Are you happy?

[Trufflehound]

the glass is always half full

Precisely. Life's too short for worrying.

 

[Braders]

the glass is always half full

... except for when its completely empty , 1/4 full , 3/4 full or completely full

 

[Trufflehound]

... except for when its completely empty , 1/4 full , 3/4 full or completely full

No. I have a special syphon permanently attached to the beer barrel that ensures I never go short...

 

[London Irish]

Care for once in your life to actually answer the question?

Care to follow your own advice? The subject of this thread is, what?

 

[larus]

Totally.

Life is great. I am content with myself, so anything else is a bonus.

I seperated last year (after 14 years) and was a bit down while going through it, but in hind-sight, it was the best thing that could have happened to me.

I've recently met someone new, and it feels good (although I wasn't really looking but I'm very happy to have met her).

All I can say from my experience is that true happiness comes from within; by being at peace with yourself. Once you find that, everything else becomes easier and more fulfilling. Corny?, maybe. True?, well for me, definately.

Don't look for drink, drugs, money, etc to make you happy. It won't, you get the short-term buzz, followed by the downer.

 

[Uncle Buck]

Care to follow your own advice? The subject of this thread is, what?

Bollocks to it, will answer your question.

Generally yes, but tonight no.

 

[Bakesy]

... except for when its completely empty , 1/4 full , 3/4 full or completely full

I had a lot of glasses like that at Derby!!!

 

[CHAPPERS]

Don't look for drink, drugs, money, etc to make you happy. It won't, you get the short-term buzz, followed by the downer.

So that's where I've been going wrong. Why didn't somebody tell me?

 

[NMH]

Always an interesting dilemma, this question.

I always feel I have the capability for great happiness, but that it requires less awareness! If ignorance is bliss, then I'd be much better off never taking anything seriously.
For all the great moments and good feelings I seem to get from so many friends and acquaintances, it only takes one wanker to bring a dark cloud, then I'm thinking about either revenge or how pissed off they make me.

Confuscious apparently said "the best revenge is to live a good life", and that simple wisdom is astoundingly true. If I concentrate only on furthering the good cause, the fulfillment of pleasurable time, and ignore or belittle the negatives, then I'll be gifting my soul way more.


There was a 60's tune by 'Cupid's Inspiration' that was very hippy in sentiment, but rightonbrothersandsistaahs!;

"Yesterday has just departed, and tomorrow hasn't started, all that really matters is right now.
And you should, live a lifetime in each minute, take the sweetness from within it, yesterday has gone without a sound.

Come on baby let the good times roll
time is wasting and we’ll soon be old
just give in to what you feel inside
give your life a chance to open wide.

What’s the good of living in the past
look around your things are changin’ fast
don’t concern yourself with what’s ahead
it’s too late to live when you are dead."

 

[Stumpy Tim]

So that's where I've been going wrong. Why didn't somebody tell me?

Don't worry Chapmans, it's a lie. Once the short-term buzz is over, just do some more. It's easy

 

[caz99]

not really no, i just keep up a good false pretence

 

[larus]

Always an interesting dilemma, this question.

I always feel I have the capability for great happiness, but that it requires less awareness! If ignorance is bliss, then I'd be much better off never taking anything seriously.
For all the great moments and good feelings I seem to get from so many friends and acquaintances, it only takes one wanker to bring a dark cloud, then I'm thinking about either revenge or how pissed off they make me.

Confuscious apparently said "the best revenge is to live a good life", and that simple wisdom is astoundingly true. If I concentrate only on furthering the good cause, the fulfillment of pleasurable time, and ignore or belittle the negatives, then I'll be gifting my soul way more.


There was a 60's tune by 'Cupid's Inspiration' that was very hippy in sentiment, but rightonbrothersandsistaahs!;

"Yesterday has just departed, and tomorrow hasn't started, all that really matters is right now.
And you should, live a lifetime in each minute, take the sweetness from within it, yesterday has gone without a sound.

Come on baby let the good times roll
time is wasting and we’ll soon be old
just give in to what you feel inside
give your life a chance to open wide.

What’s the good of living in the past
look around your things are changin’ fast
don’t concern yourself with what’s ahead
it’s too late to live when you are dead."

Good post NMH.

I read something about 'mindfullness' (or something like that)once. All down to the fact there is not future, no past, only the here and now.

The meaning was you can't change what has happened, if you dwell on the negatives, it only makes you unhappy, but for what purpose. If you worry too much about the future, don't. What will be, will be. OK, you may plan, but so many factors you cannot control. Just live for the moment, experience the moment; enjoy theat feeling of a cool breeze on your face, the warmth of the sunshine, the pleasure of music, (taking 6 points off the scum), listen to your body and your senses, don't dull them.

Enjoy the world and be content with who you are. Let go of any inner anger.

 

[NMH]

Good post NMH.

I read something about 'mindfullness' (or something like that)once. All down to the fact there is not future, no past, only the here and now.

The meaning was you can't change what has happened, if you dwell on the negatives, it only makes you unhappy, but for what purpose. If you worry too much about the future, don't. What will be, will be. OK, you may plan, but so many factors you cannot control. Just live for the moment, experience the moment; enjoy theat feeling of a cool breeze on your face, the warmth of the sunshine, the pleasure of music, (taking 6 points off the scum), listen to your body and your senses, don't dull them.

Enjoy the world and be content with who you are. Let go of any inner anger.

That is an excellent confirmation of an ethos that reads really well, is absolutely well founded, but is terribly difficult to take on board fully and completely. It has a connection with the Christian teaching of forgiveness, and perhaps too, the Buddhist idea of letting the World balance itself without your eating your own liver and grinding your teeth about it.
It is horrendously hard to consign, when some bastardo has wronged you.
How is justice redressed when absolutely no vengeance is ever eked out upon that mutha? What, when they see your inaction, as a resigning to being stepped on?

Does one allow oneself to be walked over, or are consequences better meted out and soon? Surely discipline must require that one takes an active part in handing it out?

What if someone screws you out of money for work, for instance, and you go short because of it? Do you let it go with the risk that you remain screwed while they laugh about it in present and in future, or do you wait your moment and 'serve them cold'?

 

[larus]

That is an excellent confirmation of an ethos that reads really well, is absolutely well founded, but is terribly difficult to take on board fully and completely. It has a connection with the Christian teaching of forgiveness, and perhaps too, the Buddhist idea of letting the World balance itself without your eating your own liver and grinding your teeth about it.
It is horrendously hard to consign, when some bastardo has wronged you.
How is justice redressed when absolutely no vengeance is ever eked out upon that mutha? What, when they see your inaction, as a resigning to being stepped on?

Does one allow oneself to be walked over, or are consequences better meted out and soon? Surely discipline must require that one takes an active part in handing it out?

What if someone screws you out of money for work, for instance, and you go short because of it? Do you let it go with the risk that you remain screwed while they laugh about it in present and in future, or do you wait your moment and 'serve them cold'?

I wish I could answer those questions, but I'm afraid that I can't. The issues of forgiveness and tolerance are easy to espouse, but difficult to adopt. I do my best to be content and at peace, but I do sometimes fail (5-0 at Smellhurst was a bad day ).

IMO, the feelings of anger are OK, it's if they are allowed to fester, then this is what can cause the unhappiness.