from a perspective of being in a relationship for two years. But then with this case although it has been 1 month, they have known each other for 3 years.

 

[Juan Albion]

Texting her to ask is the obvious answer. If she says yes, you can go fully confident that she will be happy to see you. If she says no, then she will probably feel bad about putting you off (a little guilt on her part is a good thing for you) - but she will know that you care so much that you were prepared to travel all that way (and she'll also think you considerate to ask). Win-win situation.

If she's arriving at 8am, though, don't expect her to be too capable of being excited to see you. Sounds like it is probably a long distance flight, and if so she will be feeling tired, dirty and unattractive, and women don't like being seen like that.

 

[John Dorian]

Thanks Juan Albion and Elder.

 

[Uncle Spielberg]

No thanks to me for saving your skin , you just can't help some people

 

[NMH]

Send her a limo to the airport, with a flask of tea and some choclits.

 

[Uncle Spielberg]

Send her a limo to the airport, with a flask of tea and some choclits.

Now that is classy. What NMH does not know about pulling Women is not worth knowing.

 

[NMH]

If your girlfriend say she thinks your " Sweet " its over FACT.

Word.

 

[NMH]

Now that is classy. What NMH does not know about pulling Women is not worth knowing.

Crikey!
(wonders if US is taking the pith) why thanks US, you are SWEET

 

[Uncle Spielberg]

You antics are legendary and the idea of the Limo is a touch of class much better than driving up there.

 

[stss30]

Can't you just phone or text and find out how she is getting home... if she says she is getting home with her parents.. then dont bother... might ruin the suprise slightly but at least you'll know in advance whether all that money spent getting up there was well spent

 

[Adam Virgo's Shirt]

Personally I don't think it matters how long you've been together. What matters is the strength of the relationship. In some relationships, after 3 weeks you already know you want to be together forever. In others, you've barely had a couple of dates.

Only you know how strong yours is. If my boyfriend did this I would think it was lovely. It's the sort of thing he would do anyway. However, other relationships I've had where we are only casual at 3 weeks, I would think it too much.

The whole 'needy' thing only comes into play when you're not really that keen on the person you are with. What can feel like needy behaviour with one person feels natural and fantastic when you meet the right one.

In your case, I would probably book a nice hotel near where she lives for a couple of days. Go to the airport, and text her and tell her you are there, that you've booked a nice hotel and want to spoil her for a couple of days as you've missed her. Stay a bit incognito so if she doesn't want everyone knowing you are there you are not obvious. If necessary she can go home and meet you at the hotel later.

If she reacts badly to this and thinks it is overwhelming, then sorry to say she isn't your 'Miss Right'

 

[John Dorian]

Belated thanks to US....sorry pal !!

and i'm going for the whole text thing, and see how it goes from there.

 

[SNOOBS]

Infact do it coz I'm quite interested to what will happen now!

 

[Lady Whistledown]

Do it.

Don't let the unromantic, bitter old gits on here put you off!

What's the worst that could happen? She might be a bit put off, in which case it might be that the relationship isn't right anyway, but that doesn't seem likely given what you've said.

More likely, she will be chuffed to bits that you've made the effort (we like to see a bit of effort, no matter what the cynics on here think), she'll think you're the greatest and...well...I'll leave you to take it from there.

 

[SULLY COULDNT SHOOT]

Thanks Juan Albion and Elder.

suggested texting her two pages ago. Juan nicks my idea and gets the praise.

 

[Uncle Spielberg]

Do it.

Don't let the unromantic, bitter old gits on here put you off!

What's the worst that could happen? She might be a bit put off, in which case it might be that the relationship isn't right anyway, but that doesn't seem likely given what you've said.

More likely, she will be chuffed to bits that you've made the effort (we like to see a bit of effort, no matter what the cynics on here think), she'll think you're the greatest and...well...I'll leave you to take it from there.

I think your wrong. She has probably been up all night, had no sleep, had a long flight, its 8am in the morning, she is tired, grubby, looking not at her best. She probably wants to just get home , have a bath and get some kip. Its too in your face and could backfire. Its an unnecessary gamble.

 

[essbee]

I completely agree with Uncle Spillbeer...

Don't do it.........