All I will say is, don't fall into the trap of thinking that there are loads of women going round making up these sort of allegations to get guys into shit. There really aren't. Not nearly as many, in fact, as instances of men forcing themselves on women simply because they're their partners, or because they let them kiss them, or because "she looked like she wanted it".
There is always a heavily misplaced sense of grievance on this (admittedly emotive) subject, and as someone who's seen both sides of the coin through work, it does get to me when people form this impression that thousands of women are out there trying to stitch up innocent men.
You can't penalise the woman for the accusation as that would just scare a lot of real victims from speaking out.
it does get to me when people form this impression that thousands of women are out there trying to stitch up innocent men.
I disagree that it's misplaced grievance. So you say there are more men forcing themselves on women than their are false accusations. I'm not arguing with that, but that's not relevant. We all agree that anyone forcing themselves on someone is a crime that should be punished. We're not discussing that. We're discussing the occasions where someone inflicts harm on another by making a false accusation. which is disgusting.All I will say is, don't fall into the trap of thinking that there are loads of women going round making up these sort of allegations to get guys into shit. There really aren't. Not nearly as many, in fact, as instances of men forcing themselves on women simply because they're their partners, or because they let them kiss them, or because "she looked like she wanted it".
There is always a heavily misplaced sense of grievance on this (admittedly emotive) subject
Without knowing the facts, my thoughts are along the lines of emailing her to ask why she did it etc - ie, get her to admit she did it, and get proof that it didn't happen (if you don't already have proof). Then it's not your word against hers, and depending on how you feel I'd consider making a complaint or making sure that people who knew her knew they could be up for rape if they fell out with her etc.Had this happen to me a few months back, and even though It was 100% unfounded, and I had people spit at me in the street over it, they girl got away scott free as she'd only told friends and family, not the police therefore (apparently) not breaking the law.
Isnt making rape claims up classed as wasting police time or something about making a crime up, which sounds fancier than what i just said ?
Dont see how punishing someone who is found to of been making claims up would discourage people from reporting rape, if anything its discouraging making claims up.
Isnt making rape claims up classed as wasting police time or something about making a crime up, which sounds fancier than what i just said ?
Dont see how punishing someone who is found to of been making claims up would discourage people from reporting rape, if anything its discouraging making claims up.
Sadly a great deal of Joe public work on the basis that there's no smoke without fireOur court system is based on the idea that you are presumed innocent until proven guilty. We should work to make sure our prejudices as a society reflect that.
Isn't that for witches?
Our court system is based on the idea that you are presumed innocent until proven guilty.
Eesh, nasty story.I once had to go the police about child abuse. The person denied everything, and as there wasn't any physical evidence it was literally my word (and the child's word) against his. He was arrested but let off, but then he went around taunting me that he was "innocent" because he hadn't been charged.
Of course someone that's let off can still be guilty. The point is though that it's not right that that person's name is dragged through the press etc, unless it is proved that they're guilty.As a serial criminal, his belief is that if he hasn't been caught then he's technically innocent. In my eyes, just because he wasn't charged doesn't make him innocent. Even if something goes to court, how can anyone else pass judgement when they weren't there?
Should be named and shamed. If a man is accused of rape and it is proved he is innocent, that man reputation is stained for life where as the woman's identity is normally withheld. Time for the law to be changed>
might want to change what you've written in location on your profile for this thread mate!
"Location Under Your Skin... or your daughters bed."
You should also take the person who wrote your location to court for deformation of character.
There is a certain amount of irony isn't there?
That someone who comes on here bemoaning the fact he has been falsely accused of rape has "under your daughter's bed" as his location!
Same as the guy would have got for whatever details they claimed?
This is extremely hard to prove unless it's printed or on the web! as it's just your word against hers, that is unless you have witnesses who will give evidence.
All I will say is, don't fall into the trap of thinking that there are loads of women going round making up these sort of allegations to get guys into shit. There really aren't. Not nearly as many, in fact, as instances of men forcing themselves on women simply because they're their partners, or because they let them kiss them, or because "she looked like she wanted it".
There is always a heavily misplaced sense of grievance on this (admittedly emotive) subject, and as someone who's seen both sides of the coin through work, it does get to me when people form this impression that thousands of women are out there trying to stitch up innocent men.
Why can't people capitalise their sentences?why can't anybody spell defamation?