Work night out, dropped bollock

[AMEXican Wave]

dont ever say you cant remember - not under ANY circumstances

say you didnt say it and stick to that

suggest under pressure if you must that maybe the other person misheard or misunderstood something - after all THEY had been drinking

This is the only way to play it.

It is completely possible that you were misheard or misunderstood, so if you don't remember have faith in yourself.

 

[severnside gull]

You have no idea what they are on about. Despite having a few drinks you have a clear recollection of that night. You can recall some conversations that night with other members of staff but at no time did you say anything inappropriate or anything to bring you into disrepute as you are fully aware of your actions/behaviour as a supervisor, even out of work. All members of staff you spoke to were under the influence of alcohol/some very drunk and do not agree with any evidence offered by them regarding your comments/behaviour that night. Ask them to supply any evidence they have of the incident to you in writing in order you may seek legal representation. If they don't, they have nothing and its just a word/nothing formal but still deny it. If they have got somthing from the grasses in writing say nothing and seek legal help and go down the lines of they were drunk so therefore have no credibility as witnesses..

 

[simon swagbag]

So glad I work in an environment where everyone calls everyone else a prick on an hourly basis & no one takes a blind bit of notice.
And if they complained they'd be told "Don't be such a prick".
I'm assuming you work in an office environment. I remember working in an office. What a bunch of pricks.

 

[ali jenkins]

Sounds like it would have been better if you did really drop a bollock!

 

[GT49er]

You have no idea what they are on about. Despite having a few drinks you have a clear recollection of that night. You can recall some conversations that night with other members of staff but at no time did you say anything inappropriate or anything to bring you into disrepute as you are fully aware of your actions/behaviour as a supervisor, even out of work. All members of staff you spoke to were under the influence of alcohol/some very drunk and do not agree with any evidence offered by them regarding your comments/behaviour that night. Ask them to supply any evidence they have of the incident to you in writing in order you may seek legal representation. If they don't, they have nothing and its just a word/nothing formal but still deny it. If they have got somthing from the grasses in writing say nothing and seek legal help and go down the lines of they were drunk so therefore have no credibility as witnesses..

Sounds like excellent advice to me!

 

[beorhthelm]

what i think may have occured is that you said some honest, frank but innocent comments, to someone who either has an agenda against you or wants to make themsleves loook good in front of others.

as someone said, im gald i work in a grown up office where we lark and insult each other on a frequent basis within acceptable grown up boundries, not petty little factions and playground style he said she said crap.

 

[e77]

Deny everything and get your CV on Jobserve.

 

[NMH]

what i think may have occured is that you said some honest, frank but innocent comments, to someone who either has an agenda against you or wants to make themsleves loook good in front of others.

as someone said, im gald i work in a grown up office where we lark and insult each other on a frequent basis within acceptable grown up boundries, not petty little factions and playground style he said she said crap.

If you said 'honest and frank' comments, then it must mean you really do feel that way about the staff in subject. That would raise the questions as to WHY you feel that way about them.
The 'evidence' for your memory, will be whether you think someone doesn't do their job properly - then it's quite likely you did say those things.

I would lean towards admitting you have had some doubts about other workmates, but may have said some things flippantly while under the influence. It's easily done, but you are concerned with the smooth running of your company and that's why it came out.

The truth will set you free

 

[tedebear]

I'd go along with Big G., especially the you have no idea what they are on about so please prove it!

 

[Deleted User X18H]

I wouldn't talk about it on an internet forum.

This.

 

[bhaexpress]

Sounds to me like some serious back stabbing. Companies have these dos and then get upset because people over do it. I would say that you did not say what you were accused of and in fact question exactly what the real agenda is of what you have been accused of. A good few years ago I got accused of something similar and wasn't given a chance to answer my accuser. Fortunately said person got totally pissed at a staff Christmas do and it then became clear who the bad guy was. Naturally I kicked off big time and demanded a lot of apologies which I got.

 

[Art Vs Science]

Sell a Kidney just in case you get fired

 

[HastingsSeagull]

Surely the other manager directly telling the staff involved is more in the wrong, whether you said it or not. They should have come to you or gone higher, not down to tell the subjects of any comments. At least initially?

 

[BLOCK F]

Just deny it as per other suggestions here.
Unfortunately ,it sounds like you work in a pretty shitty, petty, backstabbing environment.

 

[Racek]

So glad I work in an environment where everyone calls everyone else a prick on an hourly basis & no one takes a blind bit of notice.
And if they complained they'd be told "Don't be such a prick".
I'm assuming you work in an office environment. I remember working in an office. What a bunch of pricks.

 

[poidy]

I had a similar dilemma when I left the air force and joined civvy street. Was used to taking the piss out of collegues and quite frankly abusing them. A two way thing though, it's part of the forces mentality. However I took this with me into civilian employment and upset a few folk with light heated banter. Naturally I had to address this pretty quick to avoid a situation in which you now having to endure. All's well that ends well though because I ended up re joining the air force.

In your case the very fact that these allegations took place outside of work and the people that complained had been drinking will keep you in the clear. Any half decent brief would rip them apart. You'll be fine

 

[Tricky Dicky]

dont ever say you cant remember - not under ANY circumstances

say you didnt say it and stick to that

suggest under pressure if you must that maybe the other person misheard or misunderstood something - after all THEY had been drinking

This seems to be the best course - if they had been drinking, it's your word against theirs, and if you say you didn't say it, I don't see what they can do unless there are witnesses.

 

[Questions]

I told the plasterer on a job this week that he was a useless **** and should have paid more attention to his classes in borstal.. He told me that I was a prick and he was going to ram his trowel up my arse unless I f***ed off out of it.
Who do I complain too ?

 

[bhaexpress]

I told the plasterer on a job this week that he was a useless **** and should have paid more attention to his classes in borstal.. He told me that I was a prick and he was going to ram his trowel up my arse unless I f***ed off out of it.
Who do I complain too ?

The bloke who made his trowel ?

 

[Don Quixote]

How can they prove you said anything? Just deny it.