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Wife taking your name?
- Thread starter Les Biehn
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bhaexpress
New member
Well who'd want to be Mrs Biehn ?
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Plenty of star struck young ladies.
jonny.rainbow
Well-known member
- Oct 29, 2005
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I think it's a very outdated idea.
I would not expect my wife to take my name.
I would not expect my wife to take my name.
Mine did, and I have a terrible name.
I think it is pretty shit not to in all honesty. the only exceptions I would concede would be if she were a writer or actress, or glamour model for example whom traded on their name. Even then they could continue to use that proffessionally and take yours anyway.
I think it is pretty shit not to in all honesty. the only exceptions I would concede would be if she were a writer or actress, or glamour model for example whom traded on their name. Even then they could continue to use that proffessionally and take yours anyway.
Easy 10
Brain dead MUG SHEEP
She;s taken everything else, might as well have the bloody name as well.
*ducks*
*ducks*
eastlondonseagull
Well-known member
Yes. But no. We got married a year ago now, but we've lost the marriage certificate, so she's not changed her name yet 
Methinks it may have been hidden
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Methinks it may have been hidden
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my wife took my name. I'd have been pretty narked if she choose not to.
not to mention Mr MYNAMEISTHIS and Mrs HERNAMEISTHAT-DOUBLEBARRELED on bank details, council tax, etc takes too long to write when I have to fill in the paperwork. So Mr and Mrs SAMENAME works best for my lazy self.
not to mention Mr MYNAMEISTHIS and Mrs HERNAMEISTHAT-DOUBLEBARRELED on bank details, council tax, etc takes too long to write when I have to fill in the paperwork. So Mr and Mrs SAMENAME works best for my lazy self.
Quite right Paddy. AND if she didn't, then when your kids get older and open bank accounts everyone would know their mother's maiden name and be able to steal all their money!
John Dorian
Glass Case of EMOTION
that has just made me laugh. You do have a silly, yet unfortunate surname Mr. Samename, don't you Mr. Starry In my response to the thread, too right she will take my name.
Easy 10
Brain dead MUG SHEEP
I just read that and thought you must be GREEK or something.
The penny didn;t drop till I made a REAL EFFORT at pronouncing your name.
Meade's Ball
Well-known member
I suppose some of it might be about the pride a man feels for his family history, that he's following a line that shouldn't be smudged.
But nowadays ours surnames no longer represent what we do for a living, and most likely fail to highlight the strength we've potentially inherited, so it comes down to social association; whether a bride is marrying a man called "Bellamy" and thinks firstly of David or Craig. The former, then the name, and sluggishness, is hers. The latter, then something she fails to want. Both, then she's got making love on Thursday and Friday and Saturday, chilling on Sunday on her mind while her husband wears a tight hat and ever-stubbly face.
I wouldn't enforce a lady to want to be a Mrs Mysurname, as what could i gain, and why would i foolishly look to press her under my order if she had greater pride in her own family's past or struggle. I'd be merry if she said yes and had her own mind for things.
But nowadays ours surnames no longer represent what we do for a living, and most likely fail to highlight the strength we've potentially inherited, so it comes down to social association; whether a bride is marrying a man called "Bellamy" and thinks firstly of David or Craig. The former, then the name, and sluggishness, is hers. The latter, then something she fails to want. Both, then she's got making love on Thursday and Friday and Saturday, chilling on Sunday on her mind while her husband wears a tight hat and ever-stubbly face.
I wouldn't enforce a lady to want to be a Mrs Mysurname, as what could i gain, and why would i foolishly look to press her under my order if she had greater pride in her own family's past or struggle. I'd be merry if she said yes and had her own mind for things.
Billy the Fish
Technocrat
I don't really care, but I hate people with double barreled surnames and you should both have the same name if you're married so that option is ruled out. I'd be up for taking her name, but everyone would just think you were under the thumb or a wierdo, so the best option all round is for her to take my name.
Lady Bracknell
Handbag at Dawn
I wouldn't change my name. But then I'm not expecting to have any reason to consider the question!
Billy the Fish
Technocrat
Its a personal preference thing, I've changed mine and my sister hasn't changed hers...
A few personal reasons, I have been married before, so infact I had my previous husbands name, which after that sad and long period of my life ended I had no wish to be associated with it everyday, and for Zef to see it continually and be reminded, but the main reason for changing my name is that I'm proud to be Mrs Zefarelly, and more than happy for everyone to know me as such. I haven't lost any of my identity, infact I think I've gained...
A few side issues also are that its easier to manage a house when I sign up to the socially acceptable title of Mrs, people assume I'm Mrs Zef. anyhow....but now that we have Arthur its much more straight forward, I don't have to prove my position as his mother as I have the same surname....my sister has a different last name to her son, confusing for him yes!!
A few personal reasons, I have been married before, so infact I had my previous husbands name, which after that sad and long period of my life ended I had no wish to be associated with it everyday, and for Zef to see it continually and be reminded, but the main reason for changing my name is that I'm proud to be Mrs Zefarelly, and more than happy for everyone to know me as such. I haven't lost any of my identity, infact I think I've gained...
A few side issues also are that its easier to manage a house when I sign up to the socially acceptable title of Mrs, people assume I'm Mrs Zef. anyhow....but now that we have Arthur its much more straight forward, I don't have to prove my position as his mother as I have the same surname....my sister has a different last name to her son, confusing for him yes!!
Lady Bracknell
Handbag at Dawn
Pissed Off? Oh dearie me no! Quite the opposite!
bhaexpress
New member
I think the practice of using both surnames to create a double barreled name is pretty sad. I went to a school with the daughters Mr Ford and Ms. Brown. Okay you you have tedious surnames don't compound it by using two dull names to make a really pompous one.