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[The Clamp]

I was thinking thighs/general body shape in the dress myself. Tits didn't even cross my mind.

See how this works?

Morning!
Morning! I like your dress.
Oh, uhm, thank you, i suppose.
Yes, I really like the way it makes your thighs look. And by that I mean ( mimes an hourglass figure with hands) your general body shape.



Yeah, AS, you got this

 

[bWize]

Morning!
Morning! I like your dress.
Oh, uhm, thank you, i suppose.
Yes, I really like the way it makes your thighs look. And by that I mean ( mimes an hourglass figure with hands) your general body shape.



Yeah, AS, you got this

Except you have taken everything out of context to try and suit an agenda. You are boring. Have a good afternoon!

 

[surlyseagull]

Agree totally its best to not say anything and just go through life treating every woman the same as every man ….ask them what barbers they go too and who does their beard and that their ass does actually look fkin huge in that dress .
But of course if your female co-workers said that you had a nice suit or shirt or you were nice looking that would be fine.

 

[The Clamp]

Except you have taken everything out of context to try and suit an agenda. You are boring. Have a good afternoon!

Your words mate. You've been owned. Take it as an education. Yes, goodbye. Enjoy your flounce.

Who was it in The Office, big fat lad who ate the scotch egg? That's you right?

 

[Thunder Bolt]

A lot depends on context and on the flip side there are lots of women who loved being praised on their appearance.

As my Dad used to say, there's a time and a place. Strangers in the street, public transport and in the workplace is not the place.

Praise women on their appearance in a bar, at a party, a nightclub, casino, etc.

 

[bWize]

Your words mate. You've been owned. Take it as an education. Yes, goodbye. Enjoy your flounce.

Who was it in The Office, big fat lad who ate the scotch egg? That's you right?

Oh dear, you really are quite a specimen. Sad little person.

 

[Thunder Bolt]

Oh dear, you really are quite a specimen. Sad little person.

When your posts descend into personal abuse, you have lost the plot.

 

[Goldstone1976]

What about if both parties are fine with it, should it still not be allowed? I've worked in places were both sexes have a laugh about similar stuff. It's not as black and white as you are painting it out to be.

Then, of course that's fine. In the case in question though, one of the parties was not ok with it.

 

[surlyseagull]

Sadly it still exists in the workplace. A friend of mine is an HR Director and one of the women at her workplace complained when one of her male colleagues said "That's a great dress, it really shows off your curves.". My friend dealt with it but next board meeting, where all the directors except my friend are male, she was questioned why she upheld the complaint as all it was really was a 'compliment'. This was coming from the CEO. She did no more than asked the CEO to stand up, looked him up and down, and said to him "I love those trousers. They really show the shape of your dick". Strangely no more was said as the CEO sat down feeling very uncomfortable.

With attitudes like that at the very top of the workplace what hope is there ?

Showing of your curves and shape of your dick is not a great example of a duplicate remark imo

 

[LlcoolJ]

It isn't. That would also be inappropriate.

Personally it would make me very uncomfortable to be presented with evidence that one of the middle aged porkers I work with, was looking at me in such a way *shudder*

Exactly, it's all about context. If you worked with a load of Jennifer Aniston/Kylie type middle aged birds then you'd LOVE the compliment. "Please! Think of me as whatever you want!!!! In fact just notice that I exist!!!". [emoji23]

This reminds me of my favourite story ever. My soon to be wife was working for a recruitment firm in the city centre. As per in that industry she was one of many attractive 20s/30s women in the office and one Friday afternoon one of them said "Look! Look at this bloke...".

They all went to the window and were drooling over this tall blonde guy in a black suit and sunglasses who was walking past. "Ooh look at his arse" "I'd do him" "Get me his number" and other such sexist objectification.

My Mrs laughed and said "Actually, that's my fiance".

She said she should never have told me, but as she did I basked in the glory of it for ages. You've gotta take any ego boost you can get when they're so few and far between.... [emoji25]

 

[Arthur]

How did you meet your husband?

He was in a white van shouting lewd comments at me. We hit it off straight away!

Said no-one ever.

Not true. I have a friend who met her husband pretty much exactly like that.

 

[Thunder Bolt]

Showing of your curves and shape of your dick is not a great example of a duplicate remark imo

But a great demonstration of making a man feel as uncomfortable as women sometimes feel. The HR director was being questioned as to why they held up a complaint, so demonstrating the point was instructive to the other males.

 

[The Clamp]

Any man who had been raised in the correct fashion should know he must wait for the office christmas party to harass the women at work. Manners innit.

 

[Goldstone1976]

Exactly, it's all about context. If you worked with a load of Jennifer Aniston/Kylie type middle aged birds then you'd LOVE the compliment. "Please! Think of me as whatever you want!!!! In fact just notice that I exist!!!". [emoji23]

This reminds me of my favourite story ever. My soon to be wife was working for a recruitment firm in the city centre. As per in that industry she was one of many attractive 20s/30s women in the office and one Friday afternoon one of them said "Look! Look at this bloke...".

They all went to the window and were drooling over this tall blonde guy in a black suit and sunglasses who was walking past. "Ooh look at his arse" "I'd do him" "Get me his number" and other such sexist objectification.

My Mrs laughed and said "Actually, that's my fiance".

She said she should never have told me, but as she did I basked in the glory of it for ages. You've gotta take any ego boost you can get when they're so few and far between.... [emoji25]

And you believed her? Bless.

Mind you, the fact she was prepared to stroke your ego like that means she's a keeper.

 

[LlcoolJ]

And you believed her? Bless.

Mind you, the fact she was prepared to stroke your ego like that means she's a keeper.

Ha ha! If only you knew my Mrs. Ego massaging is not her, hence why she said she wished she hadn't told me. [emoji23]

 

[DavidinSouthampton]

Male employee goes to HR and complains that a female colleague is making him feel uncomfortable and embarrassed, because her tight dress is blatantly sexual and unsuitable for the workplace.
How is a poor fellow meant to concentrate on the Laffer curve and figures on his spreadsheet when instead, he is really thinking about said female colleague and images of female curves and bedsheets are coming into his mind?

Then HR/management go to said female employee and ask her to dress more appropriately for the workplace...…… perfectly sensible and straightforward.

 

[surlyseagull]

But a great demonstration of making a man feel as uncomfortable as women sometimes feel. The HR director was being questioned as to why they held up a complaint, so demonstrating the point was instructive to the other males.

Using lewd language was not an example of what was said beforehand so pretty unprofessional by the HR imo , the point of the meeting surely was to discuss what happened between two co workers not to make the other males feel instructed and guilty over something they had no hand in or would have.
I would have been extremely angry and upset if I was in that meeting and comments like that were aired for mine and other males benefit so as we could be educated for future reference. So I will agree to disagree

 

[Goldstone1976]

Ha ha! If only you knew my Mrs. Ego massaging is not her, hence why she said she wished she hadn't told me. [emoji23]

 

[BLOCK F]

It isn't. That would also be inappropriate.

Personally it would make me very uncomfortable to be presented with evidence that one of the middle aged porkers I work with, was looking at me in such a way *shudder*

Blimey, what a delicate flower you must be!

 

[BLOCK F]

Then HR/management go to said female employee and ask her to dress more appropriately for the workplace...…… perfectly sensible and straightforward.

Mine was meant to be a light-hearted comment, David.

Good job 'busty barmaids' weren't quite so sensitive in their workplace, back in the day!