sydney
tinky ****in winky
the phrase "unfortunately you have cancer".....the magnitude of which can not be conveyed to someone who has never had it said to them , it's like being smashed in the face and your bowels twisting simultaneously.The implication that private doctors are somehow better in their field than NHS ones is quite insulting. The only difference it's going to make if you go privately is that you might get your initial referrals a couple of weeks quicker. Once you have cancer, you have cancer: while I don't have the statistics, I'd be quietly confident that there isn't a massively enhanced survival rate amongst the wealthy compared to those using the NHS, simply because we haven't yet developed a cure for it. Once somebody tells you that either you or somebody you love has it, and that they can't cure you, it's the shittest of shit things, no matter who's paying the consultant.
The thing with many types of cancer is that you often don't know about it until symptoms arise, and then it can be too late, no matter how much you pay for your care. It can be lurking for years without you having a clue. My husband had kidney cancer had no symptoms whatsoever, until late 2020 when he developed a cough which lasted for a few weeks. Being quite run down, and in the middle of COVID, we didn't think too much of it, until he started having breathing difficulties on Christmas Day. I dropped him at hospital that morning, and by 2pm was informed that he had cancer which had already metastised to his lungs and lymph nodes. They said he could have six months or six years. He died less than four months later: I've never once imagined things would have been different if we'd had private healthcare, nor would I have felt any luckier or better about it if we had.
I'm sorry to hear about your husband EK , that is heartbreaking stuff.
my daughter is now 24 , one of her good friends at school , a beautiful girl who was looking at a modelling career and was a state netball player started forgetting her way when driving home then her hand writing went all weird , letters back to front and putting letters in stead of numbers , saw a neurologist , had an MRI , 90mm butterfly frontal tumour , inoperable , terminal , heartbreaking......sorry for your loss mate , cancer sucks.