O/T When your child is being bullied......

[Lethargic]

This is a nightmare situation and one I have not personal had to deal with yet but my niece was bully both physically and verbally over a long period of time. Her parents followed the correct course of action via the teachers although my brother in law was all for settling the problem directly with the bully's parents. However my niece did not want this as the repercussions would have made it worse. On the other hand the teachers were not over helpful possibly as I believe there was an element of my niece contributing to the situation.

Once the bullying got to the point of hassling their home and my brother in law confronting the parents they decided the only resolution was for her to move schools, so my niece transferred to another school and has been much happier and also received a better education. As soon as she moved all bullying stopped.

As much as I would like to batter the shite out of the bully scum, it just doesn't work and will probably lead to more problems but I do think we should educate our children to have some form of self defence but the nature will vary from child to child.
It's a tough one but try to keep your emotions out of it and deal with it logically.

 

[Nibble]

Just sums up Moulsecoomb in a nutshell then. No different now probably

Actually it is very differant now.

 

[macky]

Great advice (NOT) ...you complete dick

why a dick come here and i will show you how it works
i can see you are a bit of a buly the way you have jumped in caled me a dick
you dont even f***ing know me

 

[ack]

Girls are the worst for falling out of friendship and little gangs start.
My daughter had the same problem a few years ago,fell out with 1 girl who was advanced for her years(to be polite),who then decided to get her little gang to victimise my daughter verbally but also by txt as they had swapped moby numbers when still friends.
Now I was all for the smack her 1 at first,but after speaking to a few teachers and work friends decided to confront the girl in question and point out I had her moby number and all the texts she sent,and if she wanted to continue I'd show them all to the authorities.
Luckily that stopped it coz she was a mouthy cow and full of herself and wanted to smack her 1

 

[black & white seagull]

I was also bullied at school, and it's true - it's particularly vicious when it's a case of girls bullying other girls.

When I look back on that time, I so wish that I'd had the inner confidence not to have succumbed to the 'victim' mentality. By that I do NOT mean that I wish I'd thumped the girl in question, just that I'd had the strength to rise above it and find ways around it (a tall order for a 13 year old, I know). Instead I would pretend to be ill on the day of the double art lesson because she sat opposite me - that sort of thing. I never told my parents, so believe me that your daughter is one step ahead in that you are now involved, and this can only be a good thing.

The worst part about it was this girl's ability to turn the girls I considered to be my friends against me. I never held this against them, as I know that it was only out of self-preservation because they didn't want to be next. How we solved it, however, was one time when she was off school for a few days, about six of us agreed to give her a taste of her own medicine on her return, and we completely ignored her the whole of her first day back. It was simple and effective - and she never did it again.

This is probably a little too simple in your daughter's case, but it does show the importance of other friends rallying around, and perhaps this is something you could explore.

Good luck to you both.

 

[¤DãŃn¥ §êãGüLL¤]

Give the little bastards a hand round the throat and a few stern words, they're never quite so tough when someone bigger then them is picking on 'em.

 

[Mrs Coach]

The worst part about it was this girl's ability to turn the girls I considered to be my friends against me. I never held this against them, as I know that it was only out of self-preservation because they didn't want to be next.

She's had a lot of this, thank you for your advice, and thanks to everyone else who's posted on here - just knowing we're not alone in this kind of situation makes it a little easier to deal with.