Does anyone have mental health problems?

[Weststander]

No job is ever worth staying in if you hate it. I can’t say I’ve ever suffered mental illness in the way many on the thread speak of, but I have had a job I hated. I quit after four years of teaching and it was the best decision I’ve made.

If you hate your job and/or there's a **** of a boss/owner who isn't going to change, leave as soon as possible. Life's too short.

This alone can have a massive impact on mental wellbeing.

 

[desprateseagull]

Add me to the list. Getting help from doctor now.. Just talking about it helps a bit.

 

[AZ Gull]

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[Weststander]

Add me to the list. Getting help from doctor now.. Just talking about it helps a bit.

Good luck. Persevere with his help. If the first prescribed drug doesn't work for you, make sure you communicate this to your GP, until you find one that does.

 

[darkwolf666]

I believe my son, who is 24, has mental health issues. How do I get him to recognise this fact and more importantly how do I get him help he doesn’t want to ask for as he doesn’t know / think he has a problem?

 

[Weststander]

I believe my son, who is 24, has mental health issues. How do I get him to recognise this fact and more importantly how do I get him help he doesn’t want to ask for as he doesn’t know / think he has a problem?

You don't have to reply on this thread, or at all, but have you or your spouse suffered?

If so, you could reveal that to him and explain how medical help really helped.

That human story, of someone close, might open his mind on the subject.

Just an idea.

 

[Durlston]

I believe my son, who is 24, has mental health issues. How do I get him to recognise this fact and more importantly how do I get him help he doesn’t want to ask for as he doesn’t know / think he has a problem?

Hope the PM helps. All the best mate.

 

[darkwolf666]

Hope the PM helps. All the best mate.

Hi and thanks for the message, I really don’t know the best way forward, so am happy to share on here. My son doesn’t read these boards, so isn’t going to be affected by anything said here.

My lad Recently found his mother (my ex-wife) dead on the sofa in their house. I was called by the police to assist him in his hour of need, and was met at the door by an officer who asked “does your son have mental health issues”?

That night, from the point of finding his mom dead he had retreated into his shell, playing games on his mobile, and more latterly his X-box! He doesn’t appear to have acknowledged her death and seems to be totally impervious to any suggestions of sympathy - I don’t know what to do for him! I don’t know how to help or how to make things “right”!

 

[Harry Wilson's tackle]

Hi and thanks for the message, I really don’t know the best way forward, so am happy to share on here. My son doesn’t read these boards, so isn’t going to be affected by anything said here.

My lad Recently found his mother (my ex-wife) dead on the sofa in their house. I was called by the police to assist him in his hour of need, and was met at the door by an officer who asked “does your son have mental health issues”?

That night, from the point of finding his mom dead he had retreated into his shell, playing games on his mobile, and more latterly his X-box! He doesn’t appear to have acknowledged her death and seems to be totally impervious to any suggestions of sympathy - I don’t know what to do for him! I don’t know how to help or how to make things “right”!

When my son has had a tough time (nothing as bad as yours) he does not communicate. There is no way in until he's ready. All you can do is provide support, until the time comes. Be nice, and not too intrusive. That said I had to effectively throw my son out (age 29) when he dug his heels into a pontless existence, playstation in his room, no engagement, binge shopping. He's flat-sharing now, better job, and a bigger man. So there is no magic wand. Patience and a fair bit of agony is in store, I'm afraid. With my very best wishes from down the road

 

[Weststander]

When my son has had a tough time (nothing as bad as yours) he does not communicate. There is no way in until he's ready. All you can do is provide support, until the time comes. Be nice, and not too intrusive. That said I had to effectively throw my son out (age 29) when he dug his heels into a pontless existence, playstation in his room, no engagement, binge shopping. He's flat-sharing now, better job, and a bigger man. So there is no magic wand. Patience and a fair bit of agony is in store, I'm afraid. With my very best wishes from down the road

Heartfelt advice from a good bloke and good Dad!!

 

[Durlston]

I feel out of my depth now and wouldn't know what to do. I just hope he has strong support around him which I'm sure he will as darkwolf666 seems an extremely caring dad. To open up on a public thread about the terrible things that have happened is a very brave thing to do. One day at a time and sincere best wishes to you and your son, darkwolf666.

 

[Hampden Park]

darkwolf666 you son needs to see a bereavement bod, he could be suffering a form of PTSD because of what he saw. he needs to grieve over his mother first before anything else. only my opinion btw

 

[pearl]

darkwolf666 you son needs to see a bereavement bod, he could be suffering a form of PTSD because of what he saw. he needs to grieve over his mother first before anything else. only my opinion btw

A friend of mine lost several friends/family in a very short space of time, they got a lot of support from Cruse (not sure if that's the correct spelling)

 

[Hampden Park]

any news darkwolf666? hope all is well.

 

[Grombleton]

Christmas day, as well as the entire holiday period can be a tough time for many; whether you are celebrating alone, or surrounded by loved ones the Black Dog can still remain and rear its incredibly ugly head.

Hopefully you all are having the best day you can have. If not, I hope things improve.

 

[Ninja Elephant]

In truth, I've been struggling a bit recently. Money worries play on my mind a lot and sleep has been a little bit patchier than normal. I've been consistently late to work, usually about 10/15 minutes and for a brief period of time, I found myself unable to face taking inbound telephone calls which is a key part of my job. I couldn't handle taking the calls, not knowing what it was going to be about but fearing it was going to add to my workload, which I was already struggling with. I find myself feeling personally responsible for everything at work and it leaves me too mentally tired to want to socialise outside of work. I have several groups of friends I don't see very much, and don't really open up to. I spent the last weekend in Darlington with two married couples and although I love the 4 of them, I find being around couples is hard. I want what they have in their relationships but I don't really know how to get there myself. Inevitably, after seeing people I tend to then become vacant and a bit distant with those people for a while. I'm spending new years with another group of friends in Wellingborough, which I'm really pleased about and looking forward to but I know that I'll be feeling empty afterwards.

I had a good day today, I got up when I wanted to and ran a parkrun event with 600 others. I spoke to a good number of people, which doesn't always happen, and then spent time with my mum and then with my dad. I'm grateful to have so many family members to spend today with, I know others aren't so lucky. Tomorrow I intend to start my new years resolution for 2019 early by beginning to renovate my home to make it more of a place I feel comfortable to share with others. That's a big one for me, personally, and I want to have more life outside of work than I've had for the last year. I need to tip the scales back in my favour.

I hope everybody who has contributed to this thread have had a good day and I hope that everyone continues to feel that this thread and the people on it are a source of support, comfort and understanding. Cheers all, enjoy the game tomorrow.

 

[dazzer6666]

In truth, I've been struggling a bit recently. Money worries play on my mind a lot and sleep has been a little bit patchier than normal. I've been consistently late to work, usually about 10/15 minutes and for a brief period of time, I found myself unable to face taking inbound telephone calls which is a key part of my job. I couldn't handle taking the calls, not knowing what it was going to be about but fearing it was going to add to my workload, which I was already struggling with. I find myself feeling personally responsible for everything at work and it leaves me too mentally tired to want to socialise outside of work. I have several groups of friends I don't see very much, and don't really open up to. I spent the last weekend in Darlington with two married couples and although I love the 4 of them, I find being around couples is hard. I want what they have in their relationships but I don't really know how to get there myself. Inevitably, after seeing people I tend to then become vacant and a bit distant with those people for a while. I'm spending new years with another group of friends in Wellingborough, which I'm really pleased about and looking forward to but I know that I'll be feeling empty afterwards.

I had a good day today, I got up when I wanted to and ran a parkrun event with 600 others. I spoke to a good number of people, which doesn't always happen, and then spent time with my mum and then with my dad. I'm grateful to have so many family members to spend today with, I know others aren't so lucky. Tomorrow I intend to start my new years resolution for 2019 early by beginning to renovate my home to make it more of a place I feel comfortable to share with others. That's a big one for me, personally, and I want to have more life outside of work than I've had for the last year. I need to tip the scales back in my favour.

I hope everybody who has contributed to this thread have had a good day and I hope that everyone continues to feel that this thread and the people on it are a source of support, comfort and understanding. Cheers all, enjoy the game tomorrow.

Can't offer you a lot of help but well done for posting and seems like you're doing the right things. Running is a massive release for me whenever things look a bit bleak.

Best wishes for 2019 fella.

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[Weststander]

In truth, I've been struggling a bit recently. Money worries play on my mind a lot and sleep has been a little bit patchier than normal. I've been consistently late to work, usually about 10/15 minutes and for a brief period of time, I found myself unable to face taking inbound telephone calls which is a key part of my job. I couldn't handle taking the calls, not knowing what it was going to be about but fearing it was going to add to my workload, which I was already struggling with. I find myself feeling personally responsible for everything at work and it leaves me too mentally tired to want to socialise outside of work. I have several groups of friends I don't see very much, and don't really open up to. I spent the last weekend in Darlington with two married couples and although I love the 4 of them, I find being around couples is hard. I want what they have in their relationships but I don't really know how to get there myself. Inevitably, after seeing people I tend to then become vacant and a bit distant with those people for a while. I'm spending new years with another group of friends in Wellingborough, which I'm really pleased about and looking forward to but I know that I'll be feeling empty afterwards.

I had a good day today, I got up when I wanted to and ran a parkrun event with 600 others. I spoke to a good number of people, which doesn't always happen, and then spent time with my mum and then with my dad. I'm grateful to have so many family members to spend today with, I know others aren't so lucky. Tomorrow I intend to start my new years resolution for 2019 early by beginning to renovate my home to make it more of a place I feel comfortable to share with others. That's a big one for me, personally, and I want to have more life outside of work than I've had for the last year. I need to tip the scales back in my favour.

I hope everybody who has contributed to this thread have had a good day and I hope that everyone continues to feel that this thread and the people on it are a source of support, comfort and understanding. Cheers all, enjoy the game tomorrow.

Hi Ninja. I really hope that things improve for you.

A personal view. If you haven’t already, get help from your GP as soon as you feel comfortable to and reveal all that you have above. That’s with a view to medication and talking therapies. You may be wise in not unloading on your close mates, as they may not know how to react and help you, plus it may sour happy relationships .. but that’s your call. The talking therapies might be able to replace that avenue.

Once you are well and genuinely happier, then you will be ready for a relationship and a.n.other will be attracted to you. No rush.

Money worries grind most people down, so you are not alone. Unless you detest the job, try to keep a professional approach including timekeepiing. At this time, you don’t want to lose your income source. Have you got a caring boss to open up to?

Great idea in so many ways to stay fit, it helps.

Remember you are not alone. Countless folk of all ages will be feeling exactly the same as you have of late. It’s natural, extremely common and there are resources out there to help you.

All the best.

 

[TheJasperCo]

Thought I'd bounce this thread. Like other posters on here in recent days, I've gone through a protracted phase of personal trouble. It's reassuring and depressing in equal measure knowing that many others are going through similar - or worse.

One question I do want to know from those of you who have in/directly experienced mental health difficulties...can I ask if the problems ever disappear completely? Like, do you know whether it's possible to be 'cured', with or without interventions? Or is it only ever 'managed'?

Thanks

 

[Cheshire Cat]

The answer is that it depends on circumstances - which is no real help.

Depression might or might not be temporary and recoverable. Dementia isn't.

I think most people would benefit from outside help, but many are too ashamed, or nervous, or afraid to ask.