Online dating

[Questions]

No mate. I am quite philosophical about the situation. I have too much baggage and too much going against me now to have any realistic chance of having a successful relationship in the future. That was proved to me when the last one managed nearly a year with me. Fair play to her I say. You have to go into a relationship with something on the table to have a chance. So I will watch from the sidelines and good luck to everyone. There are a lot of successful stories it seems.

I,ve a few good friends who play the online dating game and as of now haven,t managed to find their soul mate so to speak. They have relationships that eventually fissile out and seem down for a while but you know what they do next. They say never again for a couple of weeks then dust themselves down and get back in there.
Ok ok . . Better to be with nobody than just anybody but they do get plenty of shags if nothing else.
You probably could do with being a little more positive US, but what do I know, I,ve been with the same girl for 26 years.

 

[Manx Shearwater]

Interesting that this was your only search criteria One up from just having a pulse! .

And you only just fulfilled that one!

Ladies n gennelmen, I give you the current Mrs Shearwater!

(MODS!! QUICK!! Delete my posts in the Rachel Riley thread!!)

 

[SK1NT]

Ive been with my girl for 10 years (met her in a london club when she was 17) However i have a lot of friends that do online dating and it sounds wicked. I kinda wish i was single....

Whats not to like... browsing online throught 1000's of girls pictures and then messaging the girls you find interesting of attractive and if they get back to you.. GAME ON>

I have this one mate who is fat, unemployed and manners of a big and yet he was getting a shag every weekend and now has met a girl he is smitten with...

99% of the stories i hear of are positive....

BTW chin up US things will change... but being down and miserable won't attract any girl... If you don't love yourself no one else will... Postive thinking is really important... Girls love confident, secure, and postive

 

[bennibenj]

Ive been with my girl for 10 years (met her in a london club when she was 17) However i have a lot of friends that do online dating and it sounds wicked. I kinda wish i was single....

Whats not to like... browsing online throught 1000's of girls pictures and then messaging the girls you find interesting of attractive and if they get back to you.. GAME ON>

I have this one mate who is fat, unemployed and manners of a big and yet he was getting a shag every weekend and now has met a girl he is smitten with...

99% of the stories i hear of are positive....

BTW chin up US things will change... but being down and miserable won't attract any girl... If you don't love yourself no one else will... Postive thinking is really important... Girls love confident, secure, and postive

Agreed, been with my good ladies since we were 18 and reading your post sounds familiar - got mates doing these online dating thingys and getting loads of ride time.

 

[Uncle Spielberg]

Ive been with my girl for 10 years (met her in a london club when she was 17) However i have a lot of friends that do online dating and it sounds wicked. I kinda wish i was single....

Whats not to like... browsing online throught 1000's of girls pictures and then messaging the girls you find interesting of attractive and if they get back to you.. GAME ON>

I have this one mate who is fat, unemployed and manners of a big and yet he was getting a shag every weekend and now has met a girl he is smitten with...

99% of the stories i hear of are positive....

BTW chin up US things will change... but being down and miserable won't attract any girl... If you don't love yourself no one else will... Postive thinking is really important... Girls love confident, secure, and postive

" Girls love confident, secure, and postive " I am not in a position to do that now. I wasn't always like this, 5 years ago I was " living the dream ", well not quite but a totally different bloke. So I agree and that's why I am withdrawing from the scene as I am in no position to have a shot and I am not really interested in trawling around doing the numbers game for a chance of a meaningless shag.

 

[The Antikythera Mechanism]

" Girls love confident, secure, and postive " I am not in a position to do that now. I wasn't always like this, 5 years ago I was " living the dream ", well not quite but a totally different bloke. So I agree and that's why I am withdrawing from the scene as I am in no position to have a shot and I am not really interested in trawling around doing the numbers game for a chance of a meaningless shag.

Have you thought of becoming a gigolo? That way you can earn some money and give your old fella a bit of exercise.

 

[Uncle Spielberg]

Have you thought of becoming a giggolo? That way you can earn some money and give your old fella a bit of exercise.

If only.

 

[SK1NT]

" Girls love confident, secure, and postive " I am not in a position to do that now. I wasn't always like this, 5 years ago I was " living the dream ", well not quite but a totally different bloke. So I agree and that's why I am withdrawing from the scene as I am in no position to have a shot and I am not really interested in trawling around doing the numbers game for a chance of a meaningless shag.

Well that's good... and prob wise not to get into a relationship just yet if you are having a tough time. Only when you have picked yourself up dusted yourself down and are feeling good about urself... then hit that dating scene.... not that having a partner is the be end of it...

US a lot of people deal with huge hits in their life... loss of family, terminal illnesses... I don;t believe any materialistic problems can ever come near to being told you have a few months to live or your child being run over. Just have a little perspective....

Yea the mortgage sector may have hot you hard... but has most people... as you know my mortgage has just gone of a SVR and is now double and the only rates im being offered are poo.... Its life and touch wood i have my families and my health...

 

[The Antikythera Mechanism]

If only.

There you go

 

[Digweeds Trousers]

" Girls love confident, secure, and postive " I am not in a position to do that now. I wasn't always like this, 5 years ago I was " living the dream ", well not quite but a totally different bloke. So I agree and that's why I am withdrawing from the scene as I am in no position to have a shot and I am not really interested in trawling around doing the numbers game for a chance of a meaningless shag.

US - please dont think I am criticising or having a pop - I'm only wading in becuase I hear what I was saying 5 years ago. Partner left me with our 6 month old daughter - firm I worked for went under on the back of the Lehmans disaster. Was owed £12,000 in commission and salary and expenses - got a cheque from the adminstrator for £789.00 some six months later. Lived on the floor of a mates house - worked for him commission only selling debt recovery solutions in London - horrific. Utterly horrific.

I remember standing in a newsagents having to decide whether to buy a loaf of bread or a ready meal - which would fill me up and which would last longer - becuase I had nothing. Car gone. House gone. everyhting.

But someone got hold of me at that moment in time and helped me understand that for all the transcience of everything both personal and material - the one thing that is consistent in life is you. YOU. Change, innovate, - just be relentless. Cut out the cancerous shite in your life - the shit around you that tells you that things cant be done, f*** them off.

Treat every day - every f***ing moment of every f***ing day be it pissing down or gloriously sunny as a day that you can influence the next chapter of your life.

I went to work finding work - I treated it as a job. I had a mate, a floor to sleep on and a computer. And it took me four months. Four months dreading the next day becuase if I could not find something I was toast.

And looking back I honestly think it was the most important empowering thing that ever happened to me. Because it made me realise that I could dispell the myth. The myth that shit happens and thats that. Shit does happen - but it is only the end if you allow it to be so. Challenge everything and ask yourself - just how remarkable could you be?

Becuase seeing the stuff you do for REMF tells me that somewhere in that miserable, self-conscious, battered old fucker is a f***ing legend waiting to be unleashed.

Make it happen US - what's to fear??

 

[Titanic]

US - please dont think I am criticising or having a pop - I'm only wading in becuase I hear what I was saying 5 years ago. Partner left me with our 6 month old daughter - firm I worked for went under on the back of the Lehmans disaster. Was owed £12,000 in commission and salary and expenses - got a cheque from the adminstrator for £789.00 some six months later. Lived on the floor of a mates house - worked for him commission only selling debt recovery solutions in London - horrific. Utterly horrific.

I remember standing in a newsagents having to decide whether to buy a loaf of bread or a ready meal - which would fill me up and which would last longer - becuase I had nothing. Car gone. House gone. everyhting.

But someone got hold of me at that moment in time and helped me understand that for all the transcience of everything both personal and material - the one thing that is consistent in life is you. YOU. Change, innovate, - just be relentless. Cut out the cancerous shite in your life - the shit around you that tells you that things cant be done, f*** them off.

Treat every day - every f***ing moment of every f***ing day be it pissing down or gloriously sunny as a day that you can influence the next chapter of your life.

I went to work finding work - I treated it as a job. I had a mate, a floor to sleep on and a computer. And it took me four months. Four months dreading the next day becuase if I could not find something I was toast.

And looking back I honestly think it was the most important empowering thing that ever happened to me. Because it made me realise that I could dispell the myth. The myth that shit happens and thats that. Shit does happen - but it is only the end if you allow it to be so. Challenge everything and ask yourself - just how remarkable could you be?

Becuase seeing the stuff you do for REMF tells me that somewhere in that miserable, self-conscious, battered old fucker is a f***ing legend waiting to be unleashed.

Make it happen US - what's to fear??

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=THYgeETrkPs#t=310s

 

[Goldstone Rapper]

Hats off to you, Digweeds Trousers. Another great post. I, for one, get that you are not attacking US, but rather his sense of who he is.

 

[NickBHAFC18]

US - please dont think I am criticising or having a pop - I'm only wading in becuase I hear what I was saying 5 years ago. Partner left me with our 6 month old daughter - firm I worked for went under on the back of the Lehmans disaster. Was owed £12,000 in commission and salary and expenses - got a cheque from the adminstrator for £789.00 some six months later. Lived on the floor of a mates house - worked for him commission only selling debt recovery solutions in London - horrific. Utterly horrific.

I remember standing in a newsagents having to decide whether to buy a loaf of bread or a ready meal - which would fill me up and which would last longer - becuase I had nothing. Car gone. House gone. everyhting.

But someone got hold of me at that moment in time and helped me understand that for all the transcience of everything both personal and material - the one thing that is consistent in life is you. YOU. Change, innovate, - just be relentless. Cut out the cancerous shite in your life - the shit around you that tells you that things cant be done, f*** them off.

Treat every day - every f***ing moment of every f***ing day be it pissing down or gloriously sunny as a day that you can influence the next chapter of your life.

I went to work finding work - I treated it as a job. I had a mate, a floor to sleep on and a computer. And it took me four months. Four months dreading the next day becuase if I could not find something I was toast.

And looking back I honestly think it was the most important empowering thing that ever happened to me. Because it made me realise that I could dispell the myth. The myth that shit happens and thats that. Shit does happen - but it is only the end if you allow it to be so. Challenge everything and ask yourself - just how remarkable could you be?

Becuase seeing the stuff you do for REMF tells me that somewhere in that miserable, self-conscious, battered old fucker is a f***ing legend waiting to be unleashed.

Make it happen US - what's to fear??

Wow...now that's motivation

Next time we're loosing at half time, get Digweed in that changing room.

 

[Goldstone Rapper]

Wow...now that's motivation

Next time we're loosing at half time, get Digweed in that changing room.

It's like having Alan Mullery on NSC!

 

[Uncle Spielberg]

Thanks for the post DT. I think online dating is the way to go in the 21st century and I met my lovely Asian lady on Direct Dating 7 years ago. It didn't work out but we had some great times on and off for 5 years so I certainly would not put anyone off. I do think the free ones like POF are rife with chancers and cheaters. I think to have a best chance is to pay a premium and join one of the more exclusive sites. What I think sums it up though is that the sites are based on a shopping list of things a bloke should/must have to even get a sniff and it is not based in anyway of anything substantial, just a shallow view of what a person HAS not what a person IS. It is also without doubt much easier for Women to move on as there is an orderly queue of blokes ready to take your place so if you make a little error you are toast. There seems to be very few people prepared to work at it and take the good times with the bad times and throw the towel in as they want immediate and constant satisfaction and life is not like that. So good luck, if your life is good and you have things to bring to the table, you will have a shot and the more you can bring to the table, will have even more of a shot but it is not for me anymore and the dating game is not for me anymore for reasons given.

 

[Mr Banana]

What a thread. Epic scenes

 

[SK1NT]

US - please dont think I am criticising or having a pop - I'm only wading in becuase I hear what I was saying 5 years ago. Partner left me with our 6 month old daughter - firm I worked for went under on the back of the Lehmans disaster. Was owed £12,000 in commission and salary and expenses - got a cheque from the adminstrator for £789.00 some six months later. Lived on the floor of a mates house - worked for him commission only selling debt recovery solutions in London - horrific. Utterly horrific.

I remember standing in a newsagents having to decide whether to buy a loaf of bread or a ready meal - which would fill me up and which would last longer - becuase I had nothing. Car gone. House gone. everyhting.

But someone got hold of me at that moment in time and helped me understand that for all the transcience of everything both personal and material - the one thing that is consistent in life is you. YOU. Change, innovate, - just be relentless. Cut out the cancerous shite in your life - the shit around you that tells you that things cant be done, f*** them off.

Treat every day - every f***ing moment of every f***ing day be it pissing down or gloriously sunny as a day that you can influence the next chapter of your life.

I went to work finding work - I treated it as a job. I had a mate, a floor to sleep on and a computer. And it took me four months. Four months dreading the next day becuase if I could not find something I was toast.

And looking back I honestly think it was the most important empowering thing that ever happened to me. Because it made me realise that I could dispell the myth. The myth that shit happens and thats that. Shit does happen - but it is only the end if you allow it to be so. Challenge everything and ask yourself - just how remarkable could you be?

Becuase seeing the stuff you do for REMF tells me that somewhere in that miserable, self-conscious, battered old fucker is a f***ing legend waiting to be unleashed.

Make it happen US - what's to fear??

Great post.... however as i mentioned before... as long as my health and my family and friends health is good... I class myself as very priveldged person. Life is too short it really is.

You make of your life what you want US... the power is entirely in your hands...

 

[Uncle Spielberg]

An interesting exchange of views and it has not turned into a binfest






Yet.

 

[Goldstone Rapper]

An interesting exchange of views and it has not turned into a binfest






Yet.

I'm pretty sure it won't. People are being frank, not hostile.

 

[Simster]

An interesting exchange of views and it has not turned into a binfest






Yet.

Please, could you just read what [MENTION=2159]Digweeds Trousers[/MENTION] has said? He's absolutely spot on, you know.