Does anyone have mental health problems?

[wigman]

I lived in NI for a year in the 80s, as a civvy, I can't comprehend what you say but I do understand.

I remember coming down the Fletcher's for leaving leaving drinks prior to you going to NI.

 

[Sussex Nomad]

I remember coming down the Fletcher's for leaving leaving drinks prior to you going to NI.

Good days mate.

 

[BadFish]

There have been 223 posts. You could count on one hand those that were not supportive not just of you, but of the issue in general, and of other posters. Anything that raises awareness is a good thing. There have been some good links and good advice. You may have started the thread, but others have shared their own issues, bought their own experiences into the discussion. It has been a positive thread on the whole, not attention seeking by any means, and I honestly don't think it has been viewed in that way. I'd like to feel the very opposite is true and that it should stay and be bounced whenever anyone else is having a bit of a wobble. You know, you may well have helped a few other people too.

This, make it a sticky i say.

 

[wigman]

Good days mate.

There will be many more to come as well.
If we do make the promised land, then we will have one almighty p*** up to celebrate.

 

[GoldWithFalmer]

Hello [MENTION=17215]Sussex Nomad[/MENTION]

Best wishes for you-good luck..

 

[BadFish]

Don't think that SN, its a great thread to start, and I hope the mods don't delete.

Anyone who thinks that a football forum is not the place to start a thread like this should reflect that probably its generally men that contribute here.

Not trying the bring the thread down, but stats do show that suicide is the biggest killer of men between 35-50. So anything that helps us to discuss mental health issues (even on line) does have a benefit and might even save lives.

I know the Albion are good at promoting health issues, so perhaps this an area they could help to raise awareness.

Another good link for anyone needing support.

https://www.thecalmzone.net/

This, there has been a big push in Australia to get men talking about mental health issues. This thread is a wonderful example of giving people that platform.

 

[BadFish]

Trying to respond to a few things at once … I confess to being a BACP registered therapist http://www.bacp.co.uk/ so if you want an off or on the record answer please PM or quote me and I’ll try to respond when not at work!


People use food for all sorts of psychological reasons as well as just for nourishment. I think I’d do some research first. Here are some resources to kick off with:
NHS guidance: http://www.nhs.uk/conditions/eating-disorders/pages/introduction.aspx
Mind: http://www.mind.org.uk/information-...health-problems/eating-problems/#.WK3k1fIQTIU
Eating Problems – a specialist I know of: http://www.eatingproblems.org/index.html


Yes this site seems good. Best way is probably to get a recommendation from someone you know, a GP or someone in the field. Other sites where therapists advertise include http://www.itsgoodtotalk.org.uk/ and http://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/
Just googling in your area will also produce results. Suggest you make a shortlist of 3 possible people that appeal to you and call them up. You’ll probably get a sense of which person might work best for you.


Have you talked the GP through this? Sounds like you are having a post traumatic stress type response to these past events. Suggest you get a full PTSD assessment – ask GP. There are ways of treating this out there. A common one is EMDR (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eye_movement_desensitization_and_reprocessing) although I do not have personal experience of that.


Well done for starting the thread [MENTION=19110]Sussex[/MENTION]Nomad. I think you saw my earlier post so do check in with someone if you need to. If not friends and family, then GP, Samaritans if in crisis, therapy does help – see above, A&E in emergency. NSC may soon need to be added to this list of helping resources! Great work everyone.

Good on you for helping, can i just add that it is worth persisting with different therapists psychologists until you find the right one. After seeing about 4 different ones I eventually found someone who 'got me' and helped me enormously (I would like to add that they all helped in some way but the last one really cracked it (eventually) apparently i am a monumental pain in the arse to work with

 

[GoldWithFalmer]

This, there has been a big push in Australia to get men talking about mental health issues. This thread is a wonderful example of giving people that platform.

As previously stated a large proportion of us on here are men & men being men we tend not to like to open up or talk about things,i once went to the doctors about 3 times in 20 years then something like 20 times in 2 years,numerous hospital visits,tests and so forth and still they found nothing wrong with me..

It's good to talk and i commend the OP on the thread,interesting reading some of the stories..

 

[Muzzy]

This type of thread is exactly why this forum is what it is.
People rally regardless of which team is supported, who the poster is and whatever the situation.
I have witnessed my father suffer a mental breakdown some years ago and it has always stuck with me. I was strong for him during his hour of need and supported him unconditionally as in sure most of you would given a simular situation.
My questions regarding this subject is genuine and has remained unanswered since my father went through his crisis...
How do you define a mental health issue being that? Could it be stress? Or could it be a bout of depression?
I would say that all of us suffer periods of at least one of these things at some time in our lives but how do we know when professional help requires seeking?
I've been going through a very tough time with divorce and all the upset that comes with that. My career has also been a bit up and down during this time as well.
I try to remain positive but it is impossible not to have bad days and times of reflection on what I have lost. I do take care of myself and make sure I continue to live my life as well as I can. I don't want to burden friends or family but don't feel that I need professional help either. Maybe I do but have no idea?
It's a very difficult thing to know I guess.
Regards to all that have been diagnosed with MH issues and are being taken care of.
UTA

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[AmexRuislip]

Good days mate.

Hi [MENTION=17215]Sussex Nomad[/MENTION]
On the site where I have my allotment, there are two guys who share a plot they took on last year.
Both belong to MIND.
They had kept themselves to themselves for a months, and slowly started talking to fellow plot holders.
Basically each have had issues with depression and anxiety, and taking on the plot has helped them deal with the latter, basically being outside in a quiet environment and talking to people.
Just a thought

 

[The Antikythera Mechanism]

Reading this thread is quite humbling. I sometimes feel really stressed and exhausted because of work issues, but now realise this is all nothing compared to the debilitating mental trauma that some in our small community are trying to cope with.

 

[StonehamPark]

On reflection I should probably not have started this thread.
Perhaps this whole thread would be better deleted by the mods.

If by you creating this thread, has helped just one person voice their own problems and in return, find comfort/support in doing so, then you've done a great thing.

Keep it open for anyone else who might need it for their own support.

We've probably got a lot of younger girls/guys on this forum, maybe even one or two who have, and don't really know how to deal with MH or how to talk about it, this could provide a fantastic resource.

 

[Sussex Nomad]

This type of thread is exactly why this forum is what it is.
People rally regardless of which team is supported, who the poster is and whatever the situation.
I have witnessed my father suffer a mental breakdown some years ago and it has always stuck with me. I was strong for him during his hour of need and supported him unconditionally as in sure most of you would given a simular situation.
My questions regarding this subject is genuine and has remained unanswered since my father went through his crisis...
How do you define a mental health issue being that? Could it be stress? Or could it be a bout of depression?
I would say that all of us suffer periods of at least one of these things at some time in our lives but how do we know when professional help requires seeking?
I've been going through a very tough time with divorce and all the upset that comes with that. My career has also been a bit up and down during this time as well.
I try to remain positive but it is impossible not to have bad days and times of reflection on what I have lost. I do take care of myself and make sure I continue to live my life as well as I can. I don't want to burden friends or family but don't feel that I need professional help either. Maybe I do but have no idea?
It's a very difficult thing to know I guess.
Regards to all that have been diagnosed with MH issues and are being taken care of.
UTA

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I wish I could help, perhaps somewhere on here will help? I can't explain mental health, I can only give my experience. Can anyone here help on this?

 

[Soulman]

This type of thread is exactly why this forum is what it is.
People rally regardless of which team is supported, who the poster is and whatever the situation.
I have witnessed my father suffer a mental breakdown some years ago and it has always stuck with me. I was strong for him during his hour of need and supported him unconditionally as in sure most of you would given a simular situation.
My questions regarding this subject is genuine and has remained unanswered since my father went through his crisis...
How do you define a mental health issue being that? Could it be stress? Or could it be a bout of depression?
I would say that all of us suffer periods of at least one of these things at some time in our lives but how do we know when professional help requires seeking?
I've been going through a very tough time with divorce and all the upset that comes with that. My career has also been a bit up and down during this time as well.
I try to remain positive but it is impossible not to have bad days and times of reflection on what I have lost. I do take care of myself and make sure I continue to live my life as well as I can. I don't want to burden friends or family but don't feel that I need professional help either. Maybe I do but have no idea?
It's a very difficult thing to know I guess.
Regards to all that have been diagnosed with MH issues and are being taken care of.
UTA

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A few parts, in fact a lot of your post resonates with me.
All i can say is that after coming through very similar circumstances to you, i do not feel you have MH issues. Getting over a divorce ans ALL that comes with it, whilst trying to concentrate on work and a life for yourself.....is hard. In fact i would say you are mentaly strong to be coping.
Do not beat yourself up, take each day as it comes.......things will get better, i am very sure, was certainly the case for me.
Best.

 

[Doc Lynam]

Quote Originally Posted by Shropshire Seagull View Post
Mental Health Issues [MHI] - not sure if I have?

My 21 y/o daughter was diagnosed with Asperger's 15 years ago and has had various treatments / tablets - I can see a lot of her "problems" in myself going back to my childhood [I'm 56 now] but I've never had any sort of diagnosis. I stuggle with relationships [friends] but have been very lucky to have a wife of 30 years who has stuck by me.
I have [what I think is] an eating disorder - I eat when I'm stressed [work stress], I eat when I'm bored - I've got a BMI of 34 and no will-power to do anything about it - is that a form of MHI? I think my only solution is a gastric band but is there some mental treatment that could help me?

I don't want to waste NHS time when they clearly have more critical MHI to deal with - I don't think it's depression - but why do I keep eating?

In the scale of issues shared by others on this thread, eating unnecessarily seems to pale into insignificance - am I one of those [many?] undiagnosed cases?



This.

Thought about trying hypnosis?

This guy's work might be of interest to you.

 

[Durlston]

Steve Peters works with the snooker player Ronnie O'Sullivan. He has done wonders with his head and Ronnie says that he has saved his career and won him three world titles. Ronnie battles with bipolar disorder but has fallen back in love with snooker thanks to Steve Peters. It's an amazing story. Well worth reading Ronnie O'Sullivan's latest autobiography.

 

[sydney]

i nursed my brother through a mental breakdown , failed marriage , wife cheating , he attacked her , ended up in prison , tried to kill himself , bloody nightmare....

what it did was give me an insight into the stigma attached to MH issues......and also the huge gap in care facilities for those affected , it was either remand centre or private clinic at his / my cost .......very unfair and showed a glaring inadequacy of the system to cope with those who are struggling with depression ......and it is a struggle......!!

 

[Seagull]

I wish I could help, perhaps somewhere on here will help? I can't explain mental health, I can only give my experience. Can anyone here help on this?

Mental health is not really so very different to physical health. The brain and the mind are part of the body. Most of us are just far more familiar with treating problems in the body that we can see and understand more easily. These links have some explanations:
http://www.mind.org.uk/information-...health/how-common-are-mental-health-problems/
http://www.nhs.uk/livewell/mentalhealth/Pages/Mentalhealthhome.aspx
http://www.time-to-change.org.uk/mental-health-statistics-facts

 

[Doc Lynam]

This type of thread is exactly why this forum is what it is.
People rally regardless of which team is supported, who the poster is and whatever the situation.
I have witnessed my father suffer a mental breakdown some years ago and it has always stuck with me. I was strong for him during his hour of need and supported him unconditionally as in sure most of you would given a simular situation.
My questions regarding this subject is genuine and has remained unanswered since my father went through his crisis...
How do you define a mental health issue being that? Could it be stress? Or could it be a bout of depression?
I would say that all of us suffer periods of at least one of these things at some time in our lives but how do we know when professional help requires seeking?
I've been going through a very tough time with divorce and all the upset that comes with that. My career has also been a bit up and down during this time as well.
I try to remain positive but it is impossible not to have bad days and times of reflection on what I have lost. I do take care of myself and make sure I continue to live my life as well as I can. I don't want to burden friends or family but don't feel that I need professional help either. Maybe I do but have no idea?
It's a very difficult thing to know I guess.
Regards to all that have been diagnosed with MH issues and are being taken care of.
UTA

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Again i'd recommend listening to the clip I've attached above.

 

[daveyboy1973]

You do get through it, ive had some horrendous times and have done things because i didnt see any other way out. Bit difficult to even write this now but through talking with various people and friends im through the worst of it, still have some dark moments but thanks for this thread, i know their are others out there. Good luck and stay strong