NSC Help Appreciated! Need an excuse to get out of attending my sister's wedding...

[Mowgli]

My sister has set her wedding date for Sat 27th March, when we are at home to Tranmere Rovers.
Bit complicated, basically we have the same dad but different mothers, our dad left her mum to be with mine and as a a product of him my sister's mum's family hate me.
I can't tell my sister, i don't want to spend £50 to go to Reading and sit in a church, and reception with 70 odd people who all hate me just because of who me dad is, it's not worth the hassle and arguments, yet i can't really say i would much rather watch Tranmere Rovers at home, need a happy medium!

If you so please.....

 

[wellquickwoody]

Do you and your sis get on? If so do the decent thing and go to the wedding, just have a couple of beers after then f**k off.

 

[Bluejuice]

Weddings are awesome though, no?

I've only ever been to one, I'd be grateful for the chance to go to every one I could. It's one of those great times when it's alright for EVERYONE to be completely pissed.

 

[Ninja Elephant]

It looks like all this Christmas food is going to have to give you a stomach upset and a case of the old two bob bits, my friend.

 

[Spun Cuppa]

I see your dilemma...

The choice of having a miserable afternoon, with a load of miserable people, with an even more miserable outcome!

Answer: Go to the wedding instead

 

[Simster]

Well I feel for you mate. Not an easy one, this. It sounds like you and your sis get on OK but you're not really close.

Nonetheless, I think your best bet is to go, have a few drinks, and maybe your sister's twatty people would get the chance to see you for who you are, and not judge you for it.

 

[porkypie]

If you get on with your sis mate, you will have to do the decent thing and go, f**K the other C***S!

 

[The Oldman]

Afraid you ought to support your sister not the Albion on that day..

 

[little al]

I'd tend to argree with wellquickwoody and porkypie on this one, although it is a toughie mate. She might want you there as a brother. You can't really let her down. IMHO obviously. Good luck in what you decide to do though.

 

[Mowgli]

I know i should and i want to. It's not a case of I'd rather be at the football that day ( although i did point out she is stupid for arranging a wedding in the football season grrr), just her mum's family never met, me, but completely dislike me and are very open about it and there is quite the bad element in some of them.
I want to be there for my sister, but the chance of them doing something that could ruin her big day are quite high if I'm there, especially once they have started drinking, and i really don't want her big day ruined.

 

[little al]

I know i should and i want to. It's not a case of I'd rather be at the football that day ( although i did point out she is stupid for arranging a wedding in the football season grrr), just her mum's family never met, me, but completely dislike me and are very open about it and there is quite the bad element in some of them.
I want to be there for my sister, but the chance of them doing something that could ruin her big day are quite high if I'm there, especially once they have started drinking, and i really don't want her big day ruined.

Then be there and piss off before the drinking starts, and ask her if you can bring a mate for a bit of (emotional not physical) backup so you are not isolated. Remember she will not be talking to you all the time, you need someone on your side to talk to.

 

[clapham_gull]

I would go, if you don't they will more of an excuse to dislike you which will cause you and your sister more grief in the future. Simply turn turn up to the ceremony then get out of there.

 

[ali jenkins]

This might be a stupid question but was your dad invited/ is he going?

If the answer is yes then you HAVE to go if only for his sake.

I agree with the go and leave afer a couple of drinks option.

 

[little al]

This might be a stupid question but was your dad invited/ is he going?

If the answer is yes then you HAVE to go if only for his sake.

Also very good advice.

 

[Mowgli]

This might be a stupid question but was your dad invited/ is he going?

If the answer is yes then you HAVE to go if only for his sake.

I agree with the go and leave afer a couple of drinks option.

Would cause a mini riot if he did, he walked out on my mum 10 years ago and haven't spoken to him since so not really welcome either way.

Thanks for the advice so far, thinking maybe go to just the ceremony part and then leave back for Brighton before her family start drinking / potentially cause trouble.

 

[Barry Izbak]

Then be there and piss off before the drinking starts, and ask her if you can bring a mate for a bit of (emotional not physical) backup so you are not isolated. Remember she will not be talking to you all the time, you need someone on your side to talk to.

How about we all go?
Could be more interesting than Tranmere? Is it all ticket?

Seriously though, talk to your sister.

 

[Brovion]

It sounds to me like you've already made up your mind ("need an excuse to get out of my sister's wedding") and now you just want validation.

Well, tough. As others have said you really should go. Sod the football. If your sister's family think you're a twat now they're going to think you're an even bigger twat for missing your sister's wedding for a low-grade, run-of-the-mill football match. Go, be polite to everybody, bite your tongue and claim the moral high ground. In years to come you'll be glad you did and also you'll be proud of yourself that you went into a possibly hostile enviroment for the sake of your sister and that you didn't wimp out.

 

[porkypie]

How about we all go?
Could be more interesting than Tranmere? Is it all ticket?

Seriously though, talk to your sister.

Is it all ticket! Pure class

 

[cannedheat]

Afraid you ought to support your sister not the Albion on that day..

Is the right answer.

 

[BensGrandad]

In your position I would politely decline the invitation and explain to her why ie not to encourage anything that could ruin her day. Alternatively go away for a week and miss both cos you are away on holiday.