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Neville's Breakfast
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My very best wishes to you [MENTION=14168]Durlston[/MENTION]. From my experience, don’t give up. My wife was told at various times to come in to say goodbye (end of life care) and later that I would be disabled with little cognition. Neither actually happened so it seems that everyone is different and the medical profession cannot give a definitive prognosis with total certainty. However it turns out, you do have a long road ahead. Any lengthy stay in intensive care will have a big short term impact on body strength and back ache is an issue. All of this is exacerbated by age. My most important piece of advice is that your father will be scared lying in that hospital bed, particularly if he is having communication problems. Lip reading and understanding lip reading are incredibly difficult. If he can point at letters on a piece of paper or an iPad then encourage him to form words that way, although it can be tiring. Show him that you love him and that is half the battle. Good luck. Feel free to PM me as someone who has been through it or chat on this thread.
Perfidious Albion
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All I can do is to send my very best wishes to you and him…
Gabbafella
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- Aug 22, 2012
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All the best. Wishing your dad a speedy recovery and that you both find the support you need.
Green Cross Code Man
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I hope your dad makes a good recovery Durlston. My dad took me to the Albion, like yours and it was one of the things that forged an unbreakable bond. The ageing process is very hard, and I agree with your sentiments strongly, appreciate the wonderful family members one has as we don't know what's around the corner. All the best to you and your family.
Best wishes to your Dad and yourself Durlston. Hoping for a positive outcome.
Very best wishes to you both. As others have said, NSC is here for you.
martin tyler
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- Jan 25, 2013
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Best wishes and hope he has a speedy recovery.
Not the same circumstances but I have a 4 year old who had a stroke when born which seriously affected his right hand side. Modern methods, good physiotherapists and a good support network will help get you all through.
We were advised due to the severity he may never walk but at 4 years old he walks better than we ever thought possible. Physiotherapists were worth their weight in gold. Botox is something that is being used into affected muscles as well.
https://www.stroke.org.uk/ Lots of information and help here.
I am also aware certainly in older adults of specific stroke clubs designed to help adults reintegrate back into society.
Not the same circumstances but I have a 4 year old who had a stroke when born which seriously affected his right hand side. Modern methods, good physiotherapists and a good support network will help get you all through.
We were advised due to the severity he may never walk but at 4 years old he walks better than we ever thought possible. Physiotherapists were worth their weight in gold. Botox is something that is being used into affected muscles as well.
https://www.stroke.org.uk/ Lots of information and help here.
I am also aware certainly in older adults of specific stroke clubs designed to help adults reintegrate back into society.
Thinking of you and your family.
Best wishes to you and your family Durlston.
Shropshire Seagull
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Six months ago I too knew very little about strokes.
Then at the end of November my 88 y/o mum had a severe one and was also admitted to RSCH.
Everyone is unique and so impossible for anyone on here to tell you your outcome.
It's a brain injury and we all heal differently.
For my mum, she spent 2 days in A&E and then transferred to the Solomon ward [stroke].
She stayed there for 4 weeks and end of Dec transferred to the Sussex Rehabilitation Centre [Lindfield Ward] at the PRH in H/H
After about 3 months she was discharged but her impairments are too significant for her to come home - dad being 94 just couldn't cope.
Only last September we all celebrated their 70th wedding anniversary.
She is now in a Rottingdean nursing home
NHS has done a great job with all their various therapy teams.
However, mum still has no movement in her right arm or leg and cannot hold a conversation but can now say a few words - her mind is still sharp but she cannot create comprehension in her brain to form words - aphasia
I am now resigned to the fact that I'll never get my old mum back - must learn to adapt to her needs and get to learn and love what I still have, while I still have ....
God only knows what my poor dad must be going through ....
The first couple of days mean nothing, most recovery takes place in the first 3 months and continues up to 12 months, beyond which, little else is likely to change.
So [MENTION=14168]Durlston[/MENTION] you have my full sympathy and empathy - I wish you and your family the very best.
Then at the end of November my 88 y/o mum had a severe one and was also admitted to RSCH.
Everyone is unique and so impossible for anyone on here to tell you your outcome.
It's a brain injury and we all heal differently.
For my mum, she spent 2 days in A&E and then transferred to the Solomon ward [stroke].
She stayed there for 4 weeks and end of Dec transferred to the Sussex Rehabilitation Centre [Lindfield Ward] at the PRH in H/H
After about 3 months she was discharged but her impairments are too significant for her to come home - dad being 94 just couldn't cope.
Only last September we all celebrated their 70th wedding anniversary.
She is now in a Rottingdean nursing home
NHS has done a great job with all their various therapy teams.
However, mum still has no movement in her right arm or leg and cannot hold a conversation but can now say a few words - her mind is still sharp but she cannot create comprehension in her brain to form words - aphasia
I am now resigned to the fact that I'll never get my old mum back - must learn to adapt to her needs and get to learn and love what I still have, while I still have ....
God only knows what my poor dad must be going through ....
The first couple of days mean nothing, most recovery takes place in the first 3 months and continues up to 12 months, beyond which, little else is likely to change.
So [MENTION=14168]Durlston[/MENTION] you have my full sympathy and empathy - I wish you and your family the very best.
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