Alright guys the reason I enacted the massive rip is because I think its time everyone stood back and took a chill pill. Some people have relationships that work only when the two people are both seeing other people, some need that high level of monogamy. I just think that some people on here were getting a little sanctimonious and taking it all a little too seriously. Every situation should be taken on its merits, just try to be decent to people is all. Sometimes that ain't easy and what others judge as harsh some see as ok.
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virgirlo said:
They chose them.
A few months I began to get closer with a girl I've been friends for a just under a year now. I was keen for something to develop and she said she wanted to get to know me first before she knew how she felt. She said she'd never rule anything out between us though.
Soon after, she went and shagged this bloke who then ignored her for two weeks. That just made her keener on him though and she pursued him for a few weeks until she finally realised all he wanted was a shag. I had been considerate, respectful and polite throughout our friendship but his "f*** her and then f*** off" attitude was clearly far more attractive.
A few weeks later I got off with a girl at a work do. She spent the next morning begging for re-assurances that she wasn't "just any girl at work" and checking that I was a genuine guy. I took her to lunch the day after to show her that I was for real. For a few weeks after, we were "seeing each other" but we didn't go any further with each other in terms of intimacy.
Again, I was a perfect gent throughout but she turned round to be after about 4 weeks and said that she felt we were becoming "just friends" because (get this) she felt "TOO comfortable" around me.
Women don't want "comfortable", they want a riot. Women get treated badly because thats what they want.
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virgirlo said:
Well said!!
I agree with virgirlo and tedebear.
What is a relationship if isn't based on trust and love?
Never cheated and never would but I do know what it is like after 21 years to find out that my husband had been having an affair for 5 months.
I wouldn't wish that on anyone or on anyone's children.
What is a relationship if isn't based on trust and love?
Never cheated and never would but I do know what it is like after 21 years to find out that my husband had been having an affair for 5 months.
I wouldn't wish that on anyone or on anyone's children.
Kylies Stunt Arse
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Wow, good to see NSC's general sense of perception is screwed again.
A few of my own thoughts.
As far as the 16 year old is concerned, lets get one thing straight. It is not wrong legally. It is only wrong morally if your morals dictate it to be so. Whether or not the girl is mentally, emotionally or whatever ready for a sexual relationship is not something that can be decided by anyone on here EXCEPT the guy in the situation. How do any of you know whether she is ready or not? How do any of you know her past history? Preaching that it is wrong is ridiculous. You all know that everyone matures at different times, so she may be more than ready for all any of you know. It's just your own sense of moral outrage that's coming out here. How many of you lost your virginity before you were 16? How many girls of that generation these days do? I'm not saying that it's right to start having sex very young, but people should be free to make their own choices, and mistakes, once they reach 16. That's the point of the legal age.
Cheating? Not for me, partly because I would hate to be cheated on and have the trust that I have in my relationship destroyed, and partly because it's something that I wouldn't do, because of the love, respect and trust I place in my relationship.
That said, each to their own. Some people just can't do the monogamous thing. On their heads be it though if they get hurt too. It will happen eventually.
Dave, your rant about robbie is a little OTT I reckon. He's still at school. It would be nice if everyone had that nice moral way to them, but when you're young you always have a lot to learn. People have to make mistakes to learn by them, and when you're that age it's easy to flit about and get all that shite out of your system. Maybe you are the modern day angel and never did anything wrong when you were young, or maybe you're just taking the moral high ground now that you know better.
A few of my own thoughts.
As far as the 16 year old is concerned, lets get one thing straight. It is not wrong legally. It is only wrong morally if your morals dictate it to be so. Whether or not the girl is mentally, emotionally or whatever ready for a sexual relationship is not something that can be decided by anyone on here EXCEPT the guy in the situation. How do any of you know whether she is ready or not? How do any of you know her past history? Preaching that it is wrong is ridiculous. You all know that everyone matures at different times, so she may be more than ready for all any of you know. It's just your own sense of moral outrage that's coming out here. How many of you lost your virginity before you were 16? How many girls of that generation these days do? I'm not saying that it's right to start having sex very young, but people should be free to make their own choices, and mistakes, once they reach 16. That's the point of the legal age.
Cheating? Not for me, partly because I would hate to be cheated on and have the trust that I have in my relationship destroyed, and partly because it's something that I wouldn't do, because of the love, respect and trust I place in my relationship.
That said, each to their own. Some people just can't do the monogamous thing. On their heads be it though if they get hurt too. It will happen eventually.
Dave, your rant about robbie is a little OTT I reckon. He's still at school. It would be nice if everyone had that nice moral way to them, but when you're young you always have a lot to learn. People have to make mistakes to learn by them, and when you're that age it's easy to flit about and get all that shite out of your system. Maybe you are the modern day angel and never did anything wrong when you were young, or maybe you're just taking the moral high ground now that you know better.
Chesney Christ 1 said:
Wrong on all counts from my perspective!!
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tedebear said:
I guess you can only talk from personal experience eh. I'm hopeful that you can re-assure me that you don't have to be behave like an obnoxious twat to get anywhere with women.
Chesney Christ 1 said:
I certainly can reassure you that!!
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tedebear said:I certainly can reassure you that!!
Well, its what I'm experiencing at the moment. Maybe in a few years time I'll have a different perspective on things.
Da Man Clay
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Chesney Christ 1 said:
happened to me about a year ago. You just tend to fell that you should turn into a complete Cun t to get anywhere! Just tends to feel like nice guys finish last.
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Chesney Christ 1 said:
For what its worth - I'm female, and don't want to be treated badly....
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Kylies Stunt Arse said:Wow, good to see NSC's general sense of perception is screwed again.
A few of my own thoughts.
As far as the 16 year old is concerned, lets get one thing straight. It is not wrong legally. It is only wrong morally if your morals dictate it to be so. Whether or not the girl is mentally, emotionally or whatever ready for a sexual relationship is not something that can be decided by anyone on here EXCEPT the guy in the situation. How do any of you know whether she is ready or not? How do any of you know her past history? Preaching that it is wrong is ridiculous. You all know that everyone matures at different times, so she may be more than ready for all any of you know. It's just your own sense of moral outrage that's coming out here. How many of you lost your virginity before you were 16? How many girls of that generation these days do? I'm not saying that it's right to start having sex very young, but people should be free to make their own choices, and mistakes, once they reach 16. That's the point of the legal age.
Cheating? Not for me, partly because I would hate to be cheated on and have the trust that I have in my relationship destroyed, and partly because it's something that I wouldn't do, because of the love, respect and trust I place in my relationship.
That said, each to their own. Some people just can't do the monogamous thing. On their heads be it though if they get hurt too. It will happen eventually.
Dave, your rant about robbie is a little OTT I reckon. He's still at school. It would be nice if everyone had that nice moral way to them, but when you're young you always have a lot to learn. People have to make mistakes to learn by them, and when you're that age it's easy to flit about and get all that shite out of your system. Maybe you are the modern day angel and never did anything wrong when you were young, or maybe you're just taking the moral high ground now that you know better.
Right on!!!!
Women don't want "comfortable", they want a riot. Women get treated badly because thats what they want. [/B][/QUOTE]
Not to sound rude, but maybe, just possibly, those two girls just didn't find you attractive or weren't into you in that way. the fact that they were after another guy who happened to be a bastard may have something to do with the fact that they found him to be more attractive than yourself. i am sure that there are plenty of lovely ladies who would a)appreciate your gentleman approach and b) find you attractive and not run off after someone else.
it works both ways!
Not to sound rude, but maybe, just possibly, those two girls just didn't find you attractive or weren't into you in that way. the fact that they were after another guy who happened to be a bastard may have something to do with the fact that they found him to be more attractive than yourself. i am sure that there are plenty of lovely ladies who would a)appreciate your gentleman approach and b) find you attractive and not run off after someone else.
it works both ways!
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Kylies Stunt Arse said:.
Dave, your rant about robbie is a little OTT I reckon. He's still at school. It would be nice if everyone had that nice moral way to them, but when you're young you always have a lot to learn. People have to make mistakes to learn by them, and when you're that age it's easy to flit about and get all that shite out of your system. Maybe you are the modern day angel and never did anything wrong when you were young, or maybe you're just taking the moral high ground now that you know better.
I wasnt trying to take the moral high ground at all. My point was that he made the comment ( probably trying to look big and clever) that age didn't matter, when clearly it does ( in fact legally it does!!!)
I know it may sound patronising, but when people have children and they grow up, it changes your perception of life totally.
That was all, and No I was no angel, but I knew the boundries
virgirlo said:
Not to sound rude, but maybe, just possibly, those two girls just didn't find you attractive or weren't into you in that way. the fact that they were after another guy who happened to be a bastard may have something to do with the fact that they found him to be more attractive than yourself. i am sure that there are plenty of lovely ladies who would a)appreciate your gentleman approach and b) find you attractive and not run off after someone else.
it works both ways! [/B][/QUOTE]
Ches is right most birds prefer a bastard. I used to be a right shit and always had some bird on the go. But since I've been a nice guy the well has run dry.
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virgirlo said:
Weren't into me in that way? Why did she get off with me at a work do then and spend the next day begging for re-assurances that it meant something to me (are you sure you read my original post?!)? It was her that came on to me at this work thing, rather than the other way round. She told me the next day that she was "glowing" because we'd kissed. It meant that much to her.
Four weeks later her feelings had faded because she felt "too comfortable" with me. What f***ing nonsense. Thats what my great fear is, I'm incapable of being an arsehole to women so I'm always gonna end up making them feel "too comfortable".
Dave the OAP
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Ches is right most birds prefer a bastard.
And you know that for a fact do you?
have you ever known a "battered wife"? If you want I will introduce you to a good friend of mine......she really did enjoy being beaten so black and blue that she ended up in hospital over 5 times, why, even when he hit her with a golf club, she laughed and begged for more.
You people really amaze me
And you know that for a fact do you?
have you ever known a "battered wife"? If you want I will introduce you to a good friend of mine......she really did enjoy being beaten so black and blue that she ended up in hospital over 5 times, why, even when he hit her with a golf club, she laughed and begged for more.
You people really amaze me
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dave the gaffer said:
Blimey, stop taking everything so personally Dave.
My experience is that I am constantly getting f***ed over in favour of utter tossers. That is how I feel right now, and its happening too regularly. The last girl I was a bit crappy with (basically I wanted to shag her but nothing more) was really keen to have a relationship with me. I was an aloof twat with her and she couldn't get enough of it.
Now that I'm grown up, treat girls with more respect, and I'm happy to commit to something more serious girls don't want to know. Its f***ing bullshit.
Chesney Christ 1 said:
But too comfortable doesn't mean you have to be an arsehole to keep her? Maybe she just wanted to be taken out for a suprise dinner? turn up on her doorstep or her desk and say lets go out for lunch? maybe she didn't want a lap dog to follow her around and say yes babe, no babe, whatever you want babe?
There is a middle ground...