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How are you doing? Surviving? Will you ever be able to read the Gruffalo again without rapping it?
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[Humour] The Official Dad's (of toddlers) thread
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Thanks for adding this thread.
Dad of a just-turned-one year old and while I absolutely adore her, it's been probably the hardest year of my life. Hard to explain that something that the majority of people do, can simultaneously be more difficult than more specialised things I've achieved, if that makes sense.
Julia Donaldson is brilliant though, as is whoever created Bluey.
Interested to hear from anyone who has more than one child. My wife and I have always spoken about having two, but if I'm honest I've struggled with one and I'm nervous how I'd manage with a second.
Sorry for turning the thread downwards somewhat
Dad of a just-turned-one year old and while I absolutely adore her, it's been probably the hardest year of my life. Hard to explain that something that the majority of people do, can simultaneously be more difficult than more specialised things I've achieved, if that makes sense.
Julia Donaldson is brilliant though, as is whoever created Bluey.
Interested to hear from anyone who has more than one child. My wife and I have always spoken about having two, but if I'm honest I've struggled with one and I'm nervous how I'd manage with a second.
Sorry for turning the thread downwards somewhat
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Thanks for adding this thread.
Dad of a just-turned-one year old and while I absolutely adore her, it's been probably the hardest year of my life. Hard to explain that something that the majority of people do, can simultaneously be more difficult than more specialised things I've achieved, if that makes sense.
Julia Donaldson is brilliant though, as is whoever created Bluey.
Interested to hear from anyone who has more than one child. My wife and I have always spoken about having two, but if I'm honest I've struggled with one and I'm nervous how I'd manage with a second.
Sorry for turning the thread downwards somewhat
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Definitely having a second son when our first was just turning two was extremely challenging in the sleep department among other things. Having said that our second boy slept much better and as a result we're not as exhausted... and now? Well... it's pretty magical watching them play together, entertain each other and just love each other as brothers. The older one "reads" books to the youngest and almost every week they play independently together for longer and longer periods.
Our dream has been holidays where the boys play in the sand while we sit on the beach sipping margaritas and I have to say it doesn't feel that for off!
All the kids are in school now, but numbers two and three arrived simultaneously it was years of exhaustion and I look back fondly on just having one toddler as being a piece of piss.
Just enjoy as much of it as you can, because one day you'll switch in their mind from being the adorable centre of their world to being an embarrassing arsehat.
Just enjoy as much of it as you can, because one day you'll switch in their mind from being the adorable centre of their world to being an embarrassing arsehat.
That's really good to hear, sounds like the dream! Definitely when it comes to holidays, it must be great if they entertain each other and give you a bit of a break.
Ours actually slept pretty well for the first 8-9 months or so which maybe put us into a false sense of security, but has been pretty challenging since with various bugs and teething etc. Hoping that becomes easier, she's just started at nursery and seems to be enjoying it.
Part of my nervousness is that the second doesn't sleep nearly as well, and not sure how we'd handle that! But have to be grateful that, comparatively, we had it quite easy with our first to start with.
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Make it go slowly, value every moment, never use harsh words in temper, get down to their level and have fun.
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Someone once told me "when you're 65 years old think about what you would give, how much you would pay, to sit beside your baby/boy girl and put them to sleep, or just engage in one of their "but why" conversations etc. Whenever I'm feeling a bit exhausted/grumpy with it all I just think of that advice and try to savour every minute.
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Stick or twist...!
METALMICKY
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Try having twins at 49! 10 years later I now look 69!Thanks for adding this thread.
Dad of a just-turned-one year old and while I absolutely adore her, it's been probably the hardest year of my life. Hard to explain that something that the majority of people do, can simultaneously be more difficult than more specialised things I've achieved, if that makes sense.
Julia Donaldson is brilliant though, as is whoever created Bluey.
Interested to hear from anyone who has more than one child. My wife and I have always spoken about having two, but if I'm honest I've struggled with one and I'm nervous how I'd manage with a second.
Sorry for turning the thread downwards somewhat
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That does sound savage mate, but I'm sure you don't look a shade over 68.
Iggle Piggle
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I used to know all the words to the Gruffolo off by heart. Enjoy it. They will be vaping before you know it.
Thank f*ck I read better than that to mine!
All grown up now, and in some cases married with kids of their own - but what wouldn't I give to be clambering up on to a captain's bed to read Thomas the Tank Engine or Beatrix Potter or whatever to a beautiful sleepy little child again!
Paraphrasing Rod Stewart
"The first year is the hardest"After a couple of years you'll suddenly think to yourself "We don't have to change nappies any more (or buy them!)" and "Isn't it lovely to see her running around smiling and laughing". You've presumably already had the "We don't need to wind her after every meal" conversation. That's probably a good time to start considering a sibling for her. She will love having a younger brother/sister and he/she will love having an older sister to learn from and to play with.
But that's just my view.... And remember that every child is different even if brought up the same (I speak as a father of twins!) so there's no way of knowing whether child No.2 will be easier or harder than child No.1.
I wish you well whatever you decide and well done for sharing on here.
HastingsSeagull
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Recently turned 41 and am a couple months into the process of having a little bun cooked up, whilst mentally preparing to be a Dad. A year ago we only got a few weeks past this stage so for now am trying to look after Mrs H.S. and not mention the news to anyone offline. Yet.
Will be watching this thread with interest, much like the recent older Dad's thread.
Will be watching this thread with interest, much like the recent older Dad's thread.
HastingsSeagull
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I am living this now. Literally now, as I am pacing around with an 8 month old on my shoulder who is being settled for the 6th time so far tonight.
It was much easier with our first who will be 3 in a few months.
I won't lie, it's hell and I've barely had a chunk of sleep longer than 3 hours since #2 arrived. It's even worse for my wife, whose mental health is really suffering, hand in hand with the exhaustion.
There's no guarantee you'll have similar issues if you did go for number 2 of course, but you are right to factor it into your decision.
Would we make the same call again if we could go back? Probably not* at this stage if I'm honest, but we'll push through this tough time and won't remember so much about it. They are already starting to play together, so the positives are slowly kicking in.
Sorry for the downer post, but better to be honest.
*this answer may be different in the morning if I get some sleep
Best of luck to you and Mrs HS!
I feel for you, that sounds rough! Definitely good to be honest about it though, I think there's sometimes pressure/expectation that you should be loving every minute of it, especially on social media. It's hard not to feel guilty when you're not enjoying it.
I definitely agree with this! There have been some really tough times and feelings that I can't cope. But on the flip side, some times that are great fun and enjoyable. My partner and I are having a 2nd in September and I'm nervous, but looking forward to it at the same timeThanks for adding this thread.
Dad of a just-turned-one year old and while I absolutely adore her, it's been probably the hardest year of my life. Hard to explain that something that the majority of people do, can simultaneously be more difficult than more specialised things I've achieved, if that makes sense.
Julia Donaldson is brilliant though, as is whoever created Bluey.
Interested to hear from anyone who has more than one child. My wife and I have always spoken about having two, but if I'm honest I've struggled with one and I'm nervous how I'd manage with a second.
Sorry for turning the thread downwards somewhat
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In reality your holiday will be…
one of you goes to the beach with one of them while the other parent watches the other child continue to have a tantrum in the hotel or apartment, eventually they will calm down and trundle down to the beach where you will have WATCH them like a hawk in case they go in the sea, slip on some rocks, get lost in the crowds or the classic steal other children’s beach toys, while the wife “takes a break” and goes for a long walk…..