What to do

[John Dorian]

f*** sake !! why is NSC always so divided...I told you NSC usually helps me sort out my problems, this however has left me even more undecided.

 

[Nibble]

Be a man. Leave her to settle in on her own. Women don't like men following them around like poorly puppies. What she says is sweet at the beginning is eventually what will f*** it up.

Also, say you do this and it goes well. How do you top it next time she goes away? Will you be there every time she flies in, the gestures will have to get bigger and bigger. Start small my friend.

 

[mr sheen]

Are you f***ing her or just courting her? This will impact on my vote. Which could be the decider

 

[eastlondonseagull]

Do you trust her? Could she have had a fling while she was out there?

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[Brighton Breezy]

f*** sake !! why is NSC always so divided...I told you NSC usually helps me sort out my problems, this however has left me even more undecided.

But the poll says twice as many people are saying DON'T go...

 

[Les Biehn]

She's only after a green card so she can escape her scouse slum.

 

[essbee]

I wouldn't do it mate (even though I don't know you or her or the full situation).

Every thing that I have done like that in the past has backfired badly on me and
it is the worst feeling in the world.

But then I am an ugly get!

 

[Elder for England]

f*** sake !! why is NSC always so divided...I told you NSC usually helps me sort out my problems, this however has left me even more undecided.

You want to go don't you?

 

[Fred Oliver - Legend]

have you given her one yet? whats she like in bed? swallow?

 

[John Dorian]

Yes, Yes I do Elder, more than anything, I miss her like crazy but I can't and don't want to lose her over a silly stunt like this if its viewed as too pushy.

And Fred Oliver the answers to your questions are yes, amazing and yes.

 

[Elder for England]

Yes, Yes I do Elder, more than anything, I miss her like crazy but I can't and don't want to lose her over a silly stunt like this if its viewed as too pushy.

And Fred Oliver the answers to your questions are yes, amazing and yes.

Like I said, it all depends on her, because personally for me (that's all I can tell you for sure) it would be a lovely surprise, but obviously you know her well.

 

[One True BHA]

Yes, Yes I do Elder, more than anything, I miss her like crazy but I can't and don't want to lose her over a silly stunt like this if its viewed as too pushy.

And Fred Oliver the answers to your questions are yes, amazing and yes.

stop being such a girl and either do it, or don't. bloody hell.

 

[Uncle Spielberg]

It obviously depends on the type of person she is, do you think she will consider this a romantic and sweet gesture or slightly full-on? It's only been a month, although you say you were friends for 3 years which means you do know what each other is like.

I would say to go as it's a sweet idea, the only thing is like you said, rushing into her telling her family. So in fact I've been no help at all..

Being a cynic now after years of crushing dissapointments I am pretty sure most women nowadays especiaily 20-40 somethings do not like Men to be romantic, they do not like them show emotions and they most certainly do not like Men who appears to be " needy " or " I missed you so much on holiday I have driven all the way to meet you ".

It seems to me that the better you treat a Woman they worse she will treat you back. The harsh facts are most Women prefer complete and utter bastards who treat them like dirt. Why this is, God only knows but I am fairly sure of it.

What you need to do is wait for her to call you and tell her what a great time you had with your mates whilst she was away and if she asks " did you miss me ", hesitate and say , sort of.

That is the way for her to be very keen on you.

 

[sir albion]

I don't know why, but whenever I have a slight dilemma that I need to address or sort out, I 9 times out of 10 resort to asking the population of NSC and the wise minds in here about what to do before I screw things up royally....

Basically, I've been in a relationship with a girl (cue sarcastic congratulations...) from Liverpool for just over a month. I've known her as friends for about three years and we got together once her last relationship ended. As you can imagine with work and stuff, it's a long distance thing however, she has yet to tell her family that me and her are an item...

She went on holiday for 3 weeks the other day, and flies back in the first week of October. I've got some holiday time around that and I'm goina be knocking around so thought it would be nice (and possibly a little romantic) to be up at the airport when she lands and comes through baggage control to meet her....possibly with a bunch of flowers (although lets not go overboard !!)

I don't want to f*** it up though and seem over-the-top or rush her into telling her family, as she means a lot to me and f***ing anything up is not at the top of the agenda....

Open to the floor, any suggestions (particularly from the lady-folk-of-NSC is thankfully recieved !!) before I screw things up...

Ta Muchly !! x

sounds like your a bit on the side and very gullible hence the reason you ask nsc

 

[Elder for England]

Being a cynic now after years of crushing dissapointments I am pretty sure most women nowadays especiaily 20-40 somethings do not like Men to be romantic, they do not like them show emotions and they most certainly do not like Men who appears to be " needy " or " I missed you so much on holiday I have driven all the way to meet you ".

It seems to me that the better you treat a Woman they worse she will treat you back. The harsh facts are most Women prefer complete and utter bastards who treat them like dirt. Why this is, God only knows but I am fairly sure of it.

What you need to do is wait for her to call you and tell her what a great time you had with your mates whilst she was away and if she asks " did you miss me ", hesitate and say , sort of.

That is the way for her to be very keen on you.

Well I can't speak for anyone else, but that's certainly not the case for me.

 

[Uncle Spielberg]

Be honest with yourself. A guy you have been romantic with for a month drives hundreds of miles with flowers to meet you at the airport. You would run for the hills as quick as you could. Sorry to be harsh but most women would think " what a loser ".

 

[Elder for England]

In my response it was to:

-women do not like Men to be romantic
-women do not like them show emotions
-It seems to me that the better you treat a Woman they worse she will treat you back
-The harsh facts are most Women prefer complete and utter bastards who treat them like dirt

With regards to looking needy perhaps it's because I'm looking at it from a perspective of being in a relationship for two years. (But then with this case although it has been 1 month, they have known each other for 3 years)

 

[Uncle Spielberg]

Be a man. Leave her to settle in on her own. Women don't like men following them around like poorly puppies. What she says is sweet at the beginning is eventually what will f*** it up.

Also, say you do this and it goes well. How do you top it next time she goes away? Will you be there every time she flies in, the gestures will have to get bigger and bigger. Start small my friend.

Nibble is absolutely right.

 

[Uncle Spielberg]

In my response it was to:

-women do not like Men to be romantic
-women do not like them show emotions
-It seems to me that the better you treat a Woman they worse she will treat you back
-The harsh facts are most Women prefer complete and utter bastards who treat them like dirt

Call me a cynic but I think 90% of Women would disagree with you.

 

[sir albion]

Be honest with yourself. A guy you have been romantic with for a month drives hundreds of miles with flowers to meet you at the airport. You would run for the hills as quick as you could. Sorry to be harsh but most women would think " what a loser ".

Probably shagged a dozen blokes while away