I don't really think anybody's saying that. I think everybody accepts that they will have to queue and wait in much the same way that people who drive into Brighton expect to have to circle around looking for a parking space. It's just modern life.I tend to agree with you. I'd like to think we'll all eventually find something which works for us. It might take a good few months to try different options and modes of transport but I have faith.
I think it's crucial the park and rides work well though, and I also think it's crucial people's expectation of park and ride is reasonable; some folk seem to believe public transport should deliver them from door to door at the moment of their choice.
Give it a chance.