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[Misc] Rule breakers









portslade seagull

Well-known member
Jul 19, 2003
17,949
portslade
Does anybody else find those who like to bend/break the rules stressful? I've started to realise this year that I've felt a constant low level of stress due to others who don't stick to rules, especially when it impinges on my life. In particular with Covid, I feel as though I've spent the past 7-8 months in a constant battle with family/friends who will quite innocently suggest that we do something (e.g. pop over, go out for a meal etc) when the rules at that time explicitly state that it's not allowed. You're then put in that situation of either politely reminding them that's not within the rules (and you're always left looking like the bad guy, the party-pooper) or creating other reasons to avoid the awkwardness of having to tell them for the 5th time.

Before this year, I used to find it stressful when I'd try and stick to the speed limit and would be critiqued by others for doing so.

I do say this in the full knowledge that I probably break rules on a weekly basis, so I am most likely a hypocrite. But nevertheless, why can't people just at least make an effort to stick to the rules? We'd all be happy then, wouldn't we? :angel: :moo:

And they are the ones who moan when the government has to reimpose the lockdowns
 




Motogull

Todd Warrior
Sep 16, 2005
10,481
Maybe my Tourette's is softening? Not once yesterday did I gob off to all those tossers that are incapable of putting their face covering over their noses.
 






timbha

Well-known member
Jul 5, 2003
10,508
Sussex
Or throw it up a ****ing tree!!! We've got trees in our part of Kent that look like they are growing droopy black fruits.

Sometimes people are just mental and selfish. They hang the full poo bag on a branch on the pretence of picking it up on the way back and putting it in a bin. I have never seen anyone actually do this.
 


Shropshire Seagull

Well-known member
Nov 5, 2004
8,788
Telford
I went to pick up a takeaway curry from our local [popular] curry house.

I was cross, bordering on angry that [in a tight-spaced] reception / bar area, neither the bloke in front nor the woman behind were wearing a mask.
I'm not a confrontationist so didn't say anything to either of them, but WHY to people think they are EXEMPT from the RULES?
 




Green Cross Code Man

Wunt be druv
Mar 30, 2006
20,748
Eastbourne
I went to pick up a takeaway curry from our local [popular] curry house.

I was cross, bordering on angry that [in a tight-spaced] reception / bar area, neither the bloke in front nor the woman behind were wearing a mask.
I'm not a confrontationist so didn't say anything to either of them, but WHY to people think they are EXEMPT from the RULES?
Perhaps they are exempt? Loads of people don't have to wear masks.
 








Super Steve Earle

Well-known member
Feb 23, 2009
8,929
North of Brighton
I don't like the rule breakers.
I don't understand why vulnerable people who are too sick to wear a mask, are allowed to put their own lives at risk and others too by - not wearing a mask!
Biggest bugbear is people who ignore a clear rule and justify it by saying it's a grey area.
 




GT49er

Well-known member
NSC Patron
Feb 1, 2009
49,186
Gloucester
Perhaps they are exempt? Loads of people don't have to wear masks.

Huh! Exempt my arse! When the Government rules for exemption include 'If you feel uncomfortable wearing a mask' (not verbatim, but essentially what they say) the whole thing becomes bollox. It should have been a much firmer ruling; if you can't wear a mask, you can't go on public transport or go shopping; end of. Find an alternative.
But an old fashioned socially liberal Tory like Boris and his pals haven't got the backbone to make anything compulsory, with appropriate sanctions for all the little Cummings that believe rues don't apply to them.
This is one area where Boris has well and truly bottled it.
 




Early Doors

Coach
Sep 15, 2003
817
Horsham
Does anybody else find those who like to bend/break the rules stressful? I've started to realise this year that I've felt a constant low level of stress due to others who don't stick to rules, especially when it impinges on my life. In particular with Covid, I feel as though I've spent the past 7-8 months in a constant battle with family/friends who will quite innocently suggest that we do something (e.g. pop over, go out for a meal etc) when the rules at that time explicitly state that it's not allowed. You're then put in that situation of either politely reminding them that's not within the rules (and you're always left looking like the bad guy, the party-pooper) or creating other reasons to avoid the awkwardness of having to tell them for the 5th time.

Before this year, I used to find it stressful when I'd try and stick to the speed limit and would be critiqued by others for doing so.

I do say this in the full knowledge that I probably break rules on a weekly basis, so I am most likely a hypocrite. But nevertheless, why can't people just at least make an effort to stick to the rules? We'd all be happy then, wouldn't we? :angel: :moo:

If we focus on things we can't control (like other people's actions) we spend a lot of time stressed and annoyed.

I used to spend a lot of time pissed off by other people's selfishness (it's certainly not limited to Covid related actions). I've made a conscious effort over the past few months to only focus on what I can control, and I'm a lot calmer as a result.

Every time we jump in a car we're risking our lives because there are people on the roads who drive dangerously and put our lives at risk. We can't control so that, but we can drive with awareness and minimise the risk if we come into contact (hopefully not literally!) with those selfish drivers.

In a similar way we can't control what others do regarding Covid. All we can do is to take the actions that keep us and our loved ones as safe as possible. Yes there are selfish people who possibly put other lives at risk with their actions, but if we get pissed off with them, the only people that suffer as a result are ourselves (increased stress etc) not them.

End of sermon! :lolol:
 


Deleted member 37369

Well-known member
Aug 21, 2018
1,994
If we focus on things we can't control (like other people's actions) we spend a lot of time stressed and annoyed.

I used to spend a lot of time pissed off by other people's selfishness (it's certainly not limited to Covid related actions). I've made a conscious effort over the past few months to only focus on what I can control, and I'm a lot calmer as a result.

Every time we jump in a car we're risking our lives because there are people on the roads who drive dangerously and put our lives at risk. We can't control so that, but we can drive with awareness and minimise the risk if we come into contact (hopefully not literally!) with those selfish drivers.

In a similar way we can't control what others do regarding Covid. All we can do is to take the actions that keep us and our loved ones as safe as possible. Yes there are selfish people who possibly put other lives at risk with their actions, but if we get pissed off with them, the only people that suffer as a result are ourselves (increased stress etc) not them.

End of sermon! :lolol:

I agree 100% with the OP - but also totally get your suggestion of how to deal with it and have tried to follow this myself recently. Not always easy ... but it’s good advice to follow. I used to watch the news a lot on TV - thinking that it was important to be informed on everything going on ... but I used to just continually get angry at what was being reported or how something was being reported ... and in reality, most of it didn’t actually effect me. So I stopped watching ...
 


Napper

Well-known member
Jul 9, 2003
24,452
Sussex
2 categories to me. Covid rule breakers because they can and covid rule breakers because they are thick.

The ones that can often still are safe but just not so anal.

The thick ones cant be helped and there is a lot of them
 


Early Doors

Coach
Sep 15, 2003
817
Horsham
I agree 100% with the OP - but also totally get your suggestion of how to deal with it and have tried to follow this myself recently. Not always easy ... but it’s good advice to follow. I used to watch the news a lot on TV - thinking that it was important to be informed on everything going on ... but I used to just continually get angry at what was being reported or how something was being reported ... and in reality, most of it didn’t actually effect me. So I stopped watching ...

Are you me?! :ohmy: :lolol:I did exactly that with the news too, and like you said most of what we were getting angry about didn't actually affect us!
 




Recidivist

Active member
Apr 28, 2019
287
Worthing
If we focus on things we can't control (like other people's actions) we spend a lot of time stressed and annoyed.

I used to spend a lot of time pissed off by other people's selfishness (it's certainly not limited to Covid related actions). I've made a conscious effort over the past few months to only focus on what I can control, and I'm a lot calmer as a result.

Every time we jump in a car we're risking our lives because there are people on the roads who drive dangerously and put our lives at risk. We can't control so that, but we can drive with awareness and minimise the risk if we come into contact (hopefully not literally!) with those selfish drivers.

In a similar way we can't control what others do regarding Covid. All we can do is to take the actions that keep us and our loved ones as safe as possible. Yes there are selfish people who possibly put other lives at risk with their actions, but if we get pissed off with them, the only people that suffer as a result are ourselves (increased stress etc) not them.

End of sermon! :lolol:

Spot on though it’s important to also recognise that the constant rule changes has made it pretty difficult to be sure what the rules are anyway.

Had a case in point recently when my daughter (a nurse) tested positive. Had to wade through several pages of government guidance to determine whether someone in our support bubble needed to self-isolate too (they didn’t).

On a slightly different note, my wife has a visceral hatred of Trump (not unreasonable!) and makes it plain every time he’s mentioned on the news.

My usual response to her evident anger is to say “calm down, dear; if 50% of Americans are daft enough to vote for him, that’s their business”, which seems to make her even worse!


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