Is your marriage a SHAM?

[Stevie Boy]

i dunno yet, getting married next weekend

 

[Cheeky Monkey]

Someone who'll stand by my side
And give me support
And in return
She'll get my support
She will listen to me
When I want to speak
About the world we live in
And life in general
Though my views may be wrong
They may even be perverted
She will hear me out
And won't easily be converted
To my way of thinking
In fact she'll offen disagree
But at the end of it all
She will understand me
I want somebody who cares
For me passionately
With every thought and with every breath
Someone who'll help me see things
In a different light
All the things I detest
I will almost like
I don't want to be tied
To anyone's strings
I'm carefully trying to steer clear
Of those things
But when I'm asleep
I want somebody
Who will put their arms around me
And kiss me tenderly

THE best song about love bar none. Martin Gore absolutely nailed it with that little beauty.

 

[tip top]

I haven't been able to persuade anyone to marry me.

Getting a name would help I would imagine

 

[Yorkie]

Call me a skeptic, but, other than a tax break, I'm not sure what it is marriage gains a couple. Is there anything you can do as a married couple that you can't do as a non-married couple? Let's forget for a moment the "We're in love and we want to show the world!" aspect. A) The world couldn't give a shit. B) It's irrelevant.

While being a legally binding contract, (easily annulled) the whole construct of being "married" ultimately appears pretty pointless (so long as you discount visa benefits, of course).

A public commitment, showing the family and anyone else that you want to be together (a grim advert springs to mind)
Divorce is not an annullment btw.

 

[Buzzer]

nope - it's over. decree nisi with absolute on the way.

 

[Yorkie]

Forgive me, I don't know the rules about visas and marriage and stuff...but if you marry a Brit just to work here then get divorced soon afterwards won't the authorities be suspicious? Will questions be asked anyway? She seems to think marrying this guy is the answer to all her problems.

Just ask tedebear. She still hasn't been given unreserved British nationality despite her marriage to Zef.

 

[Boroseagull]

Call me a skeptic, but, other than a tax break, I'm not sure what it is marriage gains a couple. Is there anything you can do as a married couple that you can't do as a non-married couple? Let's forget for a moment the "We're in love and we want to show the world!" aspect. A) The world couldn't give a shit. B) It's irrelevant.

While being a legally binding contract, (easily annulled) the whole construct of being "married" ultimately appears pretty pointless (so long as you discount visa benefits, of course).

There is now no tax advantage to being married. In fact under Labour you are better off being 2 single people when raising children where benefits are concerned.

It's 40 years this September since I married the 'current' Mrs B, & I don't regret it for one moment. I would be stupid to say there has not been downs but there are far more 'ups'. 2 sensible grown up children, one married at 34 the other single at 31, their choice. There is no secret to marriage it's a question of knowing it's the right person in the first place & working at it & for it. Too many people today seem to be lead by the publicity hunting celebs who seem to use marriage for their own career advance & resulting media coverage. I could go on, but you get the drift.

 

[Shizuoka Dolphin]

A public commitment, showing the family and anyone else that you want to be together (a grim advert springs to mind)
Divorce is not an annullment btw.

Annullment was an incorrect word choice, but you get my point.

 

[Sheebo]

Me and the missus got engaged a few months ago now. Been together overall for 6 yrs this yr - with few minor hic-ups but i believe if u know what's right and you're happy then go for it - only u know - no one else...

Wedding is August 2008 - Safe. X

 

[Yorkie]

Me and the missus got engaged a few months ago now. Been together overall for 6 yrs this yr - with few minor hic-ups but i believe if u know what's right and you're happy then go for it - only u know - no one else...

Wedding is August 2008 - Safe. X

Congratulations.

 

[Sheebo]

Oh Cheers Yorks - Thought most people knew!

See you tonight no doubt...?

 

[Yorkie]

Oh Cheers Yorks - Thought most people knew!

See you tonight no doubt...?

You will. Haven't seen you for ages.

 

[Sheebo]

Safe.

 

[Braders]

Me and the missus got engaged a few months ago now. Been together overall for 6 yrs this yr - with few minor hic-ups but i believe if u know what's right and you're happy then go for it - only u know - no one else...

Wedding is August 2008 - Safe. X

congratulations SHEEBO you LEGE

 

[Robot Chicken]

Safe.

Congratulations!

 

[Normal Rob]

My wife and I have had some legendary arguments in our time - we are both strong willed people and that happens.

We love each other and are very happy. Some might interpret that as 'we can't find anybody else' but from my side I wouldn't want to. And I wholeheartedly believe that my wife feels the same.

 

[Yorkie]

My wife and I have had some legendary arguments in our time - we are both strong willed people and that happens.

We love each other and are very happy. Some might interpret that as 'we can't find anybody else' but from my side I wouldn't want to.

We're the same. He is my best friend as well as my lover and husband. I could kill him at times but I wouldn't want to be without him. (and I know he feels exactly the same way about me)

 

[tedebear]

Just ask tedebear. She still hasn't been given unreserved British nationality despite her marriage to Zef.

True true!!

2 years of leave to remain after being married, then you need to show you're still married, still cohabiting, still intending to remain married and living together, then another 2 years of indefinite leave to remain, then prove the same thing over again, then I don't know what happens but I think its another 2 years or maybe 5 years before I get a UK passport or something.. I'm only at step 2...

Thats if you're doing it legally, there is a few paragraphs about if you begin to suffer domestic abuse or other such nasties which has never applied to me. But I have heard of cases where it has "happened" just in order to get permanent residency...

 

[Zesh Rehman]

but i believe if u know what's right and you're happy then go for it - only u know - no one else...

Same, only you can know how you really feel about someone

 

[Exmouth Seagull]

None of the above !!!

Worse !!!

My 38yo Missus, and mother of five, ran off with a 17yo boy in September (Yes - True!) I have a new partner my own age, but she is still married to a Welsh bloke.

We are still married, decree nisi issued in Feb based on her uncontested adultery, but no decree absolute yet because she is trying to skin me alive financially.

First marriage was just as bad too.

All you young lads reading this, take a lesson from me, dont waste your money on wives, spend it on something more worthwhile. ie beer