Digweeds Trousers
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It has been a while since I last posted here as life has ben a bit difficult recently. I know people can get flamed for posting personal situations on here but I need some practical advice.
I was engaged last year and in December 2008 we had a beautiful baby girl/ Things looked great and then everything crumbled.
I was made redundant half way through last year, pressure began to mount and stress abounded in the DT household. We had argued, shouted and eventually agreed that for the sake of the baby we would ahve a time out with me staying at a friends house but coming round every day to see the little one and look after if the other half needed to go out.
T|hree - four weeks passed and I had every intention of making it work once things had calmed down.
Then a month ago she announced she had falled in love with someone else who was kind, understanding and she felt happy with. He is divorced with two teenage children and is now creating massive pressure.
He wants her to move in with him, take over the father responsibilities day to day and then two weeks ago called me out of the blue.
He told me that if contacted my ex once more he would do everything he could to enforce a restraining order etc etc and minimse my influence in their lives.
He told me to pay money, leave alone and in return the ex would allow me to see my daughter for two hours every other weekend.
I cannot afford to throw money at a solicitor.........what the hell can I do as we were not married although I am the father on the certficate and she bears my surname.
I have no idea what the future holds - she will not talk to me and everything has to go through her family and to see my daughter I have to have parents with me.
I could never iamagine it coming to this but now I need to try and understand how to proceed and what the potential pit falls are in dealing with an ex who hates me, is with someone else and above all a little baby girl who is going to grow up without her Dad involved in her life to any real degree.
Sorry for the brain dump - I just figured that after years of posting on here ther would be some people who have been through similar.
I was engaged last year and in December 2008 we had a beautiful baby girl/ Things looked great and then everything crumbled.
I was made redundant half way through last year, pressure began to mount and stress abounded in the DT household. We had argued, shouted and eventually agreed that for the sake of the baby we would ahve a time out with me staying at a friends house but coming round every day to see the little one and look after if the other half needed to go out.
T|hree - four weeks passed and I had every intention of making it work once things had calmed down.
Then a month ago she announced she had falled in love with someone else who was kind, understanding and she felt happy with. He is divorced with two teenage children and is now creating massive pressure.
He wants her to move in with him, take over the father responsibilities day to day and then two weeks ago called me out of the blue.
He told me that if contacted my ex once more he would do everything he could to enforce a restraining order etc etc and minimse my influence in their lives.
He told me to pay money, leave alone and in return the ex would allow me to see my daughter for two hours every other weekend.
I cannot afford to throw money at a solicitor.........what the hell can I do as we were not married although I am the father on the certficate and she bears my surname.
I have no idea what the future holds - she will not talk to me and everything has to go through her family and to see my daughter I have to have parents with me.
I could never iamagine it coming to this but now I need to try and understand how to proceed and what the potential pit falls are in dealing with an ex who hates me, is with someone else and above all a little baby girl who is going to grow up without her Dad involved in her life to any real degree.
Sorry for the brain dump - I just figured that after years of posting on here ther would be some people who have been through similar.
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