[Help] Advice required - Dating a “Lateral thinker”

[Gabbafella]

Remembers minute details and picks you up on them? Sounds like you've got yourself a regular female there.

 

[Southern Scouse]

Thanks.... actually watching The Bridge ......
Definitely worth effort....
Having been married for over 25 years.... this is a little different but thanks for the comments

 

[Eeyore]

Ok, I just wondered if anyone here, being the font of all knowledge, could offer some help either as a “ Lateral thinker” or someone who has a partner who is.
This is not just the odd occasion, this is about someone who could be autistic or has Asperger’s. I have no knowledge of this field at all. After a divorce, this is my first proper relationship in two years, and this is very important to me. Problem is, we get along as though we have been together for years, but she questions everything and takes everything literally. I made a mistake of getting the dates wrong over something that happened 35 years ago... and I had to spend hours convincing her it was a mistake. She has a near photographic memory and seems to check things I have said in the past. There is no malice, but it’s difficult to be thinking about everything you are going to say, all the time.
I’ve done some research and this constant literal thinking could be related to autism/ Aspergers. This lady is a very intelligent, success person...
So if anyone has any similar experience they’d like to share let me know on here or PM me, it’s much appreciated.

Sounds you're dating Alexa...

 

[Uncle C]

Sounds you're dating Alexa...

Nope. Alexa is one of the few 'women' you can tell to shut her gob and she does. All this without sulking.

 

[Aveacarlin']

Unless you are considering dating a man this sounds like par for the course.

Spot on [emoji16]

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[Biscuit]

Now I know this might sound crazy but.. have you tried talking to her about it?

*ducks for cover*

 

[AmexRuislip]

Women have brains

 

[Southern Scouse]

Now I know this might sound crazy but.. have you tried talking to her about it?

*ducks for cover*

No, that’s a good question! I work in the NHS, I notice it. She mentions it’s just her thing, but I don’t think she rationalises it.
In truth, it doesn’t matter, I’m just worried I’ll balls it up. Maybe in the future I could bring it up ��

 

[Harry Wilson's tackle]

I spent 4 years with someone like that. I had to leave in the end. Nothing good can come of it.

 

[Hampster Gull]

 

[Simster]

Apologies if this sounds very superficial but you could do worse than watch 'The Bridge' where the main character, Saga, seems to fall into this category. (If your partner looks like her, I think the relationship might well be worth some investment.)

God yes. Utter oddball though she is, she is visually appealing and even her personality has a strange attraction. I love Saga.

 

[Rugrat]

Apologies if this sounds very superficial but you could do worse than watch 'The Bridge' where the main character, Saga, seems to fall into this category. (If your partner looks like her, I think the relationship might well be worth some investment.)

As soon as I read the OP that's what I thought

 

[Triggaaar]

Omg.... cannot change the title....

I think you did it on purpose to take the piss out of her.

 

[DJ NOBO]

Ok, I just wondered if anyone here, being the font of all knowledge, could offer some help either as a “ Lateral thinker” or someone who has a partner who is.
This is not just the odd occasion, this is about someone who could be autistic or has Asperger’s. I have no knowledge of this field at all. After a divorce, this is my first proper relationship in two years, and this is very important to me. Problem is, we get along as though we have been together for years, but she questions everything and takes everything literally. I made a mistake of getting the dates wrong over something that happened 35 years ago... and I had to spend hours convincing her it was a mistake. She has a near photographic memory and seems to check things I have said in the past. There is no malice, but it’s difficult to be thinking about everything you are going to say, all the time.
I’ve done some research and this constant literal thinking could be related to autism/ Aspergers. This lady is a very intelligent, success person...
So if anyone has any similar experience they’d like to share let me know on here or PM me, it’s much appreciated.

Sounds like you’re trying to make something work that isn’t meant to work.
Trust your instincts.
Deep down ,you know the right thing to do is gently sack her off .

 

[Southern Scouse]

Oh bloody hell..... the s*it has really hit the fan in SS’s latest search for love...
Mods.... could you please delete this thread...... I really mean, pretty please.

 

[Taybha]

Don't you dare delete this thread , i can see a happy ending , obviously after 200 pages of NSC invaluable advice .

 

[goldstone]

Ok, I just wondered if anyone here, being the font of all knowledge, could offer some help either as a “ Lateral thinker” or someone who has a partner who is.
This is not just the odd occasion, this is about someone who could be autistic or has Asperger’s. I have no knowledge of this field at all. After a divorce, this is my first proper relationship in two years, and this is very important to me. Problem is, we get along as though we have been together for years, but she questions everything and takes everything literally. I made a mistake of getting the dates wrong over something that happened 35 years ago... and I had to spend hours convincing her it was a mistake. She has a near photographic memory and seems to check things I have said in the past. There is no malice, but it’s difficult to be thinking about everything you are going to say, all the time.
I’ve done some research and this constant literal thinking could be related to autism/ Aspergers. This lady is a very intelligent, success person...
So if anyone has any similar experience they’d like to share let me know on here or PM me, it’s much appreciated.

Simple answer. Dump her. Not worth dating anyone who is a hassle to be with. Only likely to get worse. Lots of fish in the sea.

 

[brakespear]

Nope. Alexa is one of the few 'women' you can tell to shut her gob and she does. All this without sulking.

That's what you think - she's secretly ordering £5000 worth of fertiliser be delivered to your front room

 

[Bevendean Hillbilly]

If se really does have a photographic memory you'd better be prepared to have every mistake you make being raked up in every argument from now until your dying day.

Of course it sounds like she is on the spectrum but, having been with a range of women from all different classes, backgrounds, IQs and temperament I can say with confidence that ALL of them have issues from full on mental illness to emotional instability, you just have to decide what level of lunacy is acceptable.

My dad use to say "son, no matter how good she looks, no matter how much you fancy her...remember that somebody somewhere has had to put up with her shit"

 

[Albion_Dave]

If you're worried about every little thing you say then it really isn't worth it.

Sounds like she has some deep rooted issues that aren't going to go away anytime soon i'm afraid.