thanks mate, i agree with you there , i also dont want to get in a religious argument , but i think that we do live on in some form , i think life , how everything was created, not just on earth , but in the infinity of space, is far too complex to have been an accident also for the human mind to understand.
My 4 year old son was telling me about 'silly grandad' once and I told him that he had never met him because he had died 7 years before he was born. "No he sat on my bed last week and told me some of his funny stories" my lad said.
I clipped him round the ear hole and told him not to tell lies........ But seriously it did freak me out for a couple of days before I realised he had seen some pictures of him and had heard all the tales about his storytelling and had obviously had a vivid dream.
I think.
And all the strength to you Bushy at the moment in what is so obviously such a hard time for you all.
What carries on I call the SOUL.
cheers mateMy 4 year old son was telling me about 'silly grandad' once and I told him that he had never met him because he had died 7 years before he was born. "No he sat on my bed last week and told me some of his funny stories" my lad said.
I clipped him round the ear hole and told him not to tell lies........ But seriously it did freak me out for a couple of days before I realised he had seen some pictures of him and had heard all the tales about his storytelling and had obviously had a vivid dream.
I think.
And all the strength to you Bushy at the moment in what is so obviously such a hard time for you all.
thks for tha BH , i wouldnt mind hearing of your experiences in a pm ? completely understand if you dont want to though.For what it's wort Bushy condolences on the hand you and yours have been dealt.
I was completely agnostic on an afterlife until I spent a few years as an A&E nurse. Now I am sure that there is something after this.
Not going into it but have had this proved to me more than once.
Sorry to hear about your parents [MENTION=11956]bushy[/MENTION]. It must be hard enough going through it with one, I can't imagine having both of them in such a bad way.
I too believe in something after death, just not sure what. I've heard too much anecdotal evidence from people I know, love and trust for it to be dismissed out of hand.
I did think of that , especially as our relationship has sometimes been difficult, he doesnt do the " i love you dad" type conversations , so i will just have to bite the bullet and say these things anyway, so sorry to hear about your loss, but hopefully you can take comfort from the fact that your dad didnt suffer .Hello [MENTION=11956]bushy[/MENTION]. Am very sorry to hear about your parents.
My father was in a similar situation to yours but mercifully he passed away last night without suffering too much. My reason for writing is that if you have not done so, please make sure that you have said everything that you want to say to your parents before they go. It helps.
This is a horrible situation that you are in at the moment and I feel for you. Chin up, Chap!
I did think of that , especially as our relationship has sometimes been difficult, he doesnt do the " i love you dad" type conversations , so i will just have to bite the bullet and say these things anyway, so sorry to hear about your loss, but hopefully you can take comfort from the fact that your dad didnt suffer .
I did think of that , especially as our relationship has sometimes been difficult, he doesnt do the " i love you dad" type conversations , so i will just have to bite the bullet and say these things anyway, so sorry to hear about your loss, but hopefully you can take comfort from the fact that your dad didnt suffer .
Thanks.
Our relationship was difficult also. Just being there with him will help and if you feel the need to say things then do so - it is up to you. Dont think I am forcing you!!
All the best.
You've just described to a T how it will be with my dad , I dont think there will be any need for words, just being there is enough.Just to add my two-penn'orth: I too had an 'up and down' relationship with my dad (bastard tried to make me a Palace fan for one thing). We never said "I love you", and I think there were times when we probably didn't, but he was always my dad and certainly in the last twenty years of his life things were really good between us - or at least as good as they could be.
When he was dying I went to visit him every day in hospital. Never in that time did we say "I love you" or have any type of clear-the-air conversation. And I don't regret it; I don't think now seven years later "Oh if only ..." If either of us had said it I think it we'd have both been a bit embarrassed. Emotionally repressed some might say, but that's the way things were between us, even in the hospital we just talked about football, cricket and family matters. Everyone's different and if I could go back I wouldn't change those last few weeks.
Really sorry to hear about your dad KZNSeagull.
Just to add my two-penn'orth: I too had an 'up and down' relationship with my dad (bastard tried to make me a Palace fan for one thing). We never said "I love you", and I think there were times when we probably didn't, but he was always my dad and certainly in the last twenty years of his life things were really good between us - or at least as good as they could be.
When he was dying I went to visit him every day in hospital. Never in that time did we say "I love you" or have any type of clear-the-air conversation. And I don't regret it; I don't think now seven years later "Oh if only ..." If either of us had said it I think it we'd have both been a bit embarrassed. Emotionally repressed some might say, but that's the way things were between us, even in the hospital we just talked about football, cricket and family matters. Everyone's different and if I could go back I wouldn't change those last few weeks.
Really sorry to hear about your dad KZNSeagull.