Would you get married again?

[Triggaaar]

Yes & re-marry

 

[BensGrandad]

Have been married 47 years and if I had my life over again I would marry the same person. If anything happened to her I wouldn't marry again because nobody could fill her shoes but I would expect them to so it wouldn't be fair on them.

 

[Perfidious Albion]

Since she will never read this board ...

NO WAY ! and no wish to marry again......

 

[banjo]

Been married 21 years and wouldn't change a thing. No I wouldn't get remarried.

 

[Pbseagull]

Would consider marrying the ex wife again, but not sure if I could be bothered to dig up the Patio

 

[wehatepalace]

Yep, been married 12 years on Saturday love her to bits and would re-marry her at the drop of a hat, would I marry someone else if anything happened to her ? No, I'd always compare them together and quite honestly no one else could get close !

 

[supaseagull]

I don't think anyone has said this.

Absolutely not and if NWgull re-reads what I have said, it says that its that extra bit of commitment and security that some, not all mind you, but some want.

Marriage isn't for everyone, I have good friends who are married and good friends who prefer not to go down that route. But neither should be frowned upon...it's peoples personal preferences and choice.

I've been married for 18 years, happy for 90% of it, the other 10% is where I piss my wife off for spending too much time on football!

Would we be together still if we were single? I don't know but what I do know is that we have a union blessed in a church and we have made a vow to be faithful and loyal to each other in front of a room full of witnesses. That certainly means something to me and I know it means something to my wife.

 

[pasty]

Out of interest, and slightly o/t, how do people here in a long term relationship, but not married refer to their other half? At 48 I'm too old to have a "girlfriend" and without wanting to get into trouble for saying it, the word "partner" normally makes people think of a same-sex relationship.

 

[Drebin]

As a non-married person I am intrigued to know what marriage gives you that a strong relationship/kids/mortgage/pet dog etc does not? Please note I am asking with genuine interest.

The same surname! And in my case a living permit.

 

[downham seagull]

Yes to the first question and Yes to the 2nd, love my wife dearly and we have been together for 12 years. If anything happened to either of us we would want the other to be a happy and get on with life. Long time dead!

 

[nwgull]

The same surname! And in my case a living permit.

You can change your surname to you partner's name without being married.

 

[Saint Lennard]

I am going through a long drawn out divorce. If I'dve known what a deceitful, poisonous creature she was I would have never got married 27 years ago. At the time I thought she was the dogs doodas but now I have a relationship with someone who is the most wonderful person I have met. We are made for each other and I am able to look back at the negatives and realise we are so compatible. Now I know what real love is rather than a farce to fit in with what is expected by society. We are on a completely different level than before and she knows me better than someone who was by my side for over half my life. She has made me realise I was with the wrong person and why. I am overwhelmed by her love and honesty. She makes my life simple. Despite the shit chucked at us, the lies that have been told about us and being left with f*** all I am so happy with her because she accepts me, my baggage and the fact that We have to start all over......plus she loves the Albion home and away, ups and downs. And yes I would marry her, why not?

 

[nwgull]

Absolutely not and if NWgull re-reads what I have said, it says that its that extra bit of commitment and security that some, not all mind you, but some want.

I know loads of people, myself included, for whom that extra 'commitment' meant absolutely nothing when it came to the crunch. Although I can't complain as my life turned around massively (in a positive way) in all aspects after splitting with my ex 8 years ago.

It sounds like you have a good relationship (and your wife probably likes that you do man stuff like football without her) and I wish you luck that it stays that way.

I knew people would dislike my assertion that non-religious marriage is pointless!

 

[LamieRobertson]

I know loads of people, myself included, for whom that extra 'commitment' meant absolutely nothing when it came to the crunch. Although I can't complain as my life turned around massively (in a positive way) in all aspects after splitting with my ex 8 years ago.

It sounds like you have a good relationship (and your wife probably likes that you do man stuff like football without her) and I wish you luck that it stays that way.

I knew people would dislike my assertion that non-religious marriage is pointless!

Its not really a question of whether they like it or not anyway is it...its what suits them best..they have to do what they feel is right and therefore your opinion doesn't come into it (said with a smile)

 

[pasty]

The same surname! And in my case a living permit.

You can change your surname to you partner's name without being married.

Or like me you could end up with a woman who by coincidence has the same surname anyway. Although it does cause quite a lot of confusion whenever we are doing anything official explaining that no, she is not a Mrs, but a Ms even though we share a surname.

 

[PHCgull]

Been with my Mrs over half my life (im early 40s) yet we're not married. Got 2 amazing kids.
Originally, I couldnt be arsed to pay for an organised row between her family and mine.
Now,i dont have a clue whether to marry her or let sleeping dogs lie...

FASCINATING thread...

 

[PHCgull]

Out of interest, and slightly o/t, how do people here in a long term relationship, but not married refer to their other half? At 48 I'm too old to have a "girlfriend" and without wanting to get into trouble for saying it, the word "partner" normally makes people think of a same-sex relationship.

If Im speaking to anyone under 35 i call her my girlfriend. over that I lie and say she's my wife.

Edit:ive been told she does roughly the same

 

[Drebin]

Or like me you could end up with a woman who by coincidence has the same surname anyway. Although it does cause quite a lot of confusion whenever we are doing anything official explaining that no, she is not a Mrs, but a Ms even though we share a surname.

Precisely! It stops you looking like a brother and sister checking into a hotel for a romantic weekend when you're a mr and mrs (not suggesting there's amything untoward about your relationship with your lady, pasty.)

 

[HovaGirl]

This is the standard answer, but it's not valid in my opinion. Getting legally married is not a commitment; the law doesn't stop you cheating on you partner any more than your own morality should do. It also doesn't stop you splitting up as divorce is fairly straightforward - I've been there.

I'm sure that it is far more healthy for kids to live with a single parent than in the same house as 2 parents who despise each other and are probably both having open affairs but staying together for the sake of the kids.

I reckon most marriages are due to the woman wanting a fairytale wedding where she can be a princess for the day (and a bridezilla for the 2-3 months prior to it).

It is more difficult to split up or separate once married than if only living together. ("They" have done studies on this.) There's something about marriage which makes you try that little bit harder, stay that little bit longer. Once divorced, "they" have also discovered that it is men who suffer more than the women from such a separation and are more prone to regretting the divorce.

I agree that modern marriages are all about the Princess, the venue, the dress, the right look, and nothing about love or the future. Almost always doomed to fail, because it is marriage for the wrong reasons. Among those couples, it is the marriage which is seen as "the end", a "result". When it is actually, "the beginning" of shared lives.

My parents stayed together "for the sake of the children", and I'm so very glad they did, and grateful to them for it. (As it happens, they should never have divorced in the first place. They remained in love until Dad proclaimed his love for her on his deathbed. Mum now has dementia, and is in love with my Dad all over again. Broke her heart, last week, when I reminded her he was dead. She'd forgotten that, and wanted to visit him.) Why did they divorce in the 1970s after 25 years? Boredom, probably. Women's lib. And a glamorous blonde at the office. A joint fit of pique and anger which resulted in many years' loneliness and regret.

 

[HovaGirl]

I have all this with my girlfriend. Marriage in a registry office wouldn't augment any of that stuff in any way whatsoever.

People don't like me when I give my honest views on this subject as it explodes the myth that being married to someone somehow makes them love you more and less likely to cheat on you.

It may be your honest view, but it seems to me, that in all the couples I have known who have lived together, proclaiming that marriage was not for them, the truth was that marriage was not right for that relationship. That is, they hadn't met THE ONE, yet.