Breast feeding - A time and a place?

[maffew]

I agree with Pasty. Completely ridiculous that just because I have a baby it should be acceptable to flop it out in public.

I don't want to see other womens floppy tits so why is it acceptable for them to force it on me...Where's the common decency these days....

cant believe some of these quotes. how could anyone be offended by a mother feeding her baby

bizarre IMHO

 

[Shegull]

To a certain extent thats correct, but most babies only need feeding every three hours from birth. With a proper feed, they hold enough in their tummies to keep them giong for three hours.

I think you'll find my son was wanted too and everything that came along with him, however when he was born he knew nothing and at 30 something I think I knew a lot more than he did!

My second son was a bad feeder. Much as I wanted to breastfeed him he wouldn't take to it and I had no choice but to bottle feed him. To start off he took 1/4 ounce every half hour and very very very slowly increased what he could take. I would have loved to have given him a proper feed that would have satisfied him for for three or four hours but he just couldn't take it and I had to accept that and feed him whenever he wanted it. It wasn't a case of him falling asleep either - he would just get sick if he took any more than he was able to.

 

[Normal Rob]

Nope but the point I was trying to make before is that babies are made to fit into peoples routines, when I seriously believe that to a certain extent at that age they shouldn't be subject to it. Problem is many mothers HAVE to go back to work for financial reasons or any other number of reasons, which is why these issues (breastfeeding) are being made more public. In a strange convoluted way I blame a shift in society!

It is of course possible that the lady in questions routine had been broken and that she was being forced to make an unplanned journey at short notice.

 

[Lady Bracknell]

In a strange convoluted way I blame a shift in society!

Not that strange or convoluted though because I can see where you're coming from! When I was feeding small babies I didn't have to catch commuter trains to London. In fact I didn't actually have to go to work until some long while after the breastfeeding on demand stage. And I wasn't alone in having what now sounds like a very privileged lifestyle. But the economics were different 26 years ago.

So at the unpredictable stage of affairs when small babies aren't particularly bothered about following the routines you've determined for them, I could always feed a demanding baby at home and simply catch a later train.

I can't imagine having the luxury to make this choice nowadays.

 

[Dave the OAP]

Not that strange or convoluted though because I can see where you're coming from! When I was feeding small babies I didn't have to catch commuter trains to London. In fact I didn't actually have to go to work until some long while after the breastfeeding on demand stage. And I wasn't alone in having what now sounds like a very privileged lifestyle. But the economics were different 26 years ago.

So at the unpredictable stage of affairs when small babies aren't particularly bothered about following the routines you've determined for them, I could always feed a demanding baby at home and simply catch a later train.

I can't imagine having the luxury to make this choice nowadays.

with house prices in this country I cant believe anyone can afford to have a family, let alone 1 partner giving up work.

 

[Starry]

But surely, there's a time and place it? Put me right off my suduko I can tell you.

That time and a place is wherever you are when your baby needs feeding.

Good for that lady, NIP is not an easy thing to do. She should be congratulated for it, not made to feel like she is doing something wrong.

Signed,

A nursing mama who is not afraid to whip 'em out whenever Romilly is hungry, wherever that may be. Sports day at school, the football, trains, shopping...

 

[Starry]

*****sitsbackandwaitsforstarry*****

Heh! I was out for lunch and shock horror I had the nerve to feed Romilly at a table in a beer garden full of business types on their lunch break!

 

[tedebear]

My second son was a bad feeder. Much as I wanted to breastfeed him he wouldn't take to it and I had no choice but to bottle feed him. To start off he took 1/4 ounce every half hour and very very very slowly increased what he could take. I would have loved to have given him a proper feed that would have satisfied him for for three or four hours but he just couldn't take it and I had to accept that and feed him whenever he wanted it. It wasn't a case of him falling asleep either - he would just get sick if he took any more than he was able to.

Yes, I completely agree there are acceptions! But I don't think you'd have been on a train whilst going through all that?

 

[tedebear]

It is of course possible that the lady in questions routine had been broken and that she was being forced to make an unplanned journey at short notice.

Quite - thats why I said what I did...we don't know that...

 

[tedebear]

cant believe some of these quotes. how could anyone be offended by a mother feeding her baby

bizarre IMHO

I'm not offended by feeding a baby in the slightest? But do you want to see someones boobs on a packed morning commuter train....thats the question...

 

[tedebear]

Not that strange or convoluted though because I can see where you're coming from!

Phew!

I understand alot of the responses on here - not that I agree with them, and I'm often lambasted for what I've been told are my "archaic" views on the subject, along with my views on the subject of sleep training etc..

Problem is that as Dave rightly points out - many of us are forced back to work to maintain our financial obligations. So the issues of child feeding/raising have become more public property than ever before. And because mothers have to go back to work, some for babies just have to go along for the ride. Where is the respect for the first 9-12 months of life gone?

As a society we do not condone billboards with naked breasts, yet when there is a baby attached we are expected to take a different view? I personally struggle with that!

 

[Les Biehn]

I am offended by saggy tits, not breast feeding.

 

[Starry]

No one wants the baby to go hungry, but getting your baps out on a train sat opposite three strange blokes should be as a last resort, rather than as Roz rightly identifies a chance to provoke an argument by some gleeful Millie Tant figure.

What's the first resort?

 

[tedebear]

What's the first resort?

Bottle of expressed?

 

[Dave the OAP]

What's the first resort?

a bottle?

 

[Starry]

And if the baby doesn't take a bottle?

 

[tedebear]

And if the baby doesn't take a bottle?

Not really hungry then!

 

[Race]

My boy wouldn't take a bottle of boobie milk, he just wanted boobies!

 

[Man of Harveys]

But do you want to see someones boobs on a packed morning commuter train....thats the question...

Erm, yes. Very much. Every day. And on my evening train home too, if you could also arrange that.

 

[Starry]

My boy wouldn't take a bottle of boobie milk, he just wanted boobies!

Romy is the same, she is ten months old now and will not drink from a bottle. She has mastered a sippy cup for water but will only take her milk fresh from the tap.

Which is fine for me, bottles and all that go with them are a pain in the butt.