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[Football] Is Mike Dean mentally ill?



pishhead

Well-known member
Jul 9, 2003
5,248
Everywhere
Narcissistic, sure. Mentally ill? Bit of a stretch to garner that from watching someone over the space of 90 mins every couple of weeks.
 




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NSC Patron
Oct 8, 2003
56,122
Faversham
It's a typecast mental disorder that the sufferer may not know they have it. Subconciously, M.Dean may think he's the best referee, full of his own self-importance and that is only added to when he referees the top matches. Maybe he had a difficult childhood or has wanted to reach the top and now he has he maybe belittles other referees but there's a strong chance that he's had severe depression in his life.

I hate admitting to myself that I've got mental health problems but just carrying on with everything will get me nowhere so I'm having counselling. To be honest, this year so far has been absolute shit. Nothing is going well - no girlfriend, no confidence, poor health, not much money (given up gambling as I've lost far more than I've won in the first couple of months). There's people that are a lot worse off though and I have to be grateful in a lot of ways.

Yes, I reacted badly to the headline thread but everyone sees that and the stigma of mental health is still a delicate matter. Maybe I got a bit 'precious' but the OP showed a lack of compassion of what absolutely anyone can go through. I know I'm in a dark place at the moment but admitting it and fighting the battles everyday is progress. In almost ten years on NSC I've never reacted as badly as I did when someone was using mental health problems for someone that we see as a pantomime villain.

It's OK. I had a suspicion you had had a raw nerve touched. My best wishes.
 




Wellesley

Well-known member
Jul 24, 2013
4,973
Hmmm....to be fair to the OP, narcissistic personality disorder is less something to be derided, pitied or given support to, and more something to be mitigated against, as it informs a lot of antisocial and even criminal behaviour. It is common in ruthless over achievers, as well as the sort of low grade bell ends who are impervious to criticism and mockery and spend half their time winding other people up. I can think of one likely case recently barred from NSC for his relentless pursuit of his own peculiar self-gratification. Nobody is mocking the afflicted here I don't think.

I'm not barred?
 






Durlston

"You plonker, Rodney!"
Jul 15, 2009
10,017
Haywards Heath
If anyone had narcissistic problems then Jose Mourinho would be someone I would associate with it.

When things are going well he bigs himself up and as we saw with his falling out with Paul Pogba, he makes sure that he will always 'win'. His arrival at Chelsea in 2003 was seen as a huge deal. 'The Special One' title has maybe taken on a spectacular irony in that the older he's got, the more powerful he thinks he is but in all honesty he's now a busted flush and may have to go back to Portugal to restore his reputation as a winner.

I think he's more of an example of someone having a bordercast personality than Mr. Dean, who just sees the game as getting more niggly and harder to officiate.
 


The Kid Frankie

New member
Sep 5, 2012
2,082
It's a typecast mental disorder that the sufferer may not know they have it. Subconciously, M.Dean may think he's the best referee, full of his own self-importance and that is only added to when he referees the top matches. Maybe he had a difficult childhood or has wanted to reach the top and now he has he maybe belittles other referees but there's a strong chance that he's had severe depression in his life.

I hate admitting to myself that I've got mental health problems but just carrying on with everything will get me nowhere so I'm having counselling. To be honest, this year so far has been absolute shit. Nothing is going well - no girlfriend, no confidence, poor health, not much money (given up gambling as I've lost far more than I've won in the first couple of months). There's people that are a lot worse off though and I have to be grateful in a lot of ways.

Yes, I reacted badly to the headline thread but everyone sees that and the stigma of mental health is still a delicate matter. Maybe I got a bit 'precious' but the OP showed a lack of compassion of what absolutely anyone can go through. I know I'm in a dark place at the moment but admitting it and fighting the battles everyday is progress. In almost ten years on NSC I've never reacted as badly as I did when someone was using mental health problems for someone that we see as a pantomime villain.

Hands up perhaps I should have thought before posting this thread. Apologies for any offence caused and I hope things are better for you soon mate.
 






Durlston

"You plonker, Rodney!"
Jul 15, 2009
10,017
Haywards Heath
Hands up perhaps I should have thought before posting this thread. Apologies for any offence caused and I hope things are better for you soon mate.

Thanks mate.

I've started threads before that haven't always gone down well. A few years ago my brother had a breakdown with his autism and I lashed out at his specialists looking after him.

It's just about taking one day at a time and try to make the most of that day. Not always easy though but I give it my best. :thumbsup:
 


Triggaaar

Well-known member
Oct 24, 2005
53,157
Goldstone
Thanks mate.

I've started threads before that haven't always gone down well. A few years ago my brother had a breakdown with his autism and I lashed out at his specialists looking after him.

It's just about taking one day at a time and try to make the most of that day. Not always easy though but I give it my best. :thumbsup:
With so many posters on NSC there are obviously a lot of people who suffer from depression and similar. I think the forum has been a good place for some to share their problems and offer support to each other. The modern world can be quite a tough place, but there's also a lot of help available. I hope your circumstances improve soon.
 






LlcoolJ

Mama said knock you out.
Oct 14, 2009
12,982
Sheffield
I'm just surprised that Dean chose to be a referee. Most people I've met like him are members of the constabulary.
 








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