Marriage proposal advise needed

[Stat Brother]

Other than the screaming crys of 'DON'T DO IT'.

I think it's time I grew up and did the decent thing, but need some advise on the general etiquette (sp) of the big moment.

I've got time & place sorted in my mind, I know she'll say yes, (there's a ring on top of the computer that fits her finger, & has been there for quite some time).

Is it a nice simple 1 knee "will you marry me" or should I ponce it up a little?

What's the thing with engagement rings?, do I get a 'token' one & we shop together for the 'real' thing?, or just go for it?

Thank you

 

[Simon Morgan]

what is "Ask the Club" for?!?!?!

 

[Brighton till i die]

definatley 1 knee my friend!

i thought if i choose the ring i'd f*** it up, and she'd have to pretend she likes it forever - so i went down to Hatton Gardens after she said yes so she could choose!!

ALSO - ask permission from her dad if poss!!

(good luck fella!)

 

[CHAPPERS]

Write it on your face while she's asleep and lie face to face with her.

 

[Lokki 7]

Ah marraige. 20 blissfull years, then I met her.
Good luck mate

 

[Publius Ovidius]

Ah marraige. 20 blissfull years, then I met her.
Good luck mate

as you are married to an extremely beautifil wife Lokki, I find that very hard to believe...LOL

 

[Tooting Gull]

Firstly, I wouldn't ever presume to 'give advice' on this. It's a very personal thing, each to their own and all that.

But here's an example from (very) recent experience. On holiday in the States, up at Glacier Point in Yosemite overlooking the Nevada and Vernal Falls, Half Dome and the valley. Produced ring which had been cunningly hidden in a trainer for two weeks. Didn't get down on one knee - it was all granite up there, bit tough on the patella...

I said there's something I want to ask you, and she claims she thought I wanted her to hold the camera case, but the 'yes' was procured and we have some nice snaps of the big moment. It was slightly 'ponced up' from the basic will you marry me, but I won't be repeating all that on here!

 

[Lokki 7]

as you are married to an extremely beautifil wife Lokki, I find that very hard to believe...LOL

Yeah you're right Dave, I'm a lucky fella. Tongue firmly in cheek.

 

[Lokki 7]

Firstly, I wouldn't ever presume to 'give advice' on this. It's a very personal thing, each to their own and all that.

But here's an example from (very) recent experience. On holiday in the States, up at Glacier Point in Yosemite overlooking the Nevada and Vernal Falls, Half Dome and the valley. Produced ring which had been cunningly hidden in a trainer for two weeks. Didn't get down on one knee - it was all granite up there, bit tough on the patella...

I said there's something I want to ask you, and she claims she thought I wanted her to hold the camera case, but the 'yes' was procured and we have some nice snaps of the big moment. It was slightly 'ponced up' from the basic will you marry me, but I won't be repeating all that on here!

Nice. Congratulations

 

[London Calling]

though we not married..........................we went up to Durham to get a ring hand made and designed by her for her.

Bonuses are:

You can make that a romantic weekend.

The actual costs are still far cheaper than Hatton Garden.

The quality of the gold etc is better.

It is a crafted ring.

It has the personnal touch.

etc

LC

 

[tedebear]

1 knee thing is very old fashioned - if she's a romantic she'll probably appreciate it, its not my cup of tea though - I got asked face to face and it was perfect!!

We chose wedding rings together - but my other half has pretty darn good taste so I'm sure he would have been able to choose them himself....but going shopping together was great...if your girl is a bit picky about jewlery then I suggest leaving it to her choice..

I don't have an engagement ring - of course I wouldn't have said no and most girls like them but I like the idea of a nice wide wedding band on my finger - he can buy me an eternity ring later if he wants....

 

[Gritt23]

Maybe I'm a bit odd, but I always figured I would steer clear of the over-romantic gestures when it came to a marriage proposal.

Sun kissed beach, top restaurant, exotic location .... nah bollocks the rest of your life isn't going to be like that, so why risk her getting carried away with th emomet and saying yes when in the cold light of day and the reality of your lives she might not fancy it. !

Propose on you way home after a night out, you're a bit drunk, smell of b.o., and you are both walking home in th epissing rain because you blew the cab money in the casino you dragged her to at the end of the night.

At that moment, if she says yes, she really loves you.


[oh Mrs Gritt23, you lucky lucky thing, you really have got a sweet old romantic here.]

 

[Stat Brother]

Firstly, I wouldn't ever presume to 'give advice' on this. It's a very personal thing, each to their own and all that.

But here's an example from (very) recent experience. On holiday in the States, up at Glacier Point in Yosemite overlooking the Nevada and Vernal Falls, Half Dome and the valley. Produced ring which had been cunningly hidden in a trainer for two weeks. Didn't get down on one knee - it was all granite up there, bit tough on the patella...

I said there's something I want to ask you, and she claims she thought I wanted her to hold the camera case, but the 'yes' was procured and we have some nice snaps of the big moment. It was slightly 'ponced up' from the basic will you marry me, but I won't be repeating all that on here!

She can feck off if she thinks she'll get a trip to the States for this. She'll have to settle for Arundel & like it!!

Thank you all, so far.

I assume it's poor form to buy the ring from our joint account.

 

[itszamora]

I assume it's poor form to buy the ring from our joint account.

Quite probably yes!

 

[Mr C]

Oh how topical

I did my proposal only four days ago!

Spoke to her dad about it beforehand. She knew it was coming so was able to go out and buy the ring with her before too, so that was sorted.

Proposed on one knee in a hot air balloon... she liked that

 

[Lokki 7]

Maybe I'm a bit odd, but I always figured I would steer clear of the over-romantic gestures when it came to a marriage proposal.


Know what you mean. My missus proposed to me drunk (she can't even remember!) outside a nightclub I'd just be thrown out of for fighting. Classy. She then proceeded to be sick and collapsed by the roadside. I had to carry her home because cabs wouldn't take her. Not the most romantic start to our married life but thats what you get if you marry a Finn.

 

[caz99]

aaaaahhh i love hearing these stories. i keep waiting for my boyf to ask me. but its just not happening

 

[Pavilionaire]

A text book engagement is as follows:

1. Ask the father's permission.
2. Obtain suitable ring THAT FITS (crucial point this)
3. Finance ring from own, personal funds - do not tell the lady how much it costs but keep receipt for insurance purposes.
4. Go somewhere special to make announcement, preferably not in a public place as you don't want the situation to embarrass either you or her.
5. Make a lead-up speech so she knows what's coming, just to build up the excitement.
6. Look into her eyes as you say the immortal words, make it look like you mean it.
7. Once she say Yes do not milk the situation, i.e. ask for anal sex.

 

[Normal Rob]

True story... beware the one knee thing!

A Danish friend of mine was all geared for the big moment. The ring was ready, the time was right, the location was right. So he went for it.

His left knee when straight into a dog turd!



look before you kneel.

 

[London Calling]

Maybe I'm a bit odd, but I always figured I would steer clear of the over-romantic gestures when it came to a marriage proposal.


Know what you mean. My missus proposed to me drunk (she can't even remember!) outside a nightclub I'd just be thrown out of for fighting. Classy. She then proceeded to be sick and collapsed by the roadside. I had to carry her home because cabs wouldn't take her. Not the most romantic start to our married life but thats what you get if you marry a Finn.

That's right you can't propose whilst sober!

One of our mates proposed to his wife on a seat in Newcastle Metro. So every time they go past it brings back memories.

I had planned to propose to Ms LC at Lisbon Castle, but she was a pain in the arse on that hol and it never happened ...........then.

LC