Does anyone have mental health problems?

[Durlston]

Lastly, I can honestly say that there is no one on this entire board that I dislike. Some people don't like to show their emotions. I get that. But we all come together in our hour (or days!) of need. I have always worn my heart on my sleeve, on here, and everything I do in life.

I am just so thankful that I am still alive to annoy everyone!

Here's to a win tomorrow at Smelhurst!

 

[Durlston]

Just woken from a shocking nightmare and there's no way I can get back to sleep now so I really wanted a bit of company on NSC. Just when I thought things were getting much better (I've been prescribed very strong sleeping tablets from my doctor but couldn't pick them up last night as it was too late in the day at Sainsbury's pharmacy) I dreamt that all my prized possessions were being stolen from me helplessly looking on. It doesn't sound too bad but it's just a lack of control (after losing it on Monday).

I didn't want anyone think I've just got in from clubbing on here. I made really good progress yesterday with speaking to my doctor, getting my phone fixed (settings gone wrong after it went into shock mode. Getting too damn complicated now ,moblies).

I'm really excited about the Crystal Palace match later. I so hope we can get that win. It's going to be a great midfield battle. I just hope the referee doesn't put up with Zaha's diving!

 

[The Optimist]

Morning. I’m up for a very different reason, my 4 month old is awake. After reading this thread I’m glad yesterday was a good day for you.

You don’t have to worry about Zara’s diving as he’s out injured.

 

[Durlston]

Thank you so much for replying mate. Your words are a great comfort.

Feeding time for your little 'un? It'll all be worth it as he/she has got what sounds like a very loving and caring father.

 

[Stripey808]

Morning D, long time reader of this thread and great admirer of yours. I’ve suffered with depression for 35 years, only making it through with medication and a good support network. Always happy to talk, whatever the time x

 

[The Optimist]

Your words are a great comfort.

Specifically ‘Zaha’s injured’?

As an aside did you grow up in Haywards Heath? I grew up in Lindfield and went to Oathall.

 

[Durlston]

Specifically ‘Zaha’s injured’?

As an aside did you grow up in Haywards Heath? I grew up in Lindfield and went to Oathall.

I was born in Barnet and moved down to Sussex with my parents and siblings not long before I started school. Lived back up there for a few years but Sussex is beautiful and certainly a lot more peaceful.

 

[Durlston]

Specifically ‘Zaha’s injured’?

As an aside did you grow up in Haywards Heath? I grew up in Lindfield and went to Oathall.

The first part, I've completely lost my sense of humour. Comedy is going over my head at the moment. Feels like I haven't smiled or laughed in days now.

 

[BBassic]

Something my other half does when she's struggling with anxiety etc. is journaling. She finds that doing a bit of word vomiting onto paper is like a way of ejecting all the negative feelings and worry out of her body.

I can also vouch for a good herbal tea before bed. Sleepytime Tea is good stuff.

 

[The Optimist]

The first part, I've completely lost my sense of humour. Comedy is going over my head at the moment. Feels like I haven't smiled or laughed in days now.

That’ll come back in time. You said that you’re looking forward to the Brighton Palace game today, which is a good sign. Hopefully a Brighton win will give you your first smile.

 

[joydivisionovengloves]

Just woken from a shocking nightmare and there's no way I can get back to sleep now so I really wanted a bit of company on NSC. Just when I thought things were getting much better (I've been prescribed very strong sleeping tablets from my doctor but couldn't pick them up last night as it was too late in the day at Sainsbury's pharmacy) I dreamt that all my prized possessions were being stolen from me helplessly looking on. It doesn't sound too bad but it's just a lack of control (after losing it on Monday).

I didn't want anyone think I've just got in from clubbing on here. I made really good progress yesterday with speaking to my doctor, getting my phone fixed (settings gone wrong after it went into shock mode. Getting too damn complicated now ,moblies).

I'm really excited about the Crystal Palace match later. I so hope we can get that win. It's going to be a great midfield battle. I just hope the referee doesn't put up with Zaha's diving!

Hey Mr, how you getting on ? The distraction of a Palace game can only be a good thing !
Ive found that at night having an audio book to listen to really helps my anxiety. I have it on a really low volume so I have to really concentrate.
Something soothing, nature or travel writing is my choice. Just a small thing but it might help.

 

[Blue3]

The truth is everyone through life I expect will have some mental health issues to varying degrees

 

[Brian Fantana]

The truth is everyone through life I expect will have some mental health issues to varying degrees

I’d agree. Some people just mention them more readily than others. Not in a negative way at all. I’m all for anyone, especially men, speaking up about their worries, issues and anxieties.

I’ve been quite open about my own ongoing struggles with OCD, which are less easy to talk about because there’s a lot less understanding amongst people generally about the condition.

 

[Weststander]

The truth is everyone through life I expect will have some mental health issues to varying degrees

I agree.

Some have an innate/acquired ability to get through it, think rationally and get back to positive/realistic thinking.

Interestingly, that can be be learnt.

 

[The Optimist]

I’d agree. Some people just mention them more readily than others. Not in a negative way at all. I’m all for anyone, especially men, speaking up about their worries, issues and anxieties.

I’ve been quite open about my own ongoing struggles with OCD, which are less easy to talk about because there’s a lot less understanding amongst people generally about the condition.

My wife suffers from OCD. It used be very bad, but she’s learnt (with the help of therapy) how to manage it and live with it. I agree about it not being a well understood condition.

 

[Insel affe]

Has anyone got a recommendation for over the counter tablets, gummies that help with anxiety ?
I have heard Ashwagandha is good, but amazon reviews are biased

 

[Barham's tash]

Have often contributed to this or similar threads to help others but today I’m as flat as a pancake.

Stupid arguments at home where neither party backs down or sees reason have contributed massively over the last few days [lots of mitigants on both sides] so I know they’ll blow over but as ever that’s just the trigger I didn’t need.

Post Covid has been tough for us all but the loss of two of my most stabilising people [dad and brother in law] has been tremendously hard to take and I haven’t found a way to mourn or replace them yet and it sucks.

Having quite the wobble this evening and the world feels especially dark.

 

[Weststander]

Have often contributed to this or similar threads to help others but today I’m as flat as a pancake.

Stupid arguments at home where neither party backs down or sees reason have contributed massively over the last few days [lots of mitigants on both sides] so I know they’ll blow over but as ever that’s just the trigger I didn’t need.

Post Covid has been tough for us all but the loss of two of my most stabilising people [dad and brother in law] has been tremendously hard to take and I haven’t found a way to mourn or replace them yet and it sucks.

Having quite the wobble this evening and the world feels especially dark.

I’m trying to help a loved one through to a booked GP’s appointment. They largely see things as bleak, exploring dark solutions. All I can do is offer TLC and wisdom (which, not their fault, I think goes in one ear and out the other).

Look after yourself. Rationally, there are always things to look forward to.

 

[chickens]

Have often contributed to this or similar threads to help others but today I’m as flat as a pancake.

Stupid arguments at home where neither party backs down or sees reason have contributed massively over the last few days [lots of mitigants on both sides] so I know they’ll blow over but as ever that’s just the trigger I didn’t need.

Post Covid has been tough for us all but the loss of two of my most stabilising people [dad and brother in law] has been tremendously hard to take and I haven’t found a way to mourn or replace them yet and it sucks.

Having quite the wobble this evening and the world feels especially dark.

Zeberdi has provided some good links, and advice, if there’s nobody close to you that you feel like talking to, sometimes offloading to somebody who knows none of the participants is more helpful than talking to someone who already has opinions on the people involved.

The problem I have when I begin to feel a bit bleak, is that I forget that I’ve ever felt any different. I can only think that my life has always been bleak, and always will be. I know enough now to know that this is my brain lying to me, or at least only allowing me selective memory. I’ve had plenty of good times in life, and I’ve a lot of reasons to feel grateful and thankful.

Like the hurt after we fail to win at Selhurst Park, these feelings will pass. The darkness is temporary, the clouds do clear. (There’s always next season)

Sometimes it’s just a case of prioritising what you need to do to make it through to the other side of whatever’s triggering this, and other things that also seem important have to take a back seat for a bit. We are human, we have limits psychologically and emotionally as well as physically.

Hope you’re ok.

 

[Insel affe]

I hope everyone is doing ok out there with issues, remember we are a big family here in general and look out for each other, this can be a good place to ask for advise and get things off your chest, with lots of great insights and opinions about peoples struggles.

If your feeling down you are never alone.

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