This is a good question. I'm 44 and have spent my life listening to music and at various stages like you I have felt a little out-of-the-loop but I have always managed to find a way back in. I'm currently finding I'm not as connected to the electronic music scene as I used to be/want to be, so I'm pursuing ways to get more exposure to this. I span a lot of genres but my current armoury consists of...
Howard: I'm the genre-spanner.
Vince: You are a spanner.