I know this isn't a coffee thread, but I hope you all know that putting the milk in before the water when making coffee is far superior a method. Here's why: boiling hot water burns the coffee granules slightly on impact resulting in that bitter flavour, however if milk is added beforehand, the coffee will not burn, giving a far smoother taste. It's true.
Did an experiment two cups coefficient milk in one just coffee in the other boiled water to both and I am amazed but the taste improvement is very noticeable in the coffee which had the milk added first
As for tea always water first good stur depending on tea bag strength will leave it in anything between 30seconds ad five mins before adding milk