Exactly and the highlighted bit is the part that many can't come to terms with, instead preferring to hide behind the referee.
Let's take result and performance as two separate things, as they often are.
Did the ref cost us a point? Yes, absolutely. We were the better side till Stephens went off and the winner was offside.
Did we deserve a win or a draw? Not a win and barely a draw. But the erroneous red makes that hard to assess.
I don't think CH went in at full time and went "well done lads, we'd have battered them 6-0 if it hadn't been for that c*** Atkinson".