Serious urgent question

[berkshire seagull]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Serious urgent question

Wot don't you have savings accounts?

Whats to save for live life day to day and spend it while you got it.

 

[US Seagull]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Serious urgent question

Whats to save for live life day to day and spend it while you got it.

Which then again brings up the question of what a 2 year old is going to do with 85 quid don't it?

 

[berkshire seagull]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Serious urgent question

Which then again brings up the question of what a 2 year old is going to do with 85 quid don't it?

Im sure that money would go in its savings account as thats what many parents do.

 

[Hiney]

A similar thing happened last year with our 14 year old. He stole £75 from his Grandad by taking his credit card and buying computer games from Amazon.

His Grandad notcied, told us and he got the most almighty bollocking, lost the use of his computer for 2 months and was told that if he ever did it again he couldn't go on a school trip he had been really looking forward to.

A month or so later he nicked £10 from my wallet.

He was pulled off the school trip but HE had to tell the school why he couldn't go and his computer was taken away for 3 months.

He has never done the same again.

I guess the moral of the story is that you have to hit them where it hurts most (the bollocks usually - not really) and deprive them of that thing.

Above all else, whatever punishment you decide on - don't back down. If you say he's grounded for a month - stick to it otherwise he wins.

 

[the full harris]

You should learn to read as i state clearly what people put into the jar and not what a 2 y.o did errrr.

You look stupid full stop you nonse

this was your post:
quote:
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Originally posted by US Seagull
Why does a 2 year old have 85 quid anyway?
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Its called savings you no what people stick in jars over time.



to be fair, you are saying that 2 year old's have £85 because of savings, therefore surely saying that 2 year old's save up money?


you thought that bensgrandad's name was ben, therefore presumably thinking sgrandad was his surname?

it is spelt nonCe.


i think you still look stupid on this one.

 

[Beach Hut]

I would suggest there is an outside peer pressure here.

£85 is a lot of money to steal. I would suggest firstly all money needs to kept secure and out of his way to stop the temptation.

The next step will be if there is a need then material goods will go but in the meantime keep questioning and questioning - kids will break at some point.

Try talking round the neighbourhood as well - nearly always someone knows something.

Go softly softly though, the kid could be under some severe outside pressure.

 

[berkshire seagull]

this was your post:
quote:
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Originally posted by US Seagull
Why does a 2 year old have 85 quid anyway?
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Its called savings you no what people stick in jars over time.



to be fair, you are saying that 2 year old's have £85 because of savings, therefore surely saying that 2 year old's save up money?


you thought that bensgrandad's name was ben, therefore presumably thinking sgrandad was his surname?

it is spelt nonCe.


i think you still look stupid on this one.

Not at all gay boy i stated people put money into that jar not a 2 year old,so how you do your homework is your prob.

Its very clear what i said full stop!!!

 

[the full harris]

to be fair though,

mr. sgrandad asked for sensible serious advice on his problem and you took the piss. is that good?

you call me gay as if it is an insult, what is wrong with being gay?

 

[fatboy]

you call me gay as if it is an insult, what is wrong with being gay?

:safeway2:

 

[berkshire seagull]

to be fair though,

mr. sgrandad asked for sensible serious advice on his problem and you took the piss. is that good?

you call me gay as if it is an insult, what is wrong with being gay?

Was it adam and eve or adam and adam??

You seem to like gays anyway mmmmmmmm

 

[berkshire seagull]

to be fair though,

mr. sgrandad asked for sensible serious advice on his problem and you took the piss. is that good?

you call me gay as if it is an insult, what is wrong with being gay?

Also its a site not a mothers meeting,so surely you don't need to come to nsc for family advice if so use pm's

 

[the full harris]

Also its a site not a mothers meeting,so surely you don't need to come to nsc for family advice if so use pm's

why don't you just ignore that thread then?



what gives you the impression i like gays?

 

[berkshire seagull]

why don't you just ignore that thread then?



what gives you the impression i like gays?

Why ignore the thread and don't you realise that the net is for fun and games??

Do i get personal
I get personal with friends and family and totty grrrrrr not an internet site.The only thing against me is that i have met to many people from here and bought to many beers for em.

You did say nobber on the other thread thats rather a gay word,so are you coming out of the closet grrrrrr

 

[BensGrandad]

I am sorry if anybody was offended by my request for advice but I didn't know what to say to his mother and hoped that somebodyon here may have experienced a similar situation and had either overcome it or been given advice as to who to consult.

It is also possible that there may have been somebody here who specialises in this type of thing for a living who would give some advice possibly a school teacher, social worker or similar. To those who gave advice once again thank you and shall we call the subject closed.

 

[kevinsmith]

Had the same thing with my daughter when she was younger. We had a very friendly neighbourhood policeman who came round and explained what she had done was wrong.

Along with grounding her for a month the little chat worked.

 

[the full harris]

You did say nobber on the other thread thats rather a gay word,so are you coming out of the closet grrrrrr

yes, ok, i admit it, i am bent as nine bob note, a complete poofter.

 

[Crouch End Seagull]

I went through a nicking phase – from shops, friends, family. It didn't last long. I did it to fund my record buying habit. It ended when I got a paper round and a job after school.
In today's consumerist age you are what you own - even among 12 year olds so there's an incredible pressure on them. That said what he did was wrong but I bet he's not a bad kid. I suspect it is more about needing money to buy crap trainers than the thrill of stealing (if it is the thrill of stealing it's more serious). His thought process was probably that a 2 year old doesn't need 85 quid in a savings jar.
my kids are alot younger so i can't really offer any disciplining advice, if he's an albion fan i'd promise him a match ticket if he can stay on the straight and narrow. if not the match ticket could serve as a punishment too.

 

[London Irish]

Yeah, tough one, good luck, got this to look forward to!

Another line of enquiry is to check who the lad's best mates are and make some kind of contact with their parents to see if they are having similar problems, or possibly have heard something relevant about the lad through their own sons.

 

[the full harris]

I am sorry if anybody was offended by my request for advice but I didn't know what to say to his mother and hoped that somebodyon here may have experienced a similar situation and had either overcome it or been given advice as to who to consult.

It is also possible that there may have been somebody here who specialises in this type of thing for a living who would give some advice possibly a school teacher, social worker or similar. To those who gave advice once again thank you and shall we call the subject closed.

I think it was a good idea to ask nsc, you never know who could be reading. They might have the answer.