Does anyone have mental health problems?

[Bold Seagull]

Tragedy hit me with a friend in this regard only last week. It can be devastating if not addressed. I don't care whether a forum is the right place of not, if someone wants to air their feelings on here, then great, because as long as they are able to air it somewhere they are taking an important step - self awareness of an issue.

We all have to look out for each other. The symptoms can be subtle, so subtle that loved ones on so many occasions don't realise. Men particularly are vulnerable as they move into their 40s and beyond.

We all carry our stress or overload buckets around with us. For most of us at least, we keep that bucket largely with only a bit in it, emptying it out when we can. But sometimes without realising it your bucket starts to get so full, you don't think you can empty it out, it's too heavy, no one can help you with it. Got to help each other out with our buckets.

 

[happypig]

I was signed off with stress about 10 years ago, the cause of it seem ridiculous to me now but at the time I couldn't cope with work. My company were excellent about it and after I was signed off I was temporarily put on a project where I could manage my own workload. After a few weeks I felt much better and, after a month in Australia, I resumed my normal duties.
I grew up with a mum having what I now realise were MH issues; dad dies when I was 5 and it tipped her over the edge. She always avoided taliking about it or seeking treatment and at least once she attempted suicide. As a kid I thought it was perfectly normal to move house every 18 months and hide behind the sofa if the doorbell rang.

 

[Triggaaar]

The only reason I brought this up is because I am feeling suicidal

I'm really sorry to hear this. I feel it must be a good thing that you've felt able to share your feelings because no doubt you are not alone and others will be able to help. Many people will not understand what it's like to feel so low and so helpless, but some people will understand.

Do you live in the city?

 

[Sussex Nomad]

I have seen a bit of me in just about everything here, probably makes me fell worse lol ... thanks for the support

 

[Sussex Nomad]

I'm really sorry to hear this. I feel it must be a good thing that you've felt able to share your feelings because no doubt you are not alone and others will be able to help. Many people will not understand what it's like to feel so low and so helpless, but some people will understand.

Do you live in the city?

I moved from Camden to Crawley three years ago.

 

[Triggaaar]

I moved from Camden to Crawley three years ago.

It's worse than I thought

Will you be going on Saturday on your own or with/meeting friends?

 

[Sussex Nomad]

It's worse than I thought

Will you be going on Saturday on your own or with/meeting friends?

On my own but meeting friends there, fancy a beer after?

 

[Bigtomfu]

I pretty much gear my whole lifestyle around staving off depression . It's blighted long periods in my life. I do not want to take anti depressants though

Pretty much in that camp too since losing my mum prematurely when I was aged 20 after a very long battle with cancer.

The problem wasn't so much the illness but the fact that I overheard her telling a friend about her Chemo when I was 7/8 and then my parents not telling me until I was 13.

Life finds a way but part of me is dead.

 

[Sussex Nomad]

I know I've said thank you a million times, but really I mean thank you, I have had so many PMs from people that actually care. Do I feel better, nah lol, but this really is a brilliant little community.

 

[Soulman]

I wish you all the best Sussex Nomad, and you have had some good advice and the outcome is you are not alone.
Unlike a physical injury MH can not be seen, and as another poster alluded to, often friends and family do not spot the signs, or they are hidden well.
Take the advice of those in the know, it will help, and don't keep it from your close ones.

 

[Seagull58]

I haven't read all the replies to your post, so apologies if this has already been addressed...

Your post/s come across as ignorant, surely you're aware of the stigma surrounding mental health issues? Your post/s are reinforcing that stigma, Nomads is lessening it.

Take a look at yourself?

I wasn't stigmattising it and I'm sorry if it came across that way. I was questioning why choose NSC to share it and ask others if they also have similar issues. It seems a strange place to do so. Why not a forum dedicated to mental health rather than a football forum?

 

[Triggaaar]

I won't kill myself, sorry for being a drama queen. I am massively down right now, I didn't mean this to be a thread like that. Sorry

You don't need to apologise. Having read the post by psycho, I'm glad your coping resources are greater than your pain.

 

[Triggaaar]

On my own but meeting friends there, fancy a beer after?

Yep.

 

[Dick Head]

I wasn't stigmattising it and I'm sorry if it came across that way. I was questioning why choose NSC to share it and ask others if they also have similar issues. It seems a strange place to do so. Why not a forum dedicated to mental health rather than a football forum?

This is not just a football forum.

 

[Sussex Nomad]

Yep.

You're North Stand?

 

[tronnogull]

In Canada, the generally accepted stat is that one person in five either has a mental health issue themselves or is affected by a close family member with a mental health issue.

 

[Eeyore]

I have seen a bit of me in just about everything here, probably makes me fell worse lol ... thanks for the support

Firstly, there is nothing to 'admit' to. Struggling with your mental health is not a transgression, there is no court to issue a plea to- except, perhaps, the one that exists in our own mind.

So the issue here is judgement.

Few folk, even the very small number of ignorant folk that frequent this and other forums, will pass judgement. You are judging yourself. You have decided that somehow having these difficulties makes you inadequate. Of course, for the most part, you can see this. And that is why most of the time you are probably okay. Today you are not. But today will pass and so will the feelings.

It's unwise to give you reasons to be happy or sad. They are merely external factors. An Albion victory, or defeat. A new job or a new partner. It is foolish to place hope in such things. The only thing that always stays is you. And the only person you have to think about looking after is you and your expectations of what that means. All else springs from this.

During my darkest hours I looked at the things that were under my command. My immediate environment was the first I looked at. Did it reflect my mood or my character. It needed to reflect the latter. Was I looking after myself ? So much was self fulfilling.

Don't wait for the next Albion win to lift you. Don't wait for the next pay rise or potential partner. These things come and go. Do look at yourself as a potentially vulnerable person who needs attention and respect. Think how magical existence is. Think how fortunate you are to be a part of it.

Sanctimonious crap ? Not bothered if some levy such accusations. Such realisations made my outlook so much wider. It's taking joy in the smallest of mercies that keeps us humble and clearer of mind.

Take care.

 

[Triggaaar]

We all carry our stress or overload buckets around with us. For most of us at least, we keep that bucket largely with only a bit in it, emptying it out when we can. But sometimes without realising it your bucket starts to get so full, you don't think you can empty it out, it's too heavy, no one can help you with it. Got to help each other out with our buckets.

I empty mine on NSC. I find it helps to tell everyone how smart I am.

 

[Sussex Nomad]

Firstly, there is nothing to 'admit' to. Struggling with your mental health is not a transgression, there is no court to issue a plea to- except, perhaps, the one that exists in our own mind.

So the issue here is judgement.

Few folk, even the very small number of ignorant folk that frequent this and other forums, will pass judgement. You are judging yourself. You have decided that somehow having these difficulties makes you inadequate. Of course, for the most part, you can see this. And that is why most of the time you are probably okay. Today you are not. But today will pass and so will the feelings.

It's unwise to give you reasons to be happy or sad. They are merely external factors. An Albion victory, or defeat. A new job or a new partner. It is foolish to place hope in such things. The only thing that always stays is you. And the only person you have to think about looking after is you and your expectations of what that means. All else springs from this.

During my darkest hours I looked at the things that were under my command. My immediate environment was the first I looked at. Did it reflect my mood or my character. It needed to reflect the latter. Was I looking after myself ? So much was self fulfilling.

Don't wait for the next Albion win to lift you. Don't wait for the next pay rise or potential partner. These things come and go. Do look at yourself as a potentially vulnerable person who needs attention and respect. Think how magical existence is. Think how fortunate you are to be a part of it.

Sanctimonious crap ? Not bothered if some levy such accusations. Such realisations made my outlook so much wider. It's taking joy in the smallest of mercies that keeps us humble and clearer of mind.

Take care.

Thank you. I will realise these words.

 

[Bold Seagull]

I empty mine on NSC. I find it helps to tell everyone how smart I am.

We know.