Do you think its right to smack kids?

[vulture]

Me and my ex-wife had a big bust up today over this.I will not smack my kids and she does and she claims that I am too soft for not.What do the parents of nsc think?

 

[Stoo82]

IMO smaking kids for punishment is not about the 'pain' but the 'embarrassment' for the child and the 'authority' it gives the adult.

Should never be more than a gental tap on a soft part of the body, like the bum.

I have no kids.

 

[Perkino]

Spare the rod and you spoil the child

 

[Muhammad - I’m hard - Bruce Lee]

to be fair...
so much is being made of kids and the 'i blame the parents' thing
all these bloody 'do gooders' have taken away the parents RIGHT to be a parent.

how are you supposed to discipline your kids nowadays?
having said all that, my youngest is 26, oldest is 30 and have never had to smack one of them.
im 50...good old clip round the ear didnt do me any harm?

 

[Goldstone Rapper]

Me and my ex-wife had a big bust up today over this.I will not smack my kids and she does and she claims that I am too soft for not.

Because men generally exercise power within society, many don't have the urge to be strict and physically controlling around their children. They get their power kicks elsewhere.

Because they feel powerless in other areas of their life, there are some mothers who compensate for this by automatically going into 'control and contain' mode when it comes to their children's behaviour. Sounds like your ex-wife is acting that out. And that's what's causing your bust up.

Obviously, this dynamic that I describe doesn't apply to all fathers and mothers, but from working with children, and observing how women and men are around children, I think it's pretty prevalent.

 

[brakespear]

IMO smaking kids for punishment is not about the 'pain' but the 'embarrassment' for the child and the 'authority' it gives the adult.

Should never be more than a gental tap on a soft part of the body, like the bum.

I have no kids.

This, only used when kids do something seriously wrong, like running out into the road. Should not be used to hurt but a quick tap over the back of the hand just to reinforce it is something they should not be doing.

 

[dannyboy]

funnily enough exactly the same thing happpened to me tonight. my little one was very tired and stroppy (3 and a half) and bit the mrs. shes been a bit of a nightmare today to be fair. the mrs smacked her legs . i didnt see it but heard it and we had a massive row about it. its only about the second time it has happened.

i just dont agree with it. if you want to teach a child right from wrong you dont punish them by doing something wrong to them yourself.

just my opinion like

 

[shingle]

absolutely not....

 

[ryeseagull]

I was smacked as a kid, and wasn't against doing it as a parent. Now I have kids I just don't think it's a very effective thing to do. Particularly for young kids.

How would smacking my 18 month old teach him not to hit his sister?

 

[beardy gull]

I'm a "no".

 

[SNOOBS]

What kind of a **** smacks a kid

 

[alan partridge]

I don't have kids but work with them and so ofcourse I wouldn't smack them. I find the most effective thing at getting their attention/disciplining them is a GOOD HARD STARE.

 

[Stat Brother]

To me once you cross that line, you've lost.
Leading to worse case senario, of gentle tap loses effectiveness and becomes harder, resulting in, at best, over compensating guilt.

Does your ex stop the kids from fighting, then hits them?

 

[Seagull64]

 

[clippedgull]

I don't have kids but work with them and so ofcourse I wouldn't smack them. I find the most effective thing at getting their attention/disciplining them is a GOOD HARD STARE.

You should become a Withdean steward!

Smacking if required, nothing wrong with that. As long as the parent doesn't cross the line and beat the child.

 

[Seagull64]

 

[beorhthelm]

if you rule it out completely, you lose part of your authority and ability to decide what is best for a given situation.

 

[Return of the Rev]

nearly 50

What kind of a **** smacks a kid

lots of different types of people smack there kids about time we had the right to smack anyone under 18 the little gits!

 

[Return of the Rev]

lots of different types of people smack there kids about time we had the right to smack anyone under 18 the little gits!

getting a bit awkward now little rev over 6ft 3in and growing use a stick on him

 

[SULLY COULDNT SHOOT]

Thıs is a tough one. I have a four year old who is as stubborn as a mule. The good thing is she knows right from wrong and will always, eventually say sorry but we will have screaming fits and stubbornness that will not stop for hours. I have only tapped my daughter so far on the hand or the legs if she hits me first in a tantrum . This is now very rare.

But there are times when the THREAT has been necessary.

If you have kids you know that there are times, for example in the morning when you have to get to work and school where you cant send them to the room and you cant leave them at home and no normal threat works but you have to leave. I think here there is no option for the physical. Not necessarily smacking them but making them understand physically (because with a stubborn tantrum noise doesnt work) that the line has been croseed.I had this this morning and we went from a massive tantrum to cuddling and apologies in five minutes after the threat of a smack.

It wont work always and I hate acting the hard discipline dad (because it is an act) but it does depend on the child youve got.

This does not mean I condone corporal punishment. It has to e used rarely and not with the inetntion of hurting or marking...more as a shock tactic.

My wife hates it but understadns it because it allows her to play good cop.