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[Politics] How do you deal with people obsessed with political views?







HeaviestTed

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I’ve got a couple of friends who are a bit like this but I just say I’m staying out of politics, it works eventually.

The person is probably bored and spending most of their time watching news channels - suggest that they take up a hobby or do some charity work instead.
 






Greg Bobkin

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May 22, 2012
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Simply yell them you don't want to talk about politics. If they don't respect that, then be more firm until it reaches the point where you don't interact with them at all. Family or not, no-one is worth that level of hassle!

Or excuse yourself from the situation by saying you're off to 'do your own research'.
 






Half Time Pies

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Sep 7, 2003
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Need a bit of help here. I’ve got family members who seem to turn everything in to politics. Just general, easy going conversations within minutes turn in to a comment that supports their political view. It’s usually opinion based with no evidence. Their obsession is getting on my nerves. I really don’t look forward to visits. My wife goes along with it much easier than me. If they weren’t family i’d be tempted to put on ignore or may be they should be put on ignore for my own mental health?
It's a tough one, we have a conspiracy theorist in our family. 10 mins in his presence and he's shoehorned in something about Blackrock, vaccines and lockdowns and things get more ridiculous the more he has to drink. I never know how to handle it, my instinct is to challenge him but then I can end up getting drawn in to a discussion about whether the moon is hollow or not!
 


dsr-burnley

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Aug 15, 2014
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Make it a game. On "I'm Sorry I Haven't a Clue" there is a game where each player tries to get to their own punchline by picking up the threads of the other one's tale and twisting it their own way. Do that. Say something that bears only the vaguest relevance to what they just said, and turn the conversation your way.

If nothing else, it will get them as irritated as what they do, gets you!
 




bhafc99

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Oct 14, 2003
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Dubai
It's a tough one, we have a conspiracy theorist in our family. 10 mins in his presence and he's shoehorned in something about Blackrock, vaccines and lockdowns and things get more ridiculous the more he has to drink. I never know how to handle it, my instinct is to challenge him but then I can end up getting drawn in to a discussion about whether the moon is hollow or not!
You could have real fun with this. For every looney tinfoil hat topic he launches into, come up with something even more ridiculous and blatantly nonsense, then act surprised and aggrieved if he questions it. And just keep at it, don’t let up or admit you’re playing a game - go all in.
 


dazzer6666

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Mar 27, 2013
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Need a bit of help here. I’ve got family members who seem to turn everything in to politics. Just general, easy going conversations within minutes turn in to a comment that supports their political view. It’s usually opinion based with no evidence. Their obsession is getting on my nerves. I really don’t look forward to visits. My wife goes along with it much easier than me. If they weren’t family i’d be tempted to put on ignore or may be they should be put on ignore for my own mental health?
Use the ‘ignore relative’ function. Well worth a fiver a month.
 


Hugo Rune

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Feb 23, 2012
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Need a bit of help here. I’ve got family members who seem to turn everything in to politics. Just general, easy going conversations within minutes turn in to a comment that supports their political view. It’s usually opinion based with no evidence. Their obsession is getting on my nerves. I really don’t look forward to visits. My wife goes along with it much easier than me. If they weren’t family i’d be tempted to put on ignore or may be they should be put on ignore for my own mental health?
All families are different. I’d just try and be proactive about steering the narrative away from politics although if you are talking about current affairs, it can be tough.

I wonder if your family members are posting the same about you on some politics forum?

“Need a bit of help here. I’ve got family members who seem to turn everything in to football.”

Also, it could be worse, they could be bringing up other more difficult subjects……

“Need a bit of help here. I’ve got family members who seem to turn everything in to strictly come dancing.”

Or…….

“Need a bit of help here. I’ve got family members who seem to turn everything in to pornography.”
 




dazzer6666

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Mar 27, 2013
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All families are different. I’d just try and be proactive about steering the narrative away from politics although if you are talking about current affairs, it can be tough.

I wonder if your family members are posting the same about you on some politics forum?

“Need a bit of help here. I’ve got family members who seem to turn everything in to football.”

Also, it could be worse, they could be bringing up other more difficult subjects……

“Need a bit of help here. I’ve got family members who seem to turn everything in to strictly come dancing.”

Or…….

“Need a bit of help here. I’ve got family members who seem to turn everything in to pornography.”
No need to bring @El Presidente into this
 


bhafc99

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Oct 14, 2003
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Dubai
“Need a bit of help here. I’ve got family members who seem to turn everything in to pornography.”
Well, they can come again.
 






Guinness Boy

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Jul 23, 2003
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Ask “can you give me an example of that?” .
Keep asking it, talking over them if necessary, and even following them round the house.
They‘ll soon get the message.
I imagine this is exactly what the Today programme’s new presenter Emma Barnett is like at home.
 


Herr Tubthumper

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Jul 11, 2003
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The Fatherland
I’ll need to know which party they support before providing a response.
 


cheshunt seagull

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Jul 5, 2003
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If I can do it easily I change the subject. Next would be to say we'll have to agree to differ. I usually only engage if they start going on about vaccines and how we should eat nuts rather than have medicines as that nonsense can kill people.
 


The Clamp

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Jan 11, 2016
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My Stepfather had the extremely irritating habit of holding court and espousing his opinions at GREAT length, usually just a cliched load of nonsense he had repeated endlessly over the years. He would have his say and when anyone then tried to counter his ramblings he’d sigh and say “oh well, that’s it and all about it” and abruptly end the “conversation”. Having had his say and letting nobody else talk. Every single time. Without fail.

It got to the point where whenever he started I’d simply get up and leave the room.
 
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sussex_guy2k2

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Jun 6, 2014
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I’m really interested in politics and have always loved an informed political debate.

The problem I’ve found, particularly since Brexit, is that most people in this country can only think in extremes. “Ahhh, you’re a communist”, or “ahh, you’re a Nazi”.

I blame social media, in the main, and the fact that many will allow themselves to be blinded by fact, simply because they hold one prejudice or another.

So the best response generally, is to not get involved. I find that the only person who loses out when I do, is me.
 


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