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BadFish

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Oct 19, 2003
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Yes I do and that is my choice so do not preach to me. I used to play cowboys and indians when I was younger, I also used to watch horror films. My son can tell the difference between something that is not real and something that is. What exactly is you're problem? is it the fake blood? the people getting killed? which he can see on tv and in most action films anyway

You let him watch violent action films and TV as well???

Still I expect he has a porn break every 20 minutes.

you really don't see any issues with desensitizing your child to violent images at such a young age? You really should learn a little more about the way children's brains work, you might find this will change your mind.

This is part of the abstract from a review of scientific literature linked to below. But any teacher (including this one) or child psychology expert will tell you that exposing your boy to this kind of stuff at such a young age is playing with fire.

The one consistent finding is that the majority of the studies on very young children—as opposed to those in their teens upwards—tend to show that children do become more aggressive after either playing or watching a violent video game.

http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S1359178997000554
 
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EDS

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Nov 11, 2012
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You let him watch violent action films and TV as well???

Yes I am the original bad parent. When people comment on how well behaved my children are and their politeness I think if only they knew.

I let him watch most tv/films within reason, if he he see's someone get punched on tv he does not then go and punch someone else, but who knows he may have been taught gow to behave not just by not watching the right tv.
 


BadFish

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Oct 19, 2003
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Yes I am the original bad parent. When people comment on how well behaved my children are and their politeness I think if only they knew.

I let him watch most tv/films within reason, if he he see's someone get punched on tv he does not then go and punch someone else, but who knows he may have been taught gow to behave not just by not watching the right tv.

Hate to tell you mate, but yes this is shocking parenting.

The developing mind of a child is an amazing thing, constantly absorbing and learning from it's envronment. What is he learning from COD? I wouldn't be expecting the effects of what it is processing to be immediately noticeable it could effect him or influence him any time throughout his life. I could be wrong, science could be wrong, psychologists could be wrong......but why the hell would you risk it?
 
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Buzzer

Languidly Clinical
Oct 1, 2006
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Putting all football to one side, what you're doing is not right. Kids grow up too quickly nowadays at least let the poor blighter have some innocence and wonder.

You owe it to that child to protect it from things like CoD. Jesus wept. I'm genuinely shocked. That's just so sad. Have a re-think eh?
 


Triggaaar

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Oct 24, 2005
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Yes I do and that is my choice so do not preach to me.
I'll preach to whom I like thanks.

I used to play cowboys and indians when I was younger, I also used to watch horror films.
You watched horror films when you were 5? So shit parenting runs in the family then.

What exactly is you're problem? is it the fake blood? the people getting killed? which he can see on tv and in most action films anyway
So he watches violence in films too. Brilliant. Children aren't as good at distinguishing between real life and pretend as adults are. Adults also understand how violent and horrible the real world can be, and most of us want to protect our children from the truth until their cognitive skills are developed enough to cope with reality. Presumably your son doesn't believe in father Christmas, because he can tell fiction from reality. And he also understands all the details of how he was conceived.

Yes I am the original bad parent.
I think we can hand that title to your parents.

When people comment on how well behaved my children are and their politeness I think if only they knew.
If only they knew what - what day it was?

I let him watch most tv/films within reason, if he he see's someone get punched on tv he does not then go and punch someone else, but who knows he may have been taught gow to behave not just by not watching the right tv.
He's probably frightened what you'll do to him if he steps out of line.

EDIT - PS, I'm ripping into you because I feel like it, but there are some more polite posts above, from people genuinely concerned and hoping to help you. You really should take their advice, and re-think your strategy. But since I'm confident you're not capable of that, I'm not going to bother trying to help you, I'll just mock you instead.
 
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Creaky

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Mar 26, 2013
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Hate to tell you mate, but yes this is shocking parenting.

The developing mind of a child is an amazing thing, constantly absorbing and learning from it's envronment. What is he learning from COD? I wouldn't be expecting the effects of what it is processing to be immediately noticeable it could effect him or influence him any time throughout his life. I could be wrong, science could be wrong, psychologists could be wrong......but why the hell would you risk it?



I agree but try telling that to those who take young children into the North Stand
 


Yes I do and that is my choice so do not preach to me. I used to play cowboys and indians when I was younger, I also used to watch horror films. My son can tell the difference between something that is not real and something that is. What exactly is you're problem? is it the fake blood? the people getting killed? which he can see on tv and in most action films anyway

Seems you need to rename yourself Eaglesdestroyeaglets. What a moron.:ffsparr:
 


Acker79

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Nov 15, 2008
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I watched nightmare on elm street when I was seven. Terrified me, gave me nightmares, but my parents explained it was a film, and Freddie was a guy in a mask, and the blood wasn't real, etc.

Did no lasting damage, because it's about balance. Let a five year old play a violent video game and it will affect him, if you don't back it up with attentive parenting. And that attentive parenting after/alongside such exposure can be better, in my experience, than hiding the bad stuff away.

It's like those who think nothing of letting their kids drink beer at home, or whatever because they are controlling it and showing the kid moderation etc.
 




Guinness Boy

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Yes I do and that is my choice so do not preach to me. I used to play cowboys and indians when I was younger, I also used to watch horror films. My son can tell the difference between something that is not real and something that is. What exactly is you're problem? is it the fake blood? the people getting killed? which he can see on tv and in most action films anyway

Jesus.

No he really can't tell the difference between what is real and what is not. Not properly. Nor can he properly understand the concept of death or why horror is "fun".

Promise me you'll never move to Texas eh?
 


BadFish

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Oct 19, 2003
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I watched nightmare on elm street when I was seven. Terrified me, gave me nightmares, but my parents explained it was a film, and Freddie was a guy in a mask, and the blood wasn't real, etc.

Did no lasting damage, because it's about balance. Let a five year old play a violent video game and it will affect him, if you don't back it up with attentive parenting. And that attentive parenting after/alongside such exposure can be better, in my experience, than hiding the bad stuff away.

It's like those who think nothing of letting their kids drink beer at home, or whatever because they are controlling it and showing the kid moderation etc.

I can't understand for a second why anyone would take this risk with their child. There is plenty of time in your life for playing violent games and watching violent movies, what does a 5 year old get out of it?

One thing I do know is that there is nothing that would convince me to gamble with the mental health of my kids by exposing them to this kind of stuff.
 


EDS

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Nov 11, 2012
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There is a difference between something like superman and saw, superman he can watch saw he cannot. They do not watch horror films but some of you lot would class ghostbusters as a horror film.
My son believes in father christmas but not in ghosts, he believes that cod is just a game but violence in real life is not allowed, whereas my twelve year old knows he can only hit if he is hit. They know that swearing is wrong so even though they may hear it they do not go around saying it. My children are shielded feom many things but computer games are not one of them.

Both are very well rounded and the five year old is actually further advanced than he should be, certainly for his age.

You can all look down youre noses but the opinions are worthless to me. Actions speak louder than words amd my kids are doing fine thanks, lets face it most of you are jumping on a bandwagon as most of you cannot think for yourselves.

As for the way I was raised, well I turned out fine.
 




EDS

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Seems you need to rename yourself Eaglesdestroyeaglets. What a moron.:ffsparr:

No you are right, oh how I wish I could get some pointers from your parents as the way you turned out is a prime example Of what I wish for my children. A numbnuts who gets off on attendances, youre parents must be proud
 


Buzzer

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Oct 1, 2006
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lets face it most of you are jumping on a bandwagon as most of you cannot think for yourselves..

In all seriousness, I'm not. Please don't let your 5 year old play CoD.

Tell you what - I've got a copy of Little Big Planet on PS3 that my kids don't play anymore. You can have that for free for your 5 year old if you like. I've never met a child that doesn't love that game. PM me if you're interested and I can post it to wherever you like for you to pick up.
 






BadFish

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Oct 19, 2003
18,194
There is a difference between something like superman and saw, superman he can watch saw he cannot. They do not watch horror films but some of you lot would class ghostbusters as a horror film.
My son believes in father christmas but not in ghosts, he believes that cod is just a game but violence in real life is not allowed, whereas my twelve year old knows he can only hit if he is hit. They know that swearing is wrong so even though they may hear it they do not go around saying it. My children are shielded feom many things but computer games are not one of them.

Both are very well rounded and the five year old is actually further advanced than he should be, certainly for his age.

You can all look down youre noses but the opinions are worthless to me. Actions speak louder than words amd my kids are doing fine thanks, lets face it most of you are jumping on a bandwagon as most of you cannot think for yourselves.

As for the way I was raised, well I turned out fine.

Well I hope you are right, but with all the other games and activities out there for 5 year olds I can't understand why you would ignore all the evidence studies and research and assume that everything will be okay. My opinion as a professional educator is that it simply isn't worth the risk of the damage that could be done.
 


Se20

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Oct 3, 2012
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In all seriousness, I'm not. Please don't let your 5 year old play CoD.

Tell you what - I've got a copy of Little Big Planet on PS3 that my kids don't play anymore. You can have that for free for your 5 year old if you like. I've never met a child that doesn't love that game. PM me if you're interested and I can post it to wherever you like for you to pick up.

Don't fall for it Eaglesdestroyseaweed, this geezer is in the Littlehampton Transit Firm, you have been warned.
 


Guinness Boy

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Jul 23, 2003
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Well I hope you are right, but with all the other games and activities out there for 5 year olds I can't understand why you would ignore all the evidence studies and research and assume that everything will be okay. My opinion as a professional educator is that it simply isn't worth the risk of the damage that could be done.

Actually it could be worse.

He could take the 5 year old to Selhurst.

Ba dam tish.
 


Soulman

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Oct 22, 2012
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There is a difference between something like superman and saw, superman he can watch saw he cannot. They do not watch horror films but some of you lot would class ghostbusters as a horror film.
My son believes in father christmas but not in ghosts, he believes that cod is just a game but violence in real life is not allowed, whereas my twelve year old knows he can only hit if he is hit. They know that swearing is wrong so even though they may hear it they do not go around saying it. My children are shielded feom many things but computer games are not one of them.

Both are very well rounded and the five year old is actually further advanced than he should be, certainly for his age.

You can all look down youre noses but the opinions are worthless to me. Actions speak louder than words amd my kids are doing fine thanks, lets face it most of you are jumping on a bandwagon as most of you cannot think for yourselves.

As for the way I was raised, well I turned out fine.

Best to give the young lad a drum to bang.....could come in handy in a few years time.
 




EDS

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Nov 11, 2012
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In all seriousness, I'm not. Please don't let your 5 year old play CoD.

Tell you what - I've got a copy of Little Big Planet on PS3 that my kids don't play anymore. You can have that for free for your 5 year old if you like. I've never met a child that doesn't love that game. PM me if you're interested and I can post it to wherever you like for you to pick up.

Call of duty is a war game, little boys play war. The new way is just more advanced than running around with a plastic gun pretending to shoot people and falling down if we had been shot.

He has both little big planets, in fact they have to many bloody games, well over fifty. I am sure at christmas I will also be buying the new console that is coming out so I can damage them a little more.

You're children I am sure have never heard a swearword, never seen a fight(tv), someone get killed(tv) and are generally kept in a bubble. I would love the idyllic countryside lifestyle but South London is not like that and they are not only taught respect and discipline but also about life.
My sons school may agree with you about the COD but they are the same people who wanted to teach him heterosexual and homosexual sex education, I know what I think is more confusing for a young mind.
 


EDS

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Nov 11, 2012
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You let him watch violent action films and TV as well???

Still I expect he has a porn break every 20 minutes.

you really don't see any issues with desensitizing your child to violent images at such a young age? You really should learn a little more about the way children's brains work, you might find this will change your mind.

This is part of the abstract from a review of scientific literature linked to below. But any teacher (including this one) or child psychology expert will tell you that exposing your boy to this kind of stuff at such a young age is playing with fire.



http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S1359178997000554

What you have linked to is an out of date study(14 years old) that lets face it you have just plucked of the internet as quite frankly, teacher or not you know sweet F all. There was a study carried out less than a month ago that showed that there is no link between violence in video games and behaviour in children. No doubt you know mor ethan that Doctor. At the end of the day you may be an expert in educating children and maybe in a childs development, but as for the psychology stuff, you are going above you're pay grade and linking to out of date ideas. The same Dr has since said that video games are have educational benefits and that violent games MIGHT fuel aggression in children.
 


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