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Not often ,once a week shop ,most done online . Probably would go in a shop 3 times a week and bar the big shop not more than a couple of minutes.You "never really used shops"?
Not often ,once a week shop ,most done online . Probably would go in a shop 3 times a week and bar the big shop not more than a couple of minutes.You "never really used shops"?
Not often ,once a week shop ,most done online . Probably would go in a shop 3 times a week and bar the big shop not more than a couple of minutes.
Does anybody else find those who like to bend/break the rules stressful? I've started to realise this year that I've felt a constant low level of stress due to others who don't stick to rules, especially when it impinges on my life. In particular with Covid, I feel as though I've spent the past 7-8 months in a constant battle with family/friends who will quite innocently suggest that we do something (e.g. pop over, go out for a meal etc) when the rules at that time explicitly state that it's not allowed. You're then put in that situation of either politely reminding them that's not within the rules (and you're always left looking like the bad guy, the party-pooper) or creating other reasons to avoid the awkwardness of having to tell them for the 5th time.
Before this year, I used to find it stressful when I'd try and stick to the speed limit and would be critiqued by others for doing so.
I do say this in the full knowledge that I probably break rules on a weekly basis, so I am most likely a hypocrite. But nevertheless, why can't people just at least make an effort to stick to the rules? We'd all be happy then, wouldn't we?
I was hoping you were the kind of guy completely rejecting society, only eating homegrown potatoes and roadkills.
Or throw it up a ****ing tree!!! We've got trees in our part of Kent that look like they are growing droopy black fruits.
Perhaps they are exempt? Loads of people don't have to wear masks.I went to pick up a takeaway curry from our local [popular] curry house.
I was cross, bordering on angry that [in a tight-spaced] reception / bar area, neither the bloke in front nor the woman behind were wearing a mask.
I'm not a confrontationist so didn't say anything to either of them, but WHY to people think they are EXEMPT from the RULES?
Perhaps they are exempt? Loads of people don't have to wear masks.
Then they can fvck-off outside and wait for their grub out there - not breathing their $hit all over me ....
Why not send a partner or someone else in to a shop - NO, they don't give a monkeys - selfish tvvats
Perhaps they are exempt? Loads of people don't have to wear masks.
Does anybody else find those who like to bend/break the rules stressful? I've started to realise this year that I've felt a constant low level of stress due to others who don't stick to rules, especially when it impinges on my life. In particular with Covid, I feel as though I've spent the past 7-8 months in a constant battle with family/friends who will quite innocently suggest that we do something (e.g. pop over, go out for a meal etc) when the rules at that time explicitly state that it's not allowed. You're then put in that situation of either politely reminding them that's not within the rules (and you're always left looking like the bad guy, the party-pooper) or creating other reasons to avoid the awkwardness of having to tell them for the 5th time.
Before this year, I used to find it stressful when I'd try and stick to the speed limit and would be critiqued by others for doing so.
I do say this in the full knowledge that I probably break rules on a weekly basis, so I am most likely a hypocrite. But nevertheless, why can't people just at least make an effort to stick to the rules? We'd all be happy then, wouldn't we?
If we focus on things we can't control (like other people's actions) we spend a lot of time stressed and annoyed.
I used to spend a lot of time pissed off by other people's selfishness (it's certainly not limited to Covid related actions). I've made a conscious effort over the past few months to only focus on what I can control, and I'm a lot calmer as a result.
Every time we jump in a car we're risking our lives because there are people on the roads who drive dangerously and put our lives at risk. We can't control so that, but we can drive with awareness and minimise the risk if we come into contact (hopefully not literally!) with those selfish drivers.
In a similar way we can't control what others do regarding Covid. All we can do is to take the actions that keep us and our loved ones as safe as possible. Yes there are selfish people who possibly put other lives at risk with their actions, but if we get pissed off with them, the only people that suffer as a result are ourselves (increased stress etc) not them.
End of sermon!
I agree 100% with the OP - but also totally get your suggestion of how to deal with it and have tried to follow this myself recently. Not always easy ... but it’s good advice to follow. I used to watch the news a lot on TV - thinking that it was important to be informed on everything going on ... but I used to just continually get angry at what was being reported or how something was being reported ... and in reality, most of it didn’t actually effect me. So I stopped watching ...
If we focus on things we can't control (like other people's actions) we spend a lot of time stressed and annoyed.
I used to spend a lot of time pissed off by other people's selfishness (it's certainly not limited to Covid related actions). I've made a conscious effort over the past few months to only focus on what I can control, and I'm a lot calmer as a result.
Every time we jump in a car we're risking our lives because there are people on the roads who drive dangerously and put our lives at risk. We can't control so that, but we can drive with awareness and minimise the risk if we come into contact (hopefully not literally!) with those selfish drivers.
In a similar way we can't control what others do regarding Covid. All we can do is to take the actions that keep us and our loved ones as safe as possible. Yes there are selfish people who possibly put other lives at risk with their actions, but if we get pissed off with them, the only people that suffer as a result are ourselves (increased stress etc) not them.
End of sermon!
Are you me?! I did exactly that with the news too, and like you said most of what we were getting angry about didn't actually affect us!