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Would you get married again?
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nwgull
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This is the standard answer, but it's not valid in my opinion. Getting legally married is not a commitment; the law doesn't stop you cheating on you partner any more than your own morality should do. It also doesn't stop you splitting up as divorce is fairly straightforward - I've been there.
I'm sure that it is far more healthy for kids to live with a single parent than in the same house as 2 parents who despise each other and are probably both having open affairs but staying together for the sake of the kids.
I reckon most marriages are due to the woman wanting a fairytale wedding where she can be a princess for the day (and a bridezilla for the 2-3 months prior to it).
SULLY COULDNT SHOOT
Loyal2Family+Albion!
Most definately THIS
Titus
Come on!
NO, no, no, no, no. Stay single guys.
SULLY COULDNT SHOOT
Loyal2Family+Albion!
I cannot believe you have been married then.
Before getting married I thought like you but when you are married the weight of that responsibility just makes you want to go the extra mile plus socially it is much harder to vreak up. Add kids to the mix and the ties are much stronger. At some stage in your life you need to draw a line in the sand and marriage is one of those times.
my father said to me, literally at the altar as the music started, 'don't worry son, for some people the second time for some people is the right time but do what you have to do'......by time I realised what he meant, I was married. Oddly first and only advice he has ever given me on emotional matters and whilst it would have been nice to have received it perhaps a bit earlier, on reflection years later he was absolutely spot on and was trying to make sure I never lost hope. I never regret getting married as had more good times than bad but made me realise don't ever take second best in life and if even have the slightest doubt, better to take a hard decision and deal with that even if painful then take the easier one and regret it afterwards. I'd definitely get married again but am more than happy to wait as long as it takes until someone I really want to be with comes along!....until then the my labrador will do for company and keeping me sane!
nwgull
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Having kids in itself is the biggest commitment, and you don't need to be married. Hence there's no point in marriage other than religion.
Dave the OAP
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After 31 years this year and 5 years before we got married, I couldn't imagine life without mrs DTG. I would marry her at the drop of a hat...I can honestly say I have ever been happier and in our case, it gets better every day.
Would I marry again...I am not really sure. I hope I never really get the choice if you get my drift.
supaseagull
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Other than for religious purposes, People also marry for love, companionship, financial and emotional stability.
Everyone is different and the above doesn't mean to say that non married couples wont have that but I guess that marriage makes the relationship more formal and provides each partner with a long term commitment.
Everyone is different and the above doesn't mean to say that non married couples wont have that but I guess that marriage makes the relationship more formal and provides each partner with a long term commitment.
nwgull
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I have all this with my girlfriend. Marriage in a registry office wouldn't augment any of that stuff in any way whatsoever.
People don't like me when I give my honest views on this subject as it explodes the myth that being married to someone somehow makes them love you more and less likely to cheat on you.
Dave the OAP
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That is a bit of a scinical attitude if I may say. I have no problem with people not getting married, each to his/ her own. but the flip side of your argument is you should accept that getting married suits a hell of a lot of the population.
nwgull
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It's a realistic and thoughtful attitude; just because it's negative doesn't make me cynical.
Getting married suits people who do it for religious reasons - valid reason - and those who want big fancy wedding days.
I don't think anyone has said this.
Dave the OAP
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Realistic and thoughtful? Blimey. Well done you.
Hypocritically, we got married in a church...didn't have the biggest wedding, couldn't afford it. We got married to confirm our commitment to each other...yes we could ave done it in a reg office but didn't.
Do you accept it's all about choices you make?
Hillian1
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Impossible to say really but I doubt it.
Nobody would ever come close to Mrs Hillian.
Nobody would ever come close to Mrs Hillian.
I agree with you, do not worry you are not alone in your views. As an atheist I see absolutely no point in marriage whatsoever.
Trufflehound
Re-enfranchised
Not the only reasons.
Mrs T and I got married as a cynical ploy to get people to show up for my 40th birthday party. No more than that. God, Allah, fancy wedding dresses, speeches, best men, bridesmaids, wedding cake. None of these things that you imagine makes a wedding worthwhile were invited - I can't stand any such traditions.
Yet we still had a great time.
And 11 years on (29 years together) being married still feels good. It's very hard to explain exactly why being married feels better than not being married, especially as I was happily unmarried to the same woman for 18 years beforehand. But somehow it does make us feel more "together", at the risk of sounding yucky.
And in answer to the OP, yes I would marry her again.
But if something happened, I probably would be on the look out for someone else. My mother-in-law's been on her own since being widowed 17 years ago, but I don't think I could stand the loneliness.