Female/Male Dumpees

[tedebear]

You've got to get over feeling sorry for yourself to be honest Uncle S., if you pull yourself up, dust yourself on and march on like you are you own best friend and not a care for the other sex, then you've got more chance than looking like you've got baggage you're dragging around with you. Certainly worked for me, I'd started comparing ticket prices on a one way ticket back to Aus. when my luck changed!

 

[Cheshire Cat]

You've got to get over feeling sorry for yourself to be honest Uncle S., if you pull yourself up, dust yourself on and march on like you are you own best friend and not a care for the other sex, then you've got more chance than looking like you've got baggage you're dragging around with you. Certainly worked for me, I'd started comparing ticket prices on a one way ticket back to Aus. when my luck changed!

Exactly... feeling lonely is not a crime, but ongoing self pity isn't very attractive to anyone (especially the one who's feeling it).

It is however much easier to tell some-one to snap out of it than to actually do it, unless and until they actually want to do it.

PS. don't buy ready meals either - they are rubbish. Cook something interesting yourself

 

[Uncle Spielberg]

I don't have the fight left. Anyway I can't imagine any Woman would be interested in a balding middle aged bloke whose career is in tatters and hasn't got a pot to piss in. Hardly a sparkling prospect. A decent career and solvency does matter. Most Women have a checklist of things they demand and I ain't ticking any boxes.

 

[Laughing Gravy]

I don't have the fight left. Anyway I can't imagine any Woman would be interested in a balding middle aged bloke whose career is in tatters and hasn't got a pot to piss in. Hardly a sparkling prospect. A decent career and solvency does matter. Most Women have a checklist of things they demand and I ain't ticking any boxes.

Hello Uncle S

Dont know you mate, but i know what you are going through and your not the only person who is 47 lol.
When i was down and i mean down, it was like being in a big dark tunnel all on my own, it was awful.
There will be a chink of light at the end of your tunnel mate, trust me, it just takes time.
I know you feel like giving up and it is hard, but you have got to keep going. Dont dwell, its the worst thing that you could do. Keep your mind busy and in time the pain will ease

Everything happens for a reason mate.

Keep your chin up

 

[Uncle Spielberg]

Having someone in your life is not the be all and end all but look back at the most memorable moments in your life and I can guarantee they were shared with someone else. It would be nice to admire a beautiful sunset with someone or a great film or a great concert, whatever. I just have just got to accept living life on my Jack but I don't find myself very good company.

 

[Wilko]

Having someone in your life is not the be all and end all but look back at the most memorable moments in your life and I can guarantee they were shared with someone else. It would be nice to admire a beautiful sunset with someone or a great film or a great concert, whatever. I just have just got to accept living life on my Jack but I don't find myself very good company.

Does not have to be a relationship though mate, many of my best memories are of times spent with good friends or family.

 

[Uncle Spielberg]

Hello Uncle S

Dont know you mate, but i know what you are going through and your not the only person who is 47 lol.
When i was down and i mean down, it was like being in a big dark tunnel all on my own, it was awful.
There will be a chink of light at the end of your tunnel mate, trust me, it just takes time.
I know you feel like giving up and it is hard, but you have got to keep going. Dont dwell, its the worst thing that you could do. Keep your mind busy and in time the pain will ease

Everything happens for a reason mate.

Keep your chin up

Thanks.

 

[Lush]

I can't imagine any Woman would be interested in a balding middle aged bloke whose career is in tatters and hasn't got a pot to piss in.

A man who has a positive attitude and an ability to make the most of their lives, whatever hands they get dealt, however, is attractive.

You don't need money to broaden your horizons. Get interesting books or CDs from the library, make things, volunteer somewhere, or study a subject you find interesting. What about joining a film club/forum? There's loads of free stuff to do and life's too short to waste.

 

[Uncle Spielberg]

The facts are Lush that you have to have some substance. Its a harsh World and only the people who have things are appealing. Its also a shallow World and people and yes Women look at a blokes prospects when weighing them up. That means solvency, a decent job, their bank balance, their ability to provide, their looks, their ability to be a father, their future prospects. Anyone that denies that is denying the facts.

 

[Uncle Spielberg]

And I have tried to make the best of the hands I have been dealt but all I have been dealt is 2's for about 2 years.

 

[Chicken Runner61]

Listen US there are a load more people worse off than you.

I have sympathy for you coz I've been there and I know how after a long relationship what a kick in the balls it can be but you have to move on.


If you do move on you might find someone else but if you don't your self prophecy will come true.

I should get down the bookies and go LARGE on you not finding someone else and then go out on the town and see what happens

 

[Uncle Spielberg]

500/1.

 

[Uncle Spielberg]

Elaborating on the first post I think this naills it.

1) Males generally get dumped when not expecting it to the least and they get upset and try to win her back because they chase what they willl never ever get like a donkey chasing an ever illusive carrot

2) Males have pride they can never admit theyve been dumped and keep all the real story to themselves and drink all night and pass out on the couch

3) Males in general, can't deal with the breakup. After being dumped, they never have a B plan so they panic and start chasing women in which most of the cases don't get anything. It is like dribbling in a swamp and sinking deeper and deeper the more you move... They start to loose their self-esteem while their ex's have a real good time with their new boy friend and their reserve players they have in their hands. The chances of a single dumped male finding a girl is less than winning the national lottery because women usually are not interested in single men. Women do not like loosers too. Dumped men look pathetic and in fact yes, they are. It's too late for them. For their ex's they have lost their money, job, life and most of all their high self -esteem.

 

[Chicken Runner61]

US there is a book out there called something like "get your wife/husband back" or summat like that. A lot of people read it when going through a tough separation.

Basically it says, accept it but try and be civil and stay friends, go out, meet new partners go out with them and make sure your ex knows it.

The theory is that they then see you the way they saw you when you first met and realise that you are not the sad loser they just dumped and may want you back to try again.

Even if it fails its good advice because you might actually meet someone else.

On the job front just find another job perhaps something completly different maybe where there are lots of women......

 

[Uncle Spielberg]

US there is a book out there called something like "get your wife/husband back" or summat like that. A lot of people read it when going through a tough separation.

Basically it says, accept it but try and be civil and stay friends, go out, meet new partners go out with them and make sure your ex knows it.

The theory is that they then see you the way they saw you when you first met and realise that you are not the sad loser they just dumped and may want you back to try again.

Even if it fails its good advice because you might actually meet someone else.

On the job front just find another job perhaps something completly different maybe where there are lots of women......

I paid £ 200 on the internet getting these books. Waste of f***ing time.

 

[Uncle Spielberg]

This.

The chances of a single dumped male finding a girl is less than winning the national lottery because women usually are not interested in single men. Women do not like loosers too. Dumped men look pathetic and in fact yes, they are. It's too late for them. For their ex's they have lost their money, job, life and most of all their high self -esteem.

 

[Tight shorts]

US, I hear the same sort of stuff about not meeting anyone from a single friend of mine. She is intelligent, attractive but been through some difficult times relationship and career wise. For every guy out there having a struggle there is a girl. Life is full of imperfections. The girl you want to meet will like you for yourself not your bank balance.

 

[8ace]

This.

The chances of a single dumped male finding a girl is less than winning the national lottery because women usually are not interested in single men. Women do not like loosers too. Dumped men look pathetic and in fact yes, they are. It's too late for them. For their ex's they have lost their money, job, life and most of all their high self -esteem.

It's a funny thing confidence - I can never understand how you get it back.

 

[Uncle Spielberg]

My confidence and self esteem is at rock bottom. I feel like a worthless piece of shit tbh.

 

[8ace]

I've been there - not nice at all mate.