[Help] OT neighbour advice

[rogersix]

This. Also work vans should be banned from residential properties. Even vans parked close-by are an eyesore, let alone on a shared drive. There is no mention of the type or size, but assuming it is not a car sized one, it could also inhibit on his parking (even if "on the posters side", it would restrict movement and door swing).

I feel sorry for the neighbour. The OP sounds like a neighbour from hell, and will hopefully have moved before the poor guy needs to sell his home.

i'm just inqisitve,
what to you do for money?
and have you ever had some work done on your property?

 

[PILTDOWN MAN]

Thank you to everyone for the input or advice, obviously some more than others.

To be clear the shared driveway doesn't actually fit a car down so is only used as walk way to the back of the 2 houses and to store his bins and recycling boxes. When I said occasionally it I'm talking once every few months and is never more than a car boots worth of mainly cardboard boxes. To the person who mentioned about doing it before I went on holiday- I put it out at around 8am and arranged for it to be collected at lunch but he'd moved it in-between.

I met with him today to talk about the issues. I have agreed to keep nothing on the shared drive, which I feel is fair and also agreed to have a higher fence fitted at my expense. In return I ask him to respect my families privacy and stop taking pictures of my back garden that is a private space.

He told me he has sent letters to other neighbors about their choice of parking space, I did find that strange as it is on street parking so not sure he has the right to dictate this to anyone but as others have said life is to short.

He also mentioned the kids garden toys ( trampoline ect) as crap so guessing he isn't a fan of kids although its mainly a family street.

To the person who mentioned about van size -mine is small- Citroen berlingo and is brand new so tidier than most cars. To the poster who said they should ban all vans from residental areas, I hope you stick to your word when you need a trades person to work at your property and make it clear to any tradesman what a stuck up attitude you take to van drivers.

What's a ect?

 

[rogersix]

I would absolutely HATE it if a neighbour was regularly dumping commercial waste on a shared drive, even if it were only for a day or two.

why?

 

[PILTDOWN MAN]

Such a shame that trades people need somewhere to live...

Don't you know everyone now just writes code for a living, whatever that is.

 

[rogersix]

Even if it gets collected the next day, if it happens every few days then that's a regular eye sore. And now he's retired, he has to look at it all day.

Also, don't under estimate how territorial humans are, even when it's irrational. It's one reason why we've survived as a species and is hard-wired into our genetic make up. It's why we get so upset about things like someone sitting in your regular seat, even if a stadium isn't full.

It's you causing the problem, so I think it's up to you to find a solution - some good ideas mentioned above.

i think you need to cleanse yourself from the inside out, you have issues,
the chap isn't doing anything wrong, or illegal,

we are the most sociable creature to have ever evolved,
it should be burnt into your DNA

 

[rogersix]

This. Also work vans should be banned from residential properties. Even vans parked close-by are an eyesore, let alone on a shared drive. There is no mention of the type or size, but assuming it is not a car sized one, it could also inhibit on his parking (even if "on the posters side", it would restrict movement and door swing).

I feel sorry for the neighbour. The OP sounds like a neighbour from hell, and will hopefully have moved before the poor guy needs to sell his home.

madness

 

[rogersix]

Geezer in my My mums road has 4 large vans plus two cars evenly distributed down the whole Road, parks on verges and ruins the grass, I would hardly describe being irritated by that as snobbery ffs!

reasonably, what should tradsemen do with their van full of tools, i.e. their entire livelihood?

 

[Chicken Run]

Well one thing they should do is rent a small out of town depot ( yard) or similar if they have 4 vans ffs, the guys employees turn up and start work from his house every morning! One van fine, four? It’s like choices van hire down there some days!

 

[Weststander]

why?

Because it's purpose is a shared driveway, not intended as a location for holding business waste?

 

[HalfaSeatOn]

Poor neighbours are pig ignorant and some cannot be engaged so you have to hurt them in their pocket, inconvenience them and/or shame them (or move!)

 

[BN9 BHA]

i'm just inqisitve,
what to you do for money?
and have you ever had some work done on your property?

My guess, he’s a merchant banker

 

[BN9 BHA]

Now the neighbour has retired he should take up a hobby.
I suggest sailing around the world or climbing Mount Everest.

 

[dadams2k11]

Your house, your property, your rules. F*ck him

 

[Bold Seagull]

Your house, your property, your rules. F*ck him

Did you miss the part that said shared drive?

 

[strings]

In BARNSLEY??

Posh bit, innit.

Got electricity, but not working sewerage.

 

[BigGully]

My dad told me a million years ago, don't fall out with your neighbours, otherwise it will eat away at your life.

I have followed that advice, which isn't really my nature if I feel wronged, sometimes giving them the benefit of the doubt rather than challenge what seems petty stuff, even when it is clear they have no right to moan, I am always friendly and speak to all of them, my life is calm.

So, DON'T FALL OUT WITH YOUR NEIGHBOURS, IT EAT AWAY AT YOUR LIFE.

 

[dadams2k11]

Did you miss the part that said shared drive?

No i didn't, f*ck him. Sounds like the neighbor is just be irritating because he as nothing better to do with his time..

 

[PILTDOWN MAN]

No i didn't, f*ck him. Sounds like the neighbor is just be irritating because he as nothing better to do with his time..

Sounds like he's in America

 

[Tom Hark Preston Park]

Got electricity, but not working sewerage.

Do you just leave the waste on a shared driveway?

 

[Gary Leeds]

Thank you to everyone for the input or advice, obviously some more than others.

To be clear the shared driveway doesn't actually fit a car down so is only used as walk way to the back of the 2 houses and to store his bins and recycling boxes. When I said occasionally it I'm talking once every few months and is never more than a car boots worth of mainly cardboard boxes. To the person who mentioned about doing it before I went on holiday- I put it out at around 8am and arranged for it to be collected at lunch but he'd moved it in-between.

I met with him today to talk about the issues. I have agreed to keep nothing on the shared drive, which I feel is fair and also agreed to have a higher fence fitted at my expense. In return I ask him to respect my families privacy and stop taking pictures of my back garden that is a private space.

He told me he has sent letters to other neighbors about their choice of parking space, I did find that strange as it is on street parking so not sure he has the right to dictate this to anyone but as others have said life is to short.

He also mentioned the kids garden toys ( trampoline ect) as crap so guessing he isn't a fan of kids although its mainly a family street.

To the person who mentioned about van size -mine is small- Citroen berlingo and is brand new so tidier than most cars. To the poster who said they should ban all vans from residental areas, I hope you stick to your word when you need a trades person to work at your property and make it clear to any tradesman what a stuck up attitude you take to van drivers.

Is he called John Catt?