[Misc] Is it just me?

[BNthree]

There is a jewellers called Goatse that specialises in stretching rings; well worth Googling to check them out.

 

[Shropshire Seagull]

That's easy. A loud ' You're welcome' usually causes equal offence!

Yep, I do this - shows that you still offer good manners out to someone who has missed their opportunity.

Here's one, when you fart [out loud] in a room when you're on your own, do you still say "pardon me" ?

 

[Blue3]

Young lad in Worthing yesterday drinking a can sitting on a bench gets up on his bike cycles over to bin and puts his rubbish into bin

 

[Return of the Rev]

Inlaws found burgess hill very lacking in manners and chit chat but since moving to Seaford say its like going back in time regarding manners, have found the same ourselves with people striking up conversations, having a dog helps. Is Seaford the friendliest town in Sussex?

 

[PTC Gull]

That's easy. A loud ' You're welcome' usually causes equal offence!

Gets to me as well, I always say in a loud voice "Pardon?" They inevitably turnaround and say "what" or "wot" and I reply "I thought you said thank you" then flounce off myself.

 

[essbee1]

The one that gets me is when you do hold a door open, and someone flounces through it without a word of acknowledgment...

Yes - I agree totally. But the most pleasing (perhaps rather childish) thing is if when is a double set of doors. They don't say thank you at the first
set - so you time it exactly so the second door slams right in their face.

 

[The Gem]

I have just served 3 people with their lunch, and there was not one’please or thank you’
My daughter took their order, one of them asked for a dish we have never had on the menu, and got a bit arsey when she was told we couldn’t do it, I took their meals out, and wasn’t acknowledged at all.
They paid after their meal, without any of the normal courtesy.

We occasionally get one or two without good manners, but, these 3 really have annoyed me today, a complete lack of any type of courtesy, they were an elderly couple and I imagine, their daughter, so, it wasn’t an age thing, generally we find bad manners isn’t an age specific problem.

Does this type of thing wind anyone else up?

Unbelievable, I was going to start a thread this morning, about greetings in the street.

Near where I live, I always say Morning, Evening or good afternoon to strangers I pass on my way.

Some look at me as if I am some sort degenerate that has no right to talk to them.

Just so rude.

They either cant speak English, or just ignore me.

Imagine how the youngsters of today will be in 30 years time.

Manners cost nothing.

 

[Dorset Seagull]

Yep, I do this - shows that you still offer good manners out to someone who has missed their opportunity.

Here's one, when you fart [out loud] in a room when you're on your own, do you still say "pardon me" ?

Ha that touched a nerve. My missus complains at me if I don’t say pardon when I fart in the loo

 

[Bakero]

Dont move to Germany.. Standard here...

Same in Spain. Thanking a waiter is really not the done thing but I still can't help myself even though I've heard it's a strange thing to do. It just feels too weird to not acknowledge that somebody has just brought you food or a drink.

 

[KingKev]

Same in Spain. Thanking a waiter is really not the done thing but I still can't help myself even though I've heard it's a strange thing to do. It just feels too weird to not acknowledge that somebody has just brought you food or a drink.

I think it’s a little different in Spain and other countries where waiting on and other service industry jobs are considered legitimate “professions” and no one would ever consider not leaving some form of gratuity. However I’m the same as you and spew out copious por favors and graciases, often getting a perplexed expression and a “de-na” or “de nada” in return.
Spaniards Italians etc just don’t have that culture of pleasantries between customer and service provider that we do - but if you say please and thanks it demands that they respond, otherwise they would be being intentionally rude. Interesting...

 

[Bakero]

I think it’s a little different in Spain and other countries where waiting on and other service industry jobs are considered legitimate “professions” and no one would ever consider not leaving some form of gratuity. However I’m the same as you and spew out copious por favors and graciases, often getting a perplexed expression and a “de-na” or “de nada” in return.
Spaniards Italians etc just don’t have that culture of pleasantries between customer and service provider that we do - but if you say please and thanks it demands that they respond, otherwise they would be being intentionally rude. Interesting...

Anything related to manners is specific to a country or region. These things just aren't universal.

I'm guessing that 'not' isn't meant to be there. The Spanish and Italian don't tip as a rule as, like you say, being a waiter is considered a profession.

 

[KingKev]

Anything related to manners is specific to a country or region. These things just aren't universal.

I'm guessing that 'not' isn't meant to be there. The Spanish and Italian don't tip as a rule as, like you say, being a waiter is considered a profession.

Indeed

 

[smudge]

I have just served 3 people with their lunch, and there was not one’please or thank you’
My daughter took their order, one of them asked for a dish we have never had on the menu, and got a bit arsey when she was told we couldn’t do it, I took their meals out, and wasn’t acknowledged at all.
They paid after their meal, without any of the normal courtesy.

We occasionally get one or two without good manners, but, these 3 really have annoyed me today, a complete lack of any type of courtesy, they were an elderly couple and I imagine, their daughter, so, it wasn’t an age thing, generally we find bad manners isn’t an age specific problem.

Does this type of thing wind anyone else up?

People that ask for something that isn't on the menu; winds me right up!

 

[madinthehead]

Same in Spain. Thanking a waiter is really not the done thing but I still can't help myself even though I've heard it's a strange thing to do. It just feels too weird to not acknowledge that somebody has just brought you food or a drink.

I will always continue to be polite.. I was brought up believing manners maketh man. I am not going to change that, regardless..

 

[Pantani]

I have just served 3 people with their lunch, and there was not one’please or thank you’
My daughter took their order, one of them asked for a dish we have never had on the menu, and got a bit arsey when she was told we couldn’t do it, I took their meals out, and wasn’t acknowledged at all.
They paid after their meal, without any of the normal courtesy.

We occasionally get one or two without good manners, but, these 3 really have annoyed me today, a complete lack of any type of courtesy, they were an elderly couple and I imagine, their daughter, so, it wasn’t an age thing, generally we find bad manners isn’t an age specific problem.

Does this type of thing wind anyone else up?

Working in a hospitality environment myself, I normally point out that they could be more polite by the time they get to a third interaction without any courtesy. Most staff in these jobs get paid very poorly and at least deserve that.

 

[The Clamp]

It really winds me up on Eggheads when a player is asked to go “first or second”? And they say “I’ll go first”. As an automatic reaction I say “please”! At the telly, even if I am on my own.

 

[Weststander]

It’s all age groups.

Queuing in shops, people in their 60’s upwards so often don’t say please or thank you when buying stuff, collecting prescriptions. So many ill mannered people out there.

I want to say a loud and sarcastic “thank you” to fill the void left by the rude customer as they walk off.

 

[Yes Chef]

People that ask for something that isn't on the menu; winds me right up!

Absolutely, and it makes my shit itch too. This would have served as a red flag that the family in question are ****wits

 

[Weststander]

People that ask for something that isn't on the menu; winds me right up!

Who then post a 1* rating on tripadvisor.

 

[OzMike]

I have tipped in restaurants for as long as I can remember, as long as the service is good. Maybe I’ve been whooshed...

Tips actually means ‘To Insure Prompt Service’ and when introduced it was paid on arrival, to insure that there wouldn’t be any problems during the meal.
I tip when I think that an effort has been made to make my experience smoother and more enjoyable, if it hasn’t then I don’t.