Sirnormangall
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In this order:
1 Fire - Crazy World of Arthur Brown
2 Phoenix -Wishbone Ash
1 Fire - Crazy World of Arthur Brown
2 Phoenix -Wishbone Ash
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[Misc] Music for your wake …
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Wrong-Direction
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As the curtains closed, my mum had "Wish me luck as you wave me goodbye" (at her choice/insistence) recorded by Vera Lynn - she even got us to supply the handkerchiefs specially printed for the occasion - hilarious!! and appreciated and approved by all.
Miss you mum X
Fantastic!!
Tony Towner's Fridge
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Simple
Riders on the Storm (Long version)- The Doors
The End. - The Doors
Light my Fire (Long Version) -The Doors
TNBA
TTF
Riders on the Storm (Long version)- The Doors
The End. - The Doors
Light my Fire (Long Version) -The Doors
TNBA
TTF
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BluesRockDJ
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Who cares, you won't be there to check it's played ?
Is it PotG?
Thrifty non-licker
Whatever I might leave listed, my wife will play Ed Sheeran, Take That and Celine Dion to make her final point.
BluesRockDJ
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You'll probably be in the best place !
Doonhamer7
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My mum wants Highland Cathderal - so that will be no dry eyes event.
A mex eyecan
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oh yes I will ….
Tony Towner's Fridge
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meant to add one more
When the music's over (Long Version) -The Doors
That's guaranteed to test even the strongest bladder in the room and many will wish they had either never known me or come along
.Cancel my subscription to the resurrection!
TNBA
TTF
We all have "That" friend who thinks you would find it funny , just saying it is possible
herecomesaregular
We're in the pipe, 5 by 5
Rewriting my Will at the moment and have decided on a direct cremation and memorial service with my ashes present, the service itself must be somewhere close to nature (probably Clayton Hill) and well away from a church building or crematorium. Awful places imho and everyone I've ever spoken to hates the curtain closing bit. Interesting reading about the differences between memorial service and funeral (casket always present). I like the fact that it can be so much less stressful with direct cremation (much less of a rush to decide things and therefore less pressure, more time to grieve, and much less expense of course). I've also never met anyone who has chosen to visit someone lying in state or had an open coffin funeral so why bother and then again I've never visited a grave stone or known anyone do so, so I'm happy to have my ashes scattered in nature. A memorial service can have virtually the same structure, if wanted, as a funeral and still with me present in an urn rather than an expensive casket, so not much difference there. A funeral is more about paying respects and sombre while the memorial service can be more uplifting. Personally I'm never comfortable getting suited and booted so I also like that people can dress more casually if they wish to at a memorial.
Back on thread, I am having some issues with music though. I would like some singing but of course hymns are religious (I'm not, obviously) and there's no way of getting way from the fact that songs chosen for a funeral/memorial service can potentially ruin that song for people (I was thinking of a nice singalong to well known tunes Here Comes the Sun or Lean on Me, perhaps). Free bird and Dock of the Bay for example, when they pop on the radio I go straight back to remembering the service for my best friend who took her own life. Can't listen to them in full. Seems a bit unfair for dead-me to potentially taint living-others' favourite songs.
Then a lot of my favourite tunes, eg If I Should Fall Behind by Springsteen, Lets Straighten It Out by OV Wright aren't really suitable, lyric wise, I guess. Might choose a few more obscure songs I love written by famous artists, Tom Waits or Neil Young.
The rest of what I want (suggestions for family not a rigid thing, I want them to do what they feel best also) has been quite easy but the music I'm finding it surprisingly hard!
One reason also for doing this now (also prompted by a recent funeral and an upcoming one) is I'm hoping to give my wishes to mum and dad so they, for chrissake, give me some ideas what they might want! (being in their 80s) and to reduce some stress for me around that. My dad has always been a I dont care, do what you like type but this, frankly, annoys me a bit as a death and funeral can be very stressful, obviously, for the family or sometimes the one person who has to sort it all out.
probably have a reading from a snippet of kurt vonnegut about moments in time being permanent and that death is just one of those moments in time, the rest still remain.
apols for the long dull post..
Back on thread, I am having some issues with music though. I would like some singing but of course hymns are religious (I'm not, obviously) and there's no way of getting way from the fact that songs chosen for a funeral/memorial service can potentially ruin that song for people (I was thinking of a nice singalong to well known tunes Here Comes the Sun or Lean on Me, perhaps). Free bird and Dock of the Bay for example, when they pop on the radio I go straight back to remembering the service for my best friend who took her own life. Can't listen to them in full. Seems a bit unfair for dead-me to potentially taint living-others' favourite songs.
Then a lot of my favourite tunes, eg If I Should Fall Behind by Springsteen, Lets Straighten It Out by OV Wright aren't really suitable, lyric wise, I guess. Might choose a few more obscure songs I love written by famous artists, Tom Waits or Neil Young.
The rest of what I want (suggestions for family not a rigid thing, I want them to do what they feel best also) has been quite easy but the music I'm finding it surprisingly hard!
One reason also for doing this now (also prompted by a recent funeral and an upcoming one) is I'm hoping to give my wishes to mum and dad so they, for chrissake, give me some ideas what they might want! (being in their 80s) and to reduce some stress for me around that. My dad has always been a I dont care, do what you like type but this, frankly, annoys me a bit as a death and funeral can be very stressful, obviously, for the family or sometimes the one person who has to sort it all out.
probably have a reading from a snippet of kurt vonnegut about moments in time being permanent and that death is just one of those moments in time, the rest still remain.
apols for the long dull post..
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A mex eyecan
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Seems many of us in here are in a similar place.
choosing the songs is the hard part, and also agree with tainting them with emotion for the surviving friends and relatives. What I’ve done is to choose ones which have meant so much to me in my life, fortunately my taste in music is very different to my children’s etc that their not overly likely to ever listen to them again
herecomesaregular
We're in the pipe, 5 by 5
Good thread, mate.Seems many of us in here are in a similar place.
choosing the songs is the hard part, and also agree with tainting them with emotion for the surviving friends and relatives. What I’ve done is to choose ones which have meant so much to me in my life, fortunately my taste in music is very different to my children’s etc that their not overly likely to ever listen to them again
Pevenseagull
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- Jul 20, 2003
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I want My Bloody Valentine 'Loveless' played at such an earbleedingly loud volume that it causes an international incident.
the whole album
twice
the whole album
twice
I agree with all of this.
Especially Kurt Vonnegut reading.
I love his piece about not knowing what is the good news and what is the bad news in life. You can never tell until a situation plays all the way out. And that when he gets to the pearly gates the first thing he’s going to ask is
“Okay God! What was the good news and what was the bad news”?
Love it.
I’d like this read out at a memorial on the South Downs. Then they can all go to the pub.
At the funeral of a friend
He referred to the dates on the tombstone
From the beginning…to the end
He noted that first came the date of birth
And spoke the following date with tears,
But he said what mattered most of all
Was the dash between those years
For that dash represents all the time
That they spent alive on earth.
And now only those who loved them
Know what that little line is worth
For it matters not, how much we own,
The cars…the house…the cash.
What matters is how we live and love
And how we spend our dash.
So, think about this long and hard.
Are there things you’d like to change?
For you never know how much time is left
That can still be rearranged.
If we could just slow down enough
To consider what’s true and real
And always try to understand
The way other people feel.
And be less quick to anger
And show appreciation more
And love the people in our lives
Like we’ve never loved before.
If we treat each other with respect
And more often wear a smile,
Remembering this special dash
Might only last a little while
So, when your eulogy is being read
With your life’s actions to rehash…
Would you be proud of the things they say
About how you spent YOUR dash?
The Dash’ by Linda Ellis
I read of a man who stood to speakAt the funeral of a friend
He referred to the dates on the tombstone
From the beginning…to the end
He noted that first came the date of birth
And spoke the following date with tears,
But he said what mattered most of all
Was the dash between those years
For that dash represents all the time
That they spent alive on earth.
And now only those who loved them
Know what that little line is worth
For it matters not, how much we own,
The cars…the house…the cash.
What matters is how we live and love
And how we spend our dash.
So, think about this long and hard.
Are there things you’d like to change?
For you never know how much time is left
That can still be rearranged.
If we could just slow down enough
To consider what’s true and real
And always try to understand
The way other people feel.
And be less quick to anger
And show appreciation more
And love the people in our lives
Like we’ve never loved before.
If we treat each other with respect
And more often wear a smile,
Remembering this special dash
Might only last a little while
So, when your eulogy is being read
With your life’s actions to rehash…
Would you be proud of the things they say
About how you spent YOUR dash?
Pevenseagull
meh
- Jul 20, 2003
- 20,697
My favourite REM song finishes with a flourish
I'm not scared,I'm outta here
I'm not scared, I'm outta here
I'm not scared,I'm outta here
I'm not scared, I'm outta here
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herecomesaregular
We're in the pipe, 5 by 5
He does write beautifully (obviously) although I admit I've always struggled a bit "getting" this passage you refer to, it fries my simple brain
