Are young people these days to selfish to have kids?

[Goring Gull]

Just read an article in a paper today about saying people are having less kids these days but that it wasn't so much due to no wanting them but people not being prepared to sacrifice life style for them. I would tend to agree I did used to think abit like this but once i had my little boy although it's hard it's the most rewarding experience going. Are people missing out for the sake of a few gadgets?

 

[See-Goals]

Looks like it. My daughter is 5 months old and I feel like the luckiest man alive to be married and have a child. People also have kids a lot older these days (career pressures, house prices etc) which must be hard, I'd hate to have kids late in life, I like being a young parent.

 

[Lammy]

I'm 29, when I take my daughter to nursary I feel like a kid myself amoungst all the other parents.

I'm glad my dad is in his 50s and not in his 70s though.

 

[Starry]

I was 21 when our first born and I wouldn't change it for anything in the world. No offence to anyone, because I am a great believer in doing whatever works for your family but I couldn't imagine being my age now and just starting our family.

 

[tedebear]

of course, as everyone knows we have Arthur now, but I'd be lying if I said I hadn't thought once or twice that we'd made a mistake....However even though I miss my old lifestyle - I wouldn't for a millionth of a second give Arthur away, not on your life or your nellie, he's ours, and we love him infinetly and well worth the sacrifice (or so they say )

 

[Goring Gull]

I was 26 which is youngish these days thinking about haveing aseconf now 2 years later but the thought of waiting till iwas 35 to have a first don't know how people do it.

In all honesty i really don't miss having a flash car or whatever the latest TV etc is.

 

[tedebear]

In all honesty i really don't miss having a flash car or whatever the latest TV etc is.

Are you the full time stay at home carer??

We don't value tv's or the like either, but we do miss our evenings out, in the pub and we aren't doing as many races this year which saddens us, but we'll get back there some day soon...

 

[See-Goals]

I was 23 when my daughter was born but now 24 - married the most amazing woman at 22 - some would say young but if all the pieces fit then age does not matter. Chuffed to bits about being a young parent, don't miss anything about my life when I didn't have a child.

 

[ben andrews' girlfriend]

I used to have a life plan where i'd be married by 23, and have kids by 25, but now im near that age, i couldnt ever imagine it! I think that nowadays there's less of an importance in getting married / having a partner, so then theres less of a social need to have children.

 

[mejonaNO12 aka riskit]

i want children when im 26.....apparently

 

[Goring Gull]

Are you the full time stay at home carer??

We don't value tv's or the like either, but we do miss our evenings out, in the pub and we aren't doing as many races this year which saddens us, but we'll get back there some day soon...

No my other half stays at home with him, SHe always wanted to do that rather tahn work which was part of the reason for moving up north as well as a better job offer i got and it gave us the money to do it on just my salary due to cheaper cost of living. Do give her her own time on my days off so she can get out and about. I think at times though it drove her mad ocasionally suppose he was a very good baby so we were lucky in that respect.

One thing i think i will find hard this year is first holiady abroad together with Aaron will really miss going out in the evenings. Take it as it comes i suppose.

 

[bhaexpress]

I'm 51 and have been married twice. I was with my first wife for over ten years and as she didn't want children I wasn't bothered. I was married the current Mrs BHA for rather less but she already had four kids and couldn't have anymore anyway I wasn't bothered then and to be honest I'm still not.

Personally I don't think I'm being selfish at all I'm just doing my bit to keep the population down.

 

[See-Goals]

A life plan - surely thats impossible to construct? Isn't making plans to marry/have kids etc based on meeting the right person? You can't put a time frame on meeting Mr or Mrs Right, it could be when you're in your 20's or 40's.

Thankfully mine came via airmail from the far east so I didn't need to do all that

 

[chip]

I have two children aged 4 and 8. Its true that your life changes, but as they get older they also introduce you to other people. The number of parents I have met when taking one or both to riding, balet, swiming etc. is incredible and from a much wider social group than I would normally expect to encounter. So, it's not a case of sacrificing lifestyle, but changing.

Also, as children make you aware of your own mortality (and other failings), they can also be a very positive influence to your lifestyle. After all, life is all about constant change not remaining the same, that would be boring. I feel very sorry for people who don't experience proper parenthood.

 

[tedebear]

No my other half stays at home with him, SHe always wanted to do that rather tahn work which was part of the reason for moving up north as well as a better job offer i got and it gave us the money to do it on just my salary due to cheaper cost of living. Do give her her own time on my days off so she can get out and about. I think at times though it drove her mad ocasionally suppose he was a very good baby so we were lucky in that respect.

One thing i think i will find hard this year is first holiady abroad together with Aaron will really miss going out in the evenings. Take it as it comes i suppose.

yeah take it as it comes, can't really do anything else...and it does drive you mad occasionally, I can vouch for that indeed!! But like yours our Arthur is a good kid and the smiles and laughs are priceless...makes me appreciate my own Mum more as she had 3 kids under the age of 5 at one stage!! We used to have long weekends away racing (historic saloons) and Arthurs been along a few times, we have a big Transit campervan which helps, but its hard work, although getting easier...race tracks arn't really places for 7 month olds but hes a trouper!!

 

[Goring Gull]

I have two children aged 4 and 8. Its true that your life changes, but as they get older they also introduce you to other people. The number of parents I have met when taking one or both to riding, balet, swiming etc. is incredible and from a much wider social group than I would normally expect to encounter. So, it's not a case of sacrificing lifestyle, but changing.

Also, as children make you aware of your own mortality (and other failings), they can also be a very positive influence to your lifestyle. After all, life is all about constant change not remaining the same, that would be boring. I feel very sorry for people who don't experience proper parenthood.

Agree with the changing - can you imagine you and your mates still trawling the nightclubs p1ssed out your heads every week in your late 30's and 40's like when you were in your twenties?

 

[Goring Gull]

yeah take it as it comes, can't really do anything else...and it does drive you mad occasionally, I can vouch for that indeed!! But like yours our Arthur is a good kid and the smiles and laughs are priceless...makes me appreciate my own Mum more as she had 3 kids under the age of 5 at one stage!! We used to have long weekends away racing (historic saloons) and Arthurs been along a few times, we have a big Transit campervan which helps, but its hard work, although getting easier...race tracks arn't really places for 7 month olds but hes a trouper!!

Had to give up my trips to Santa pod and flog the car was gutted at the time by hey a 1.2 Punto with child seat is a perfect replacement for doing a quarter mile sub 14 secs

 

[caz99]

i am getting married next year and want kids as soon after that as possible. however money restrickts me to be honest with just buying our first flat - i will be 26 in june. we cant afford to live on h2b salary alone.

maybe i was selfish when i was younger but i was busy having fun before i got married and stablised.however now i am very concious of the fact that i am getting older and probably be in my early thirties by the time my second child comes along.

 

[tedebear]

Had to give up my trips to Santa pod and flog the car was gutted at the time by hey a 1.2 Punto with child seat is a perfect replacement for doing a quarter mile sub 14 secs

ha! Arthur loves the Cortinas, sends him right to sleep!!

 

[Beach Hut]

Kids are 13 and 8 and I am 42.

I certainly would not want to be an ageing parent so pleased where we are.