Thunder Bolt
Silly old bat
Good post. I’m 76, and still learning to take each day as it comes. Life can be good, but can also be very painful.
By all means make plans, but learn to enjoy the dull too.
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[Misc] Midlife crisis
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By all means make plans, but learn to enjoy the dull too.
BrightonCottager
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I thought I'd succumb to some of the midlife crisis clichés, but didn't. I'm now thinking of retirement (see other thread) and the places I want to surf and cycle - mainly Britain and Europe - a few walking holidays with MrsBC, and keep doing the environmental campaigning that gives me satisfaction and a sense of purpose. Oh, and keep my Fulham ST, of course.
Often said but I do believe it - Age is just a number. I know people in there 50’s that act old - I know people in their late 70’s that act young.
You can’t do anything about aging but you can if you are fortunate with your health & are financially stable live life to the full & get the maximum out of every day.
You can’t do anything about aging but you can if you are fortunate with your health & are financially stable live life to the full & get the maximum out of every day.
- Sep 3, 2010
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Can relate to all including the drinking too much. It's the one thing I'm still f***ing brilliant at. It's also the one part of my fish nickname which is still accurate.sounds like were in the same predicament.....59 this yr both shoulders rooted , double recon will mean at least 18 months off work which will drag us backwards financially , by the time I'm ready to come back ill be 60 at least having just had major surgery , not a good , employable prospect so for now I am soldiering on in constant discomfort , drinking too much and looking forward to next Christmas when I get 3 weeks off and can go on holiday again and give my body a rest , wishing the weeks away basically which is almost criminal , such is life currently....
I was part of a channel relay squad a few years ago. Now, anything more than 20 lengths in a swimming pool is game over.
Enjoy what you can, when you can. We don't know what's round the corner.
Wrong-Direction
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- Mar 10, 2013
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I'm 36 and do that
I think you've missed the entire point of a mid-life crisis.
So they’re saying that you can’t be happy without religion?
Do people turn to some god as they get older because of a fundamental yearning for answers to what? why? how? etc. An existential need for meaning.
One of the saddest truths on this planet is that we don’t need god or a religion (which are fundamentally in place to control people, women, power, money, sex etc) to inspire wonder, awe and the profound.
Nature and science do that for those who look, and it makes them very happy.
Do people turn to some god as they get older because of a fundamental yearning for answers to what? why? how? etc. An existential need for meaning.
One of the saddest truths on this planet is that we don’t need god or a religion (which are fundamentally in place to control people, women, power, money, sex etc) to inspire wonder, awe and the profound.
Nature and science do that for those who look, and it makes them very happy.
Well i was starting to feel better but in true Hugo style you’ve shoehorned Religion and and that knunt into the the same post
I must be tired of life as im finding the negatives of living in Brighton & Hove are top heavy to the positives!
You need to watch the YouTube post at the end for that better feeling!Well i was starting to feel better but in true Hugo style you’ve shoehorned Religion and and that knunt into the the same post
I couldn’t give you that without taking you a notch or two down first could I?
You could have not bothered in the first placeYou need to watch the YouTube post at the end for that better feeling!
I couldn’t give you that without taking you a notch or two down first could I?
Cordwainer
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- Jul 30, 2023
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I’m mid 50’s and as much as I enjoy my job would love to retire now..sadly it’s not looking likely til mid 2030’s 
. The happiest people I know are far from the most affluent, with the most expensive cars and the largest number of bedrooms..rather those that spend quality time with family and friends, enjoying hobbies and travelling the world making lasting memories. That’s what I’d like to emulate both now and for the rest of my days.
. The happiest people I know are far from the most affluent, with the most expensive cars and the largest number of bedrooms..rather those that spend quality time with family and friends, enjoying hobbies and travelling the world making lasting memories. That’s what I’d like to emulate both now and for the rest of my days.
- Jul 10, 2003
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I'm 64 and have found the years since 50 less stressful, more enjoyable and I think I am now more content than ever.
Luckily I'm still healthy and active, play football and go skiing but I have noticed a significant slowing down over the last couple of years and that is annoying. I retired from a fairly stressful job at 50, but got bored after 18 months so started doing a bit of part time work and some charity bits which I still do, and Mrs Wz is very active in the charity field and finds it far more rewarding than when she was working. Consequently we always have quite a lot to do, although we are both going to cut back further this year to allow us to go away more.
I haven't had the 'need to find a purpose' in life thing, but that's probably because I'm quite a shallow person
A bigger change for us was our kids moving out 10-12 years ago and the freedom and financial benefit that bought (holidays, meals out, shopping etc for 2 adults instead of 4). But they got their own back by both buying properties in the last year with us having to fund the deposits from our pensions
I'm now trying to persuade Mrs Wz to move house, as ours is too big for just the two of us and I fancy a 'project' (maybe not building from scratch but knocking down and rebuilding bits to get exactly what I want). Been looking for the right property/plot for a couple of years now but no luck yet. You do get more aware of mortality, but not in any morbid way, it just makes you focus on what you want to do a little more.
Oh and I bought a classic convertible sports car 10 years ago and still have it, but no tattoos.
Luckily I'm still healthy and active, play football and go skiing but I have noticed a significant slowing down over the last couple of years and that is annoying. I retired from a fairly stressful job at 50, but got bored after 18 months so started doing a bit of part time work and some charity bits which I still do, and Mrs Wz is very active in the charity field and finds it far more rewarding than when she was working. Consequently we always have quite a lot to do, although we are both going to cut back further this year to allow us to go away more.
I haven't had the 'need to find a purpose' in life thing, but that's probably because I'm quite a shallow person
A bigger change for us was our kids moving out 10-12 years ago and the freedom and financial benefit that bought (holidays, meals out, shopping etc for 2 adults instead of 4). But they got their own back by both buying properties in the last year with us having to fund the deposits from our pensions
I'm now trying to persuade Mrs Wz to move house, as ours is too big for just the two of us and I fancy a 'project' (maybe not building from scratch but knocking down and rebuilding bits to get exactly what I want). Been looking for the right property/plot for a couple of years now but no luck yet. You do get more aware of mortality, but not in any morbid way, it just makes you focus on what you want to do a little more.
Oh and I bought a classic convertible sports car 10 years ago and still have it, but no tattoos.
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Deportivo Seagull
I should coco
Mid life crisis …. I couldn’t be arse.
If you can teach the world that, you'll be long remembered
Just remember we are no different to any other thing in the galaxy, we have a life span enjoy it as much as possible.
There is no authority but yourself.
One thing that I do think about though, I am 60 now and 2005 just happened a minute ago as far as I am concerned, in that same 20 years ahead I might be if lucky 80 !
There is no authority but yourself.
One thing that I do think about though, I am 60 now and 2005 just happened a minute ago as far as I am concerned, in that same 20 years ahead I might be if lucky 80 !
Doonhamer7
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- Jun 17, 2016
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I found when the day I hit 50 everything felt closer to the end, I was no different to the day before but just something felt different. I finally made up my mind this week and I’m going to ask to move to a 4 day week from 1st June (I’ll be 56). Having lost a ton of weight I feel more energetic and up to doing things so I’m not wasting my time going forward. Have a huge bucket list of things to do and see And I keep adding to it. I always put of going to things if I was going on my own (Mrs D7 doesn’t have same musical taste!) - now I don’t care I just go on my own. I’m getting a tattoo - hoping to go to Brighton Tattoo festival in a couple of weeks time. Not getting a motorbike but thinking of a convertible.
darkwolf666
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Maybe not totally relevant to this thread, but still an indicator of time and age... and made me smile.
My 90 year old mother in law moved into a new house recently and decided to get new carpets. The man who visited to measure up said "they all come with a 10 year guarantee". Her reply, "shame I don't", made us realise that, in all likelihood the carpets would outlast her!!!
Funny thing age...
My 90 year old mother in law moved into a new house recently and decided to get new carpets. The man who visited to measure up said "they all come with a 10 year guarantee". Her reply, "shame I don't", made us realise that, in all likelihood the carpets would outlast her!!!
Funny thing age...