Being in your 40s

[symyjym]

Thread is 4 years too late for me.
But when I woke up on my 40th birthday the belt on my trousers no longer fitted the way it always used to, it drooped down at the front when it was nice and flat the night before.

So the only way you can see your penis now is when you look in the mirror?

 

[looney]

I'm 28 in a couple of months, what's your advice for life?

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Dont read GQ or any other lifestyle magazine or supplement, especially anything thats leftish as they have a tendency to want to equalise the vanity levels between the sexes or proove they already are, ie ramp up male insecurity.

That will help prevent you turning into a narcissistic and neurotic 40ish desperately grasping for any titbit of information that pads your slow psychological collapse or acts as a faux crutch to your conditioned insecurity.

Just say **** it, and keep going for it till you get to the dirt nap the same way you came into this world. Kicking and screaming and covered in blood.

 

[Peter Grummit]

I'm 28 in a couple of months, what's your advice for life?

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Really? Always had you down as a 50-something!

PG

 

[knocky1]

I think I would be right to say that there are a fair few of us aged between 40-49 on the board who have grown up with it.

My mum always said her favourite decade was her 40s and supposedly life begins at 40. Yet I can't help feeling it absolutely blows.

More people you know start to die than get married or have kids. Bits stop working, injury happens more often and every tingle reminds you that you're not immortal (which you were in your 20s as everyone knows). You have to watch your weight, take pills and shop much ,more carefully for clothes that say neither "hipster dick" nor "tweedy old man". You can no longer run that 13 second 100 metres yet your stupid brain insists that you can and that you achieved that time regularly in the past.

Everyone shouts at you. You piss people off all the time. You've either taken on too much at work in an effort to once and for all nail that career or you're stuck in a dead end existence being mocked by 25 year old graduates. You may well have kids and if you do they definitely shout at you because they will be older than babies and (probably) younger than 20. If you don't have kids you may have a partner who resents you for it by now. Or a partner starting the menopause. Or one having a mid life crisis. Or all of the above.

At least you probably have enough money to treat this stress with red wine or beer but, if you do, you will put on 5 stone just opening the bottle, If you don't have enough for booze you will feel a failure.

Or is this just me?

Does it get any better in your 50s? .

My recent rheumatoid arthritis flare up,which should be gone in a few weeks, reminds me that I lost 3 years of youth from 29 to 32 years old with ankoloysis spondylitis rheumatoid arthritis. Happy to be late 50's with outbreaks only occurring every 5-10 years now. Shame one is happening now but I still walked up Pic D'Anie 2,500m in the Pyrenees yesterday even if I can't walk to the shower block today! Friendly French bloke opposite and his short plump wife in their mid 60's came back today and unpacked a rucksack with 80m rope and all the climbing gear. Asked what they had been up to and it was climbing a 500m vertical rock face.
C'est la vie not the age.
Good luck with your **** of a knee injury. You have to sit it out.

 

[Igzilla]

I think I would be right to say that there are a fair few of us aged between 40-49 on the board who have grown up with it.

My mum always said her favourite decade was her 40s and supposedly life begins at 40. Yet I can't help feeling it absolutely blows.

More people you know start to die than get married or have kids. Bits stop working, injury happens more often and every tingle reminds you that you're not immortal (which you were in your 20s as everyone knows). You have to watch your weight, take pills and shop much ,more carefully for clothes that say neither "hipster dick" nor "tweedy old man". You can no longer run that 13 second 100 metres yet your stupid brain insists that you can and that you achieved that time regularly in the past.

Everyone shouts at you. You piss people off all the time. You've either taken on too much at work in an effort to once and for all nail that career or you're stuck in a dead end existence being mocked by 25 year old graduates. You may well have kids and if you do they definitely shout at you because they will be older than babies and (probably) younger than 20. If you don't have kids you may have a partner who resents you for it by now. Or a partner starting the menopause. Or one having a mid life crisis. Or all of the above.

At least you probably have enough money to treat this stress with red wine or beer but, if you do, you will put on 5 stone just opening the bottle, If you don't have enough for booze you will feel a failure.

Or is this just me?

Does it get any better in your 50s? .

Yup, but hopefully it's all good practice for the 50's as the shouting will diminish along with one's hearing...

 

[GoldWithFalmer]

I am 43 and have an 8 week old little girl,we have decided (me and the good lady) to have one last crack at parenthood.......I sometimes think i am crazy to to start again so late,have an 18 year old daughter and to be honest we never really wanted any more when she was younger..

BUT......i work long hours and am in a physical job so i keep fairly fit and to be honest i see our new "little lady" as the thing that will hopefully keep me young (she has been like a breath of fresh air to be honest) in mind and spirit..

Some of my best mates (of a similar age) have not even had children and time really is running out for them.
We planned our daughter and so far everything is absolutely perfect as far as health goes for her,we conceived her naturally and that's no mean feat as my partner is 41 so the odds were against us,especially as we had 12 months earlier had a little boy "Freddie" miss carried at 9 weeks....

Family is important and although part of me thinks we both "could" be enjoying ourselves,the biggest part of me says we are will and will be.

I would have been happy with my "lot" turning this age anyway,but having a new addition really has popped the icing on the cake..

(let's see how things progress when she is a teenager,eh?) seriously though,the family,especially Dad's side,have gone on to a good age..

An aunt,sadly recently passed away aged 107.

 

[Gwylan]

I am 43 and have an 8 week old little girl,we have decided (me and the good lady) to have one last crack at parenthood....

I didn't become a father until I was 49 - kids keep me young, I reckon.

I'm 60 in two months time and I generally feel pretty good. I'm happier now that I was in my 40s - certainly in my early 40s as I was in a relationship that was going nowhere and living too far away from Brighton. I'm still pretty healthy for my age, have a wonderful wife and kids and live 20 minutes from the Amex. What's not to like?

 

[Carrot Cruncher]

I think I would be right to say that there are a fair few of us aged between 40-49 on the board who have grown up with it.

My mum always said her favourite decade was her 40s and supposedly life begins at 40. Yet I can't help feeling it absolutely blows.

More people you know start to die than get married or have kids. Bits stop working, injury happens more often and every tingle reminds you that you're not immortal (which you were in your 20s as everyone knows). You have to watch your weight, take pills and shop much ,more carefully for clothes that say neither "hipster dick" nor "tweedy old man". You can no longer run that 13 second 100 metres yet your stupid brain insists that you can and that you achieved that time regularly in the past.

Everyone shouts at you. You piss people off all the time. You've either taken on too much at work in an effort to once and for all nail that career or you're stuck in a dead end existence being mocked by 25 year old graduates. You may well have kids and if you do they definitely shout at you because they will be older than babies and (probably) younger than 20. If you don't have kids you may have a partner who resents you for it by now. Or a partner starting the menopause. Or one having a mid life crisis. Or all of the above.

At least you probably have enough money to treat this stress with red wine or beer but, if you do, you will put on 5 stone just opening the bottle, If you don't have enough for booze you will feel a failure.

Or is this just me?

Does it get any better in your 50s? .

Being a week into my 40s, this thread has cheered me up no end...

Thanks...

 

[GoldWithFalmer]

I didn't become a father until I was 49 - kids keep me young, I reckon.

I'm 60 in two months time and I generally feel pretty good. I'm happier now that I was in my 40s - certainly in my early 40s as I was in a relationship that was going nowhere and living too far away from Brighton. I'm still pretty healthy for my age, have a wonderful wife and kids and live 20 minutes from the Amex. What's not to like?

Brilliant,Amazing!! i am pleased to hear there are a few older than me(just kidding) and i think your right they do,thankfully having an 18 year old means i can keep a pace with the chat the young mums may throw my way,pleased it's working for you..

 

[GT49er]

Being in your 40s

Yeh? Well you've just described being in your 60s quite accurately......

 

[Cheshire Cat]

40's?

Kids.

 

[GoldWithFalmer]

40's?

Kids.

We are all mad around here you know

 

[Guinness Boy]

Good luck with your **** of a knee injury. You have to sit it out.

Thanks mate. Hope the arthritis clears up too, though it sounds like you're having a good time anyway. Going on holiday in September again. That's what I have to look forward to in my fifties. Every cloud.

 

[Guinness Boy]

Yeh? Well you've just described being in your 60s quite accurately......

Joy!

 

[Beach Hut]

53 this year and people are dying at my age I know, still if I can hold out just over two years I can retire.

 

[Albion my Albion]

Or is this just me?

Does it get any better in your 50s? .

No, the physical problems and health issues get worse. Although nobody expects "the old man" to be as skilled as he used to be.

 

[Albion my Albion]

So the only way you can see your penis now is when you look in the mirror?

Why do people need to look at their penis except to pee? Unless you injured it or something. You've seen it plenty of times already.

 

[SUA Seagull]

Does it get any better in your 50s? .

For me, yes. I’m 58 now, have my health, my family have their health, kid’s now grown up and doing okay. I’m thankful for that every day. Work’s okay (I started my own firm 3 years ago after slaving for others for 35 years). Main focus as I get older is maintaining good health. I’m much fitter now than I was in my 40s due to dietary moderation and reasonable exercise regime. A lot of getting old is about mindset. Think and behave young and others will accept you positively for the way you are. The reverse is true if you come across as a curmudgeonly old git, so beware! Growing old is fine, as long as you and yours are healthy and you keep the brain occupied. My biggest stress levels by far nowadays result from watching the Albion dominate a game with 70% possession, 28 shots, only 3 on target, and be 1-0 up with 10 minutes to play instead of 3 or 4 ahead. Now that definitely generates a few grey hairs and the need for a nerve calming, post-match pint (…or two..)!

 

[Cadiz Seagull]

I think I would be right to say that there are a fair few of us aged between 40-49 on the board who have grown up with it.

My mum always said her favourite decade was her 40s and supposedly life begins at 40. Yet I can't help feeling it absolutely blows.

More people you know start to die than get married or have kids. Bits stop working, injury happens more often and every tingle reminds you that you're not immortal (which you were in your 20s as everyone knows). You have to watch your weight, take pills and shop much ,more carefully for clothes that say neither "hipster dick" nor "tweedy old man". You can no longer run that 13 second 100 metres yet your stupid brain insists that you can and that you achieved that time regularly in the past.

Everyone shouts at you. You piss people off all the time. You've either taken on too much at work in an effort to once and for all nail that career or you're stuck in a dead end existence being mocked by 25 year old graduates. You may well have kids and if you do they definitely shout at you because they will be older than babies and (probably) younger than 20. If you don't have kids you may have a partner who resents you for it by now. Or a partner starting the menopause. Or one having a mid life crisis. Or all of the above.

At least you probably have enough money to treat this stress with red wine or beer but, if you do, you will put on 5 stone just opening the bottle, If you don't have enough for booze you will feel a failure.

Or is this just me?

Does it get any better in your 50s? .

Shit ! Why didn't you tell me this 30 years ago ?

 

[Chicken Run]

I've just turned 48, it's fine.

And I turned 47 last Monday and am in Marbs getting down with th kids to celebrate! Tucked up in bed every night b4 11