How many game is his ban as I thought foul and abusive language was 2 games but violent conduct 3 games plus of course an extra game for being the 2nd red card this season.
You're right about those ban times.
http://www.thefa.com/~/media/Files/TheFAPortal/governance-docs/rules-of-the-association/section-a---field-offences-in-first-team-matches.ashx
(b) PLAYERS SENT OFF UNDER LAW 12 (7)
Subject to the provision of 8(a)(iv) above, player who is dismissed from the Field of Play for
receiving a second caution in the same match will be suspended automatically from FTCM
forthwith until his Club’s First Team has completed its next FTCM.
(c) PLAYERS SENT OFF UNDER LAW 12 (4) and (5)
A Player who is dismissed from the Field of Play for denying a goal or an obvious goalscoring
opportunity by physical means or by handling the ball, will be suspended automatically
from FTCM commencing forthwith, until such time as his Club has completed its next FTCM.
(d) PLAYERS SENT OFF UNDER LAW 12 (6)
A Player who is dismissed from the Field of Play for using offensive or insulting or abusive
language/gestures, whether he has previously been cautioned in the match or not, will be
suspended automatically from FTCM commencing forthwith, and until such time as his
Club’s First Team has completed its next two FTCM.
(e) PLAYERS SENT OFF UNDER LAW 12 (1), (2) AND (3)
A Player who is dismissed from the Field of Play for Violent Conduct, Serious Foul Play or
spitting at an opponent or any other person, whether he has previously been cautioned
in the match or not, will be suspended automatically from all Club football, except for any
match sanctioned or regarded by The Football Association as a Friendly Match, including
non-First Team matches commencing forthwith and until such time as his Club’s First Team
has completed its next three matches in approved Competitions.
...
(g) Players dismissed from the Field of Play in a FTCM, having previously in the same season
been sent off
in a FTCM (or suspended under the Standard Directions set out in Schedule
A in these Regulations for an incident in a FTCM), will be suspended for one extra match
for each such previous sending off
or suspension, in addition to the automatic suspension
applicable to the dismissal.
Subject to the provision of 8(a)(iv) above, player who is dismissed from the Field of Play for
receiving a second caution in the same match will be suspended automatically from FTCM
forthwith until his Club’s First Team has completed its next FTCM.
(c) PLAYERS SENT OFF UNDER LAW 12 (4) and (5)
A Player who is dismissed from the Field of Play for denying a goal or an obvious goalscoring
opportunity by physical means or by handling the ball, will be suspended automatically
from FTCM commencing forthwith, until such time as his Club has completed its next FTCM.
(d) PLAYERS SENT OFF UNDER LAW 12 (6)
A Player who is dismissed from the Field of Play for using offensive or insulting or abusive
language/gestures, whether he has previously been cautioned in the match or not, will be
suspended automatically from FTCM commencing forthwith, and until such time as his
Club’s First Team has completed its next two FTCM.
(e) PLAYERS SENT OFF UNDER LAW 12 (1), (2) AND (3)
A Player who is dismissed from the Field of Play for Violent Conduct, Serious Foul Play or
spitting at an opponent or any other person, whether he has previously been cautioned
in the match or not, will be suspended automatically from all Club football, except for any
match sanctioned or regarded by The Football Association as a Friendly Match, including
non-First Team matches commencing forthwith and until such time as his Club’s First Team
has completed its next three matches in approved Competitions.
...
(g) Players dismissed from the Field of Play in a FTCM, having previously in the same season
been sent off
in a FTCM (or suspended under the Standard Directions set out in Schedule
A in these Regulations for an incident in a FTCM), will be suspended for one extra match
for each such previous sending off
or suspension, in addition to the automatic suspension
applicable to the dismissal.
Those are the punishments for red cards. It comes down to whether the trip is considered (d) violent conduct (since the ball wasn't there!) or if it is considered (e) "foul or abusive or insulting gesture" since it was more petty dissent than excessive aggression.