Lord Bracknell
On fire
You don't get it do you?the organisations that flourished both north and south of the border despite the lovely peace loving irish people with no historical anti british chip on their shoulder at all offering no support or succour to them ?
And you never will, as long as you try to fit your version of what happened into a framework where "Britishness" and "Irishness" are represented as national characteristics that are in irreconcilable conflict with each other.
The reason that peace has returned is that most folk, north and south, have been able to discard that view.