[Misc] Do you worry ?

[Hamilton]

At 50 you enter what’s known as sniper alley. Get through your fifties and it’s all plain sailing.


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[Raleigh Chopper]

It's not worry, it's anxiety and it's not nice and only gets worse and can lead to other conditions.
One word... Citalopram.
They are not anti depressants or mind benders, they are gentle and take a while to work.
They put you in a better happier place but they only take the edge off, you still have some of the symptoms but you are able to handle it better.
After a while you just think hey, this is alright I am not waking up worrying about this and not falling asleep at night worrying that.
I would never go on strong anti depressants which can be addictive, Citalopram are not.
Ask your GP if you want to give them a try.

 

[BBassic]

It's not worry, it's anxiety and it's not nice and only gets worse and can lead to other conditions.
One word... Citalopram.
They are not anti depressants or mind benders, they are gentle and take a while to work.
They put you in a better happier place but they only take the edge off, you still have some of the symptoms but you are able to handle it better.
After a while you just think hey, this is alright I am not waking up worrying about this and not falling asleep at night worrying that.
I would never go on strong anti depressants which can be addictive, Citalopram are not.
Ask your GP if you want to give them a try.

I was really struggling a couple of years ago. Despised my job, six year relationship had ended, personal life was a mess blah blah blah and I thought about going to my GP to get myself on some sort of....something. In the end though I went for therapy.

Found myself a humanistic counsellor and for seven months, every Saturday morning, I went and sat in a room with a bloke who just let me talk and talk and talk and cry and shout and talk some more. I've never experienced anything like it and I came out of that, with his help, with some decent tools and strategies to combat anxiety and whatnot. Per my post on the first page this is the first time since then I've really struggled.

I know a bunch of people using citalopram, family members included, and I'm not knocking that choice at all but my default recommendation for people struggling with anxiety is therapy of some sort. Of course it can quite expensive which is absolutely a barrier.

 

[Foul Play Rocks]

At the ripe old age of 49 I find I worry less but moan more.

 

[Questions]

I worry about my longevity.

Knowing my luck I've still got decades ahead of me.

Now there’s a real worry Stat..... The thought of you posting your inane drivel on here for another 30 years.

 

[Raleigh Chopper]

I was really struggling a couple of years ago. Despised my job, six year relationship had ended, personal life was a mess blah blah blah and I thought about going to my GP to get myself on some sort of....something. In the end though I went for therapy.

Found myself a humanistic counsellor and for seven months, every Saturday morning, I went and sat in a room with a bloke who just let me talk and talk and talk and cry and shout and talk some more. I've never experienced anything like it and I came out of that, with his help, with some decent tools and strategies to combat anxiety and whatnot. Per my post on the first page this is the first time since then I've really struggled.

I know a bunch of people using citalopram, family members included, and I'm not knocking that choice at all but my default recommendation for people struggling with anxiety is therapy of some sort. Of course it can quite expensive which is absolutely a barrier.

I was honestly going to add on to the end of my post about therapy/counselling.
Mrs Chopper is a qualified councillor but does not practise at the moment.
Because of this she also pushed me down the therapy route and it really does help if you get a good one.
To take the pills and have a good old chat and get it off your chest works a treat.
And then I go on the match day thread and I'm back to square one.

 

[Ninja Elephant]

I try not to worry too much about things, which is easier said than done generally. I do have general anxiety about things, I'm not currently doing a great deal in my job at work after a promotion so I have it in mind that the won't keep me around too much longer into the new year - but I'm pretty confident I could find something else, and redundancy would actually mean paying off my remaining debts. Money is a fairly classic worry, 95% of my income is gone by the end of the month each month which is very restrictive although it does allow me one well budgeted trip each month - last month I spent a weekend with friends in Darlington and saw the Newcastle game, for example. Each month I get one month closer to paying off the debts and come April 2021, I will make the final repayments on loans costing me just over £500 per month currently. It does concern me that it's so far away still, but it's 18 months rather than 5 years which wasn't all the long ago in real terms.

When this current period of repayments is done, I know I'll have a far stronger discipline when it comes to cash management going forward and I've got more direction in my life now than I had when racking up the debts. Plenty of people have it far worse than I do, so I try and keep that sort of perspective.

In terms of hobbies, I have long since stopped feeling personally involved with the Albion - what's going to happen is going to happen. I gave up the season ticket this year for the financial benefit (also because last season wasn't enjoyable bar 2/3 games) and have only been to the Burnley game so far. I'm nowhere with my darts but I am working to try and improve my throw and my running has exploded in the last two months. 8 weeks of 50 mile training weeks has resulted in my 5k times dropping like a stone, with Leicester Marathon to look forward to on sunday. I will try and run a time which allows me to qualify automatically for Chicago 2020, if not Boston 2020, and then try to start putting some cash aside to pay for it and the trip!

 

[Raleigh Chopper]

Only thing I genuinely worry about is my kids, their health and safety.

But that is a lot to worry about, and almost daily I would have thought.
Not sure 'the only thing' was the right phrase.
Having said that what good parent doesn't worry for their kids.
Worry and anxiety is everywhere in daily life, millions take something for it, modern life is a worry, depends how you cope with it I suppose but there are a lot of very angry people about on a very short fuse these days, more than I remember 20 to 30 years ago.

 

[BBassic]

I was honestly going to add on to the end of my post about therapy/counselling.
Mrs Chopper is a qualified councillor but does not practise at the moment.
Because of this she also pushed me down the therapy route and it really does help if you get a good one.
To take the pills and have a good old chat and get it off your chest works a treat.
And then I go on the match day thread and I'm back to square one.

Oh cool, funnily enough my other half is about to start work as an assistant psychologist.

 

[Stat Brother]

Now there’s a real worry Stat..... The thought of you posting your inane drivel on here for another 30 years.

Believe me nobody is more wee-wee'd off at that thought than me.

 

[dazzer6666]

And a fine job working from home, you’re clearly doing

Got to love a boring conference call

 

[Raleigh Chopper]

Oh cool, funnily enough my other half is about to start work as an assistant psychologist.

I worked today for a nice lady who is studying psycology at Plymouth university as a mature student.

 

[Herr Tubthumper]

You’ve always been ‘too cool for schule’ though HT

To be fair I don’t have children. And my extended family is the wife and just my brother and father. They’re all okay. All the while they are, so am I. And I certainly don’t worry about the Albion.

 

[Raleigh Chopper]

To be fair I don’t have children. And my extended family is the wife and just my brother and father. They’re all okay. All the while they are, so am I. And I certainly don’t worry about the Albion.

If you don't worry about The Albion then you are not a worrier at all and you will be fine.
It's the litmus test.

 

[Dave the OAP]

As I hurtle through my 50’s I’ve taken to worrying about everything that’s out there. I’ve never been a worrier but now every morning its like I’m presented with a mental list of things from getting our roof sorted to financing next years holiday to whether we continue with a back three against Spurs.
I mentioned the financial bit to my wife who said , “Stop worrying about money you could be dead next year”
Now that really made me stop worrying.

Actually the older I have got the less I worry.

I consider myself extremely lucky having survived a major illness that was very close to ending it all. I have a lovely fantastic family and love my life. It’s very easy to appear smug as there is always people that are miles worse off than you, but I do feel that there is more to life than worrying about trivial things.

People rib me all the time about the amount of holidays we take, but we don’t really go out to restaurants or cinema so that is what we really do together.

 

[Dave the OAP]

If you don't worry about The Albion then you are not a worrier at all and you will be fine.
It's the litmus test.

I haven’t worried about the Albion since the Withdean Days ... yes I get miffed when we don’t get results, but if we dropped out of this division, we would have another set of teams to play etc

 

[zefarelly]

At the ripe old age of 49 I find I worry less but moan more.

I'm @48 and with you . . . don't give a shit but groan and gripe, I seem to havve an ever decreasingly tolerance of ****wittery, as opposed to just laughing it off.

 

[Dave the OAP]

I'm @48 and with you . . . don't give a shit but groan and gripe, I seem to havve an ever decreasingly tolerance of ****wittery, as opposed to just laughing it off.

If I get stressed, I just put on Joe Bonamasa and blues away!

 

[southstandandy]

I worry about the kids at Uni just hoping they don't get caught up in the drugs scene (but I'm confident enough to think they are more mature than to get involved in such stupid behaviour), but other than that I don't worry too much from a personal perspective. Financially secure and retired at 48 I'm just trying to enjoy my spare time that perversely seems busier than when I was working. The only thing that really worries me is my disabled father who has struggled big time over the last couple of years but with close family support we are managing to keep him going in his own home, albeit with some paid for help.

Easier said than done, but I try to worry as little as possible as that can lead to depression and other symptoms so for me just keeping busy, even if it means doing some gardening or going for a walk along the river is a great way to de-stress.

 

[Foul Play Rocks]

I'm @48 and with you . . . don't give a shit but groan and gripe, I seem to havve an ever decreasingly tolerance of ****wittery, as opposed to just laughing it off.

Sometimes I do wonder if I’ll end up like the old gits.

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