Breast feeding - A time and a place?

[SULLY COULDNT SHOOT]

Exactly as has been said before - completely fine! I haven't a bad word to say about breastfeeding - having done it myself. What I am commenting on is the change in society and how dissapointing I personally find it that women are forced back to work, and back into the social world far quicker these days and thats why breastfeeding has become public property! Why is my point so hard to understand?

If your complaint is about society not allowing the woman space to breastfeed in peace then fien we all agree. However, your inital comments seemed to place the onus on the woman who was breastfeeding. I think that's why there may be confusion.

 

[tedebear]

Quite - I personally din't like breasfeeding in public, but that is my opinion and my view, I never fed in public and never put myself in a position where I had to. I'm lucky that I'm fortunate enough to not have to return to work just yet, but many women aren't as lucky as me and this is why breastfeeding in public has become a talking point...

 

[SULLY COULDNT SHOOT]

Quite - I personally din't like breasfeeding in public, but that is my opinion and my view, I never fed in public and never put myself in a position where I had to. I'm lucky that I'm fortunate enough to not have to return to work just yet, but many women aren't as lucky as me and this is why breastfeeding in public has become a talking point...

Then we are in total agreement
That's a relief as I've always found myself agreeing with you in the past

 

[Shegull]

Magic? Tee hee...

Makes me laugh all this child led stuff...no disrespect to Starry as even though we disagree on things, we've both put alot of thought into doing what works for us and our families.

But personally I have spoken to a couple of ladies in my mother and baby group who went down the child-led (sleeping, weaning, feeding etc.) approach with dire consequences. I do find it hard to believe that as I am 30 something, that I should allow my new born child to direct me in what he wants, when he basically knows nothing...bizarre...

Ted with all due respects you say you don't believe in child/baby led approach but surely by staying at home all the time in case you need to breastfeed is exactly what has happened. Baby not yet settled into his/her routine is dictating to mum exactly where she should be at any given time. Even when the baby gets into their own routine you will still make sure you at home for feeding thus giving into baby and putting your own life on hold - even if that is only going out for a spot of lunch or meeting someone for coffee.

Mum wrapped around little finger and baby led.

 

[tedebear]

Ted with all due respects you say you don't believe in child/baby led approach but surely by staying at home all the time in case you need to breastfeed is exactly what has happened. Baby not yet settled into his/her routine is dictating to mum exactly where she should be at any given time. Even when the baby gets into their own routine you will still make sure you at home for feeding thus giving into baby and putting your own life on hold - even if that is only going out for a spot of lunch or meeting someone for coffee.

Mum wrapped around little finger and baby led.

No not at all. We decided to have a child. We respect that he's an infant who is learning learning learning all the time. Initially learning to eat and sleep, more lately learning to run, talk and have fun! So at the moment my life is on hold to teach him. Not to be led by him, but to teach him, and help him, and respect that he needs his own time, space and comforts to grow into the fantastic person he will be. My son has learnt all this best by being in a routine (not for everyone but for me). Yes now he's older its a lot more flexible, but when he was little if he needed feeding and I wanted to go out for a coffee with the girls, then it was me who had to stay home. Not him being dragged out to be fed in an unfamiliar location with unfamiliar sights and sounds. I'm not holier than thou or wahtever people may think of me, but its what I believe, that kids need more respect and teaching these days than they are getting, and from an early age. As for my social life, it'll come back some time soon, and it is starting to in dribs and drabs, but my time will come!