Is it PotG?
Thrifty non-licker
Sorry but it doesn't. If you recommend a particular course of action to others, then your unique circumstances and 'solution' are generally irrelevant to others.
Of course you are right that no one benefits from 'wallowing in self pity' - but maybe some are just more beaten down by circumstances beyond their control than you are.
For them your advice might seem a little patronising and certainly unhelpful... including your choice of language.
Does that help you?
Not really, no.